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There is this guy I like and I thought he seemed interested in me to but as I'm now realizing he talks to many other girls too. He calls and texts me a lot but I'm not the only one. Maybe I'm over reacting but I don't like that. I don't want to waste my time if he's just going after everyone. What would you do?

It seems to me that there are two options for you. Firstly, you could try ignoring him for a while. He'll miss talking to you and realize that he likes you. However, he could view this as you being immature instead of concerned. On the other hand, you could try having a rational and even-minded conversation with him. Tell him that you think you're starting to like him and see what he says. If he feels the same way, then talk to him about this problem. Don't' accuse him of anything or take a hostile tone with him, though. Just keep it cool and make sure your intentions are clear. Good luck.

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how do you know when a guys wants to kiss?

Coming from a guy's point of view, if he really likes you he probably wants to kiss you more often than you think. Guys get nervous about things like that when they really care about a girl and they sometimes need assurance that the girl feels just as strongly for them. Sometimes, if you think the timing is right and he's giving you signs, you just have to go for it. Guys like girls who aren't afraid of making a move. If you really think he wants to, just set aside your fears and go for it. I hope it works out. Good luck!

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Im 13 and my parents wont let me have a cell phone. They say its just because ill lose it. Is that completely unfair or completely fair?

My sister is about the same age and recently got a phone. She loses her phone all the time and has broken a number of them. Honestly, I've learned that young people sometimes can't handle the responsibility of owning and taking care of a cell phone. Sometimes it's better to just wait a while before taking on that responsibility. If you really believe that you are ready to take on this responsibility, have a rational and calm conversation with your parents about it and express to them your feelings about the entire thing. Good luck!

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One of my managers is in his low 20's, as am i. We both have sexual attractions towards one another and have discussed if we would sleep with each other. Has anyone every slept with their manager? Do you guys think it's a good idea if no one finds out? Thanks

Although work relationships are unpredictable, you should do what makes you happy. If it doesn't work out, he could fire you without any plausible reason. But if you're willing to risk that in order to pursue the relationship, then I say go for it. However, if your intentions are completely sexual rather than emotional, then I'd advise you to sustain a purely professional relationship with your manager. The effects of engaging in sexual activity with your boss can be extremely detrimental to your job status. Just consider every aspect of your situation carefully and thoroughly and make a decision that is based on your emotions as well as your rational thinking. Good luck!

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I love my boyfriend, but he is such a bigot! He believes blood is blue if de-oxygenated, global warming is a government conspiracy, racism is totally ok, and that dinosaurs never existed. I am a very scientifically inclined person; and I am appalled by his lack of general knowledge. How can I convince him of the truth?!?

Honestly, "convincing him of the truth" probably isn't the best idea. If you try to force your own viewpoints and opinions on him, he'll get offended and take a defensive tone with you, which can only cause more problems. Try to slowly and subtly introduce scientific ideology to him, but not forcefully. If he completely rejects your ideas, then you should either try to ignore the problem and focus on other parts of the relationship, or break up with him if you really just can't forget about it. Variances in intelligence levels and opinions can end relationships. It's unfortunate, but sometimes inevitable. Good luck with your situation; hope this helped!

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Okay, I know I should have respected his privacy, I feel bad about it, but I was just so curious! My older brother (I'm 14, he's 19- almost 20) is my best friend. We are super close, I love him more than anyone else in the world, and we tell each other everything-- EXCEPT things that involve our love lives (kissing and sexual stuff.) We never talk about that kind of thing because it would be too awkward. My brother is the nicest person in the world, and I would never have expected him to do some of these things... even though I guess he's old enough.

Anyway, my mom instructed me to read his texts if I got the chance while he was home from college, because she said that she should know what he's doing. He left his phone downstairs today, and to my horror, he and his girlfriend had been texting about how he "made her underwear wet and sticky" and how much she loved his "crisp, hard dick." Ahhhhh!!! I was actually horrified. I did not mention these texts to my parents or brother, nor do I intend to, but I am honestly emotionally scarred. I can't look at my brother the same way. I mean, I know people his age do stuff like that, he doesn't know what I've done with my boyfriend ( nothing like that!) but still. I'm just having a hard time coping with this. He's the sweetest, most innocent kid. I don't exactly know what advice I want... just something that will hopefully make me feel less disgusted and traumatized. Haha. I don't know how far this means they've gone... Ugh.

I completely understand how you must be feeling. You've always seen your brother as being completely innocent and never imagined he would talk like that. But he is old enough to make his own decisions and define the course of his own life. Although you may not approve of it, there's nothing you can do to change it unfortunately. You'll understand better as you mature and start experiencing similar circumstances. Just try to forget about it and see him the way you used to. But if you just can't forget it no matter how hard you try, the only other option would be to talk to him about it. Tell him what happened and apologize for invading his privacy. Express to him how you feel about what you read and how you're uncomfortable with him after what happened. Surely he'll understand as long as you don't take an accusatory and disgusted tone. Another point though, your mom should have never asked you to violate your brother's privacy like that. I'm sure she had good intentions, but she needs to learn that her son is grown up now and has to make his own decisions. The sooner she accepts that, the better. And the next time she asks you to do something like that, you should tell her that. Tell her with a respectful and understanding tone though, not a reprimanding one. I hope this helps and I hope your situation improves as quickly as possible!

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