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my social life went down the drain
During the school year, I started drifting away from my best friends. My main one (who I've known since I was 2) didn't have any classes with me and started becoming really close with my other best friend (who I had one class with). I thought it was ok because my other best friend and I were really close. Then it started seeming like they were the inseparable 3. The two that I normally sat with at lunch stopped showing up, so I started sitting with my 7th grade friends (I was in 8th grade). Despite all the fun I was having with them, I was still disappointed that my best friends didn't care enough to even try sitting with me. Eventually, this one girl was able to convince them to come sit with her (even though my best friend said that she didn't like her that much). My best friend started hanging out with other people and would barely acknowledge me when I was right beside her. It hurt, but it wasn't as bad when I was with my 7th grade friends. Then, I started hearing things about how people felt bad for me that nobody would talk to me except the 7th graders. Unfortunately, now I realize the matter. I'm about to be a freshman and I have no best friends in my grade. I would try to mend things with my best friends, but one of them is going to boarding school, the other I'm not as close with, and the other turned out to be a user, a crappy friend, and not a good overall person. What should I do?
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wow.. I was in the same position , my one best friend didn't have any classes with me and the other ones drifted away.. we barely keep in contact anymore... and you know what? I had no friends and I had to sit by myself because they just ditched me so many times, but in the end one or two asked to hang out.. we never actually did.Dont worry once highschool is done , trust me everything will work out and you will go out and meet new people , so don't worry about it. It leaves you the odd one out , the good one , so don't worry about it :) it iwll work out good for you , just patience
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There's absolutely nothing wrong with making new friends :) especially going into your freshman year!
I'm going to be a freshman too :) except in college haha. I only know 2 people going to my college and I don't have any classes with them either. But hey, we are in the same boat! This is our time to make new friendships :) Its not the end.. its only the beginning. We both have 4 more years of our school. This is the time when we start making REAL friends!
Don't be afraid to step out of your little bubble and meet some new people. Do activities YOU like to do, and you'll meet people that like the same thing. It gives you a thing in common and soon enough you'll have brand new friends :)
One more piece of advice- live in the moment. Don't look back at your past and think about the horrible experiences.. but don't look into the future and worry about that. Just live in the moment. Make new friends and just have fun :)
good luck and inbox me if you need any help.
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Your exfriends are horrible! High school is such a difficult place- possibly one of the hardest you will ever encounter. It doesn't sound like your friends are worth keeping. You could still be friendly but I wouldn't trust them very much.
Why don't you join a few in school/ out of school clubs to see if you could meet anyone with similar interests? Like a sports, art or music group. Maybe go to church or volunteer somewhere. Go to a fun summer camp where you can meet new people. I know there's a taboo with counsellors but I saw one and she was really helpful with my social problems. Also you could read "Queen bees and wannabes" by Rosalind wiseman. It's a really good book I'd recommend for every tween-teen girl and will probably have more helpful advice than any here.
If it's an option for you, you could even consider switching schools. I went to a school with only 100 girls in my grade and it was really isolating- my co-ed school with 400 people per grade was way better.
Now that you're about to be a freshman, I would seriously recommend thinking about university applications. I know it's reasonably far off but once you get there everything will depend on your high school achievements. Pursue your interests and studies and think about the sort of person you want to become. It really will matter and it's exciting! After these 4 years are over you will be leaving everyone behind and probably never see them again.
Hope things get better for you soon! xxx
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