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Hellp!!
My best friend got DUMPED by her boyfriend, for NO absolute reason, except for another girl of course. And her boyfriend cheated on her several times with another girl, and she knew it. I guess because it was her first boyfriend, it's hard to let go, so she let him. She didn't even confront him about it! I wanted to, but she didn't let me.
I knew from the start he was disloyal. Now this guy is asking her out again and I know why. It's because he wants to make another girl jealous. I tell her, and she says that I was making things up just because I wanted to go out with HIM.
Okay. I thought that was ridiculous. I HATE guys that play around with girls like their toys, and this guy is one of them. I don't know where she got that idea, but now we're not talking.
What am I supposed to do????
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Your friend is in denial, plain and simple. She probably thinks that her relationship will be saved if she just ignores every problem that happens to come up, which is false.
Leave her a little time to think; No longer than a few days. You can try to call her or send her a message (over e-mail or Myspace, if you have one) that explains your situation again. Let her know that you don't have feelings for her, and that you would never do anything like that to her. Tell her that you were looking out for her, and that this guy doesn't deserve her. Tell her that she deserves someone who will make her first, and stay faithful. Let her know that you'll always be there for her.
There isn't much else you can do because she's going to believe what she wants to. If she doesn't believe you, you can't do anything else but move on.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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If your friend isn't gonna listen, let her figure out for herself. It'll hit her eventually that he doesn't really love her & that he just used her to make someone else jealous. Honestly, it'll hurt her in the end, but that's her own fault for not listening to you. She'll thank you later. Just give her time. And if it takes not talking to her, then so be it. She'll come back telling you that you were right eventually.
♥T!NA
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if you want to salvage your friendship then the only thing that you can do to get back into her good graces is to tell her that you didn't mean to upset her, but that you were concerned for her because you know how difficult it has been for her... if she accepts your apology then make sure that you are a supportive friend, don't throw your two cents in, don't try to save her from her mistakes, but just be there for her when it inevitably all falls apart.. if she doesn't accept your apology then cut your loses, and be satified in the knowledge that your friendship ended because you cared so mucht that you didn't just stand by....
good luck!
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The best thing to do is to talk to her about it. But just don't get into the way when you get into a fight. Trust me I've seen that happen because of a guy and you don't want to lose a friend because of her love problems. She can choose what she wants to do but just watch him (but not to much) and make sure he isn't toying her around. Then get proof to her and she will probably will apoligize. Just tell her to be careful. I hope everything works out for you!
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