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Q: I have this swimming party on July 24. I weigh 147, 5'1, so im chunkey, or "fat". Well, I want a flat tummy. I will feel way much better. You know. Well this is what i have to loose weight, (my idea)

100 crunches, 100 calf phrases with 10 ilb. weights. go up by 5 every day.

eat only grilled chicken & fish. Salad, fruit, and drink water ONLY. Walk 15 minuetes after every meal. Smaller porportions. Skip exercise for only one day, that day only eat fruits & veggies.

So, does everyone think this is a fine plan? Thanks!

-Also. I want it to be REALLY flat. You know? soo, i meen im willing to do anything extra, i just dont have a bike and i CANNOT run. Thanks!

wow. that sounds like a reeally good plan! im serious! i might even start doing it. lol. also if theres a local YMCA there they have these pilattes classes that are really good. and i mean reeally. they are amazing. welll, hope you accomplish your goal!

hope i helped

Q: HEYYY SHANNON i wanna do da talent show nd its coming up soon but im to afraid to sing in front of everyone even tho people say im a good singer what should i do????

heyy sorry this took soooo long!! i was bfand new to this when you asked so... idkk. anywayzz... if your friends say thatyour a good singer than you are and i dont see a reason as to why you should be scared. im sure your voice its lovely! maybe you should try to practice in a mirror, and get used to looking back at yourself. then tyr singing alone. then friends, then parents! you should be ready. hope i helped!

Q: OMG I LOVE YOU..IM WITH MELISSAA!! yOUR MY #1 FANN!!

~KAileyy! lots of loveee

heyy thats my other bfffff kailey!!

I LOVE YA KAILEYY!! YOUR SOO OSM!

Q: "hi shannon you rock... im your numba 1 fan
Great advice!

hahahaha melissa. lol i didnt think you would actually do that lol

THAT EVERYONE IS MY BESTEST FRIEND MELISSA DANIELLE ETTER. I LOVE HERRR TO DEATHHH!!!!

lmaooo

Q: this isnt really advice... but does anyone know a good song by the all american rejects, the beatles, beck, coldplay, the cure, dave matthews band, death cab for cutie, franz ferdinand, Guster, hellogoodbye, Jack johnson, the magic numbers, no ddoubt, The Red Hot Chili peppers, the smiths, the strokes, weezer, or Zox that have really good lyrics that could explain my love for someone in my profile? i'm a girl if that helps.

move along-all american rejects is a pretty good song

ooo im sorry if i got the question wrong... did you want me to send lyrics?

let it be by the beatles is a great song too. kinda sad i think... idkk. i think all coldplay songs work pretty good. uh... yeaa idkk... the other bands ive either never heard of or dont know enough of there songs. lol SORRY!!

Q: Ok i toatly have a crush on this boy since 2nd grade but im way to shy to ask him out so how should i ask him out?

wellllllll, just tell him how you feel! tell him that you;ve liked him since 2nd grade and that you would like to go out with him sometime! but first,(if your not already) become friends with him! that helps. well, hope i helped!

(ps i just woke up so im not as helpful as usual)

Q: Okay, so yesterday there was this dance thing at school. Me, my friends, and my [boyfriend that nobody knew was my boyfriend] were hanging out and stuff. So it was the last song of the dance, the slow dance. Everyone knew that joe (my boyfriend) liked me & stuff [but they didn't know we were going out]. So they were like "you get joe, I'll get alyssa(me)!" They forced his hand on my shoulders and stuff and I hugged him (we're shy.)

and then the next day, Elena (the one that pretty much made us hug) said that she's gonna tell everyone in the school what we did at the dance. I mean, we hugged? wow. Why did you think shes doing this?

well, obviously shes not a good friend if shes gunna tell the whole school that you hugged him. and maybe you should tell people that he is your bf! cuz, guys dont like to be unnoticed when theyre going out with someone. and you shouldnt be shy with your boyfriend! i mean everyone can be sometimes, but you shouldnt be shy to at least hug. well, hope i helped!

Q: i was tossing him off when he was on top!

ook lol sry i didnt understand at first

Q: 14/f.. I had sex with my boyfreind about 3 or 4 weeks ago and the condom broke!! I took 3 pregnency tests without my parents knowing and they were all positve!! so i think i'm pregent how could i tell my parents? HELP
I'll rate 5

wellll, first of all, idk why you even did have sex. 14 years old is veryyyy young! you shouldve at least waited till you were in college or at least married. being married would probably be the best time. anywayzz... whatever you do...
DONT GET AN ABORTION!!! or else i will hate you forever. well, i dont even know you so... just tell your parents. they will get over it... eventually. i mean they HAVE to. if you want get advice from a counselor. they know more than you might think! and dont put the baby up for adoption. first of all, it costs a TON of money, and well, yeaa! just keep the baby! or just give it to your parents. just dont give it away cuz thats really sad, and you AND the babys heart will get broken! well, hope i helped!

Q: Well recently i just done something with my bf. we didnt have sex but when i was tossing him off he was on top off me and some of his "come" went near my virgina i dont know if it went near? but can i get pregnant or not or does the sperm have to be inside of you or shot up?

uh... well... idk... lol. but i really think that it has to be inside of youu. im not a real professional at the subject. and i guess if you take pills you cant get pregnant. i know i probably didnt answer your question the way you probably expected me too but hope i helped!!

what do you mean you tossed him off? IM me haydenluver1610

Q: hey i read one of your answers for a question about oily skin & hair.

exactly which aussie shampoo do you use?

just wondering

well, im not sure what you mean which one, but its in a purple container, and i just use the shampoo/conditioner (the one that says "2 in 1" and then sometimes i use the 3 minute miracle. yeaa hope i helped!

Q: Well, my mom is constanly making me clean my room all the time! I feel like my room is okay. How can i come to an agreement with my mom? thanks

well, my mom is exactly the same. and its annoying. what i did was i pointed out a lot of things "messy" about her room. like i just walked right in there and i said "wlel, thats unorganized!" and a whole lot. well,.can you at least see your floor? cuz i cant. and thats probably why my mom is making such a big deal of it. but heres a warning. if she says "if you dont clean it up, i will" take it SERIOUSLY! cuz i didnt and a whoooole lot of my stuff was gone when i got back from school that next day. so... yeaa. just a lil warning there. but DONT mess up your moms room on purpose just to prove thather rooms not clean either. well, hope this helps!

Q: I have a problem about my skin and hair. They both produce way to much oil. I have light blonde fine limp hair, which makes oil production even more. Also, im on medication for acne, which would seem to help control oil, right? Well its working for my acne, but not my oily face and hair. I've tried searching google for home made cures or remedies but i can't find any particular ones to my liking. I use oil control shampoo twice when in the shower and hardly put any conditioner. I massage enough to get the oil out of my hair, and leave it in for five minutes, althought i dont massage too hard, becuase i know that can make it oilier, because my heads trying to produce oil to replace the oils i washed out. But i dont have much money either. So any suggestions? Thank You!

SAME PROBLEM!!! i have TERRIBLE acne!! its allll over my back an alll over my face. and i HATE it. my hair used to be all gross and greasy but ever since i started using "Aussie" its getting a lotttt better! (aussie is an australian brand of shampoo and conditioner and its not too expensive and its in a purple container)wow i just read my last sentence. and i sound like a commercial!! lol anywayzz... yeaa hope this helps!!

p.s. what do you use for your acne?

Q: i just tried out for tennis and i did amazing at the tryout. ive been playing since forever, so it was a given that id do well. i played the best ive ever played, it was aweseome. but then i went to look at the list of people who made it, i wasnt on it, but the girl who constantly hit the ball into the net did, the girl who doesnt follow through did, the girl who i beat every time i played her did. and i feel like crap. i cant stop crying, i feel like everything that i have worked for has just fallen apart. why would this happen, is it common that the better players don't make the team> and does anyone have anything to help lift my spirits i am usually pretty happy, but i really cant think of anything that could cheer me up right now..

well, the exact same thing happened to me. cept it was for basketball. i felt terrrrible!!! i loved basketball and was sooo bummed that i didnt get the team! an dyes there were people that completely sucked at the tryouts and made it. so i didnt understand why i didnt at first. what you should do is talk to your coach and ask why y ou didnt make it. thats what idid. cept i didnt exactly get the answer i wanted... they said i was "too short" and that they "didnt need me" i swear i felt like slapping them and saying "am i too short to do that!?!" but trust me. you will get over it. hope this helps!

Q: Hey im 13/f and I was wondering how do you get guys to notice you? I'm not ugly or anything guys just dont seem to ever like me theres always someone better than me to like. How do I get guys to notice me?

well, try wearing some of the newest trends! and putting on extra make-up. i have 4 brothers, and they are constantly telling me that they love girls who are in style and veryyyy humorous and veryyyyy conversational. i feel that being very conversational helps! cuz you never know when a cute guy will come up and talk to you! just remember:BE YOURSELF!!! cuz if you dont then they will like you for the person you were trying to be instead of the person you really truly are. hope this helps!

Q: In a few weeks, I will be autitioning for my school's talent show. I want to sing. I want a sing a song sung by a female. But here's the catch. I want it to be an oldie's song. Like a classic that everyone knows. Any advice on what song to sing?

well, i dont have a good song sung by a girl, but i do know one that everyone loves and it very recognizable. (is that even a word) anywayzz... try singing the song "old time rock n roll" you will be a hit for sure. im not sure who sings it but you should ask your parents or something. hope this helps!

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I'm pretty good with helping people. my friends are always getting into drama that i cant stand but, i love them so i always help them. if you have a myspace and need HTML help, I'm alllll over it. i am like... total expert on HTML. and also if you have a myspace go ahead and send the link to your question so i can see who you are!! anyways, this site is under major construction but you can still ask any questions. i would ask you though, please, if you have any "sexual" questions that you not display your name. just for your own privacy. and remember people. im 14 years old. so if your like... 20 and want advice for your boyfriend whose been cheating on you and such, please note my age and rethink asking me.

for any UN-ANSWERED ADVICE please IM me haydenluver1610. PLEASE dont IM me for the heck of it. ONLY if i didnt answer your question correctly.