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well a few weeks ago a friend was going to commit suicide. so me and my bff decided to take her moms car while she was asleep to go to the girls house n make sure she was ok. and this was all at 3am. well my friend crashed the car n we got charged with grand theft auto and were both in hospital for a week n a half. now my mom wont let me see my best friend anymore and its killing me. this girl is like my sister and she didnt mean to crash the car. whether my mom lets me or not, im still gonna see my best friend whenever i can but id rather not be getting in trouble for it. i think its stupid to have to lie but i dont know hhow to convinve my mom to let me see her again. please help, its killing me (link)
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the reason your mother is hesitant to let you saee your best friend is that she seems to be leading you in trouble. she seems to have taken your indepence somehow. which could infact be true. it is advisable to talk with your mother and acknowledge your failure of 'stealing' the car and not asking for it. ask yourself also about your relationship with your friend, why is it that you want to be with her no matter what? may be you depend on her of some benefits which may infact not be material. so it is important to know what these benefits are and that will help you understand yourself as to why you really need her. taling to your mother about it and her view of your friendship may help you understand why she is refusing you to see her. i hope you will get the courage to do that.
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18f, my guy friend is 17
i'm horrible at talking to someone that i'm trying to "fix" something with. within the past three weeks me and my best (guy) friend have been having problems. at one point i didn't think i could trust him. but i didn't want to lose him as a friend and we worked things out. well this past weekend he did something to me, and i know damn well it was true and it hurt, really bad. i've known this kid for YEARS, we've always been close and he should of known better to lie to me, after knowing i can't trust many people. well i said something to him, pretty much that indicated i couldn't be friends with him anymore and he never said anything back. IF he does try and work things out with me, i don't know what to do. honestly, i don't want him out of my life we have been through alot and i really don't want five years of friendship to just end like that. but he did hurt me, and i don't know what he wants me to do or even say. i feel like if he tries to work things out with me i will just be like "you should of known better, you know i can't trust many people and i finally trusted you and you do this. i don't think you even care, i don't even know what to say to you anymore.. maybe it should of been this way, you don't need me, admit it, you dont...." and i'm scared if i go off on him like that, he will just give up on me but how do i tell him how i'm feeling without him just completely feeling talked down on? i understand, i have to listen but i don't know what i can say that won't push him even farther away. (link)
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it is surely hurting when your best friend is not truthful to you when you have tried your best to be faithful. you feel you love him but his actions are not forthcoming. one thing yu have to know is that in the priority of your relationship, you come first. that means that anything that is hurting you in a serious way, like what is happening now should be talked out and clear between you without fearing to lose the other. if you talk to him firmly and clearly about what you hate, you should give him freedom to do as he wishes. but be clear as much as possible, be clear to him that you dont hate him as a person. about the issue of not trusting many people--just know that you dont have to trust everyone, but also look itno yourself whether you have some unresolved issues e.g fear of intimacy and getting close to the other. because it is only in getting close to a person that you can be able to rust him or her. if your fear of losing the relatuionship is too much...then you have to check at yourself especially your self esteem.
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Okay, I've had a best friend for three years. When we met, we were both the same. Awkward, losers with no social skills trying to find our way around. That was three years ago.
Since then, I have "come into my own", per se. I really like making new friends and stuff like that. However, my best friend hasn't changed a bit, and is starting to bother me. I've mentioned it to her before, casual suggestions, stuff like that, but nothing works.
It's really becoming a problem, because at this point, she doesn't have very many friends, so she sticks by my side. I love her, because she's always there for me, but she's anti-social and has NO idea how to act in social situations involving more than one person. Everyone I know feels uncomfortable when she's around.
I don't know what to do. I've felt this way for like...a year now. Obviously, I don't want to leave her, because it would be shallow to ditch her for "cooler" people. Besides, she is a true friend to me. What if I can't find anymore?
But, I feel like she's holding me back. She needs to get some friends her own. And let me repeat that I have told her this (in a nicer way, of course), but she just doesn't get it.
I'm tired of this, frankly. (link)
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my friend, you must be feeling abit confused of your situation and you think you should do something yet you dont know what. you do feel good, as u have said when she is close to you but on the other hand you feel that she is too dependent on you. you are asking for some freedom from her overdependency on you, and you seem to think that what can bring about that freedom is her trying to engage with other people and make friends. surely any relationship need some 'breathing spaces' as you have indicated, you are aware of yourself having grown in interpersonal skills fro the last three years and you think that your friend has not grown much.yet you do not want to abandon her because you still value her. you also feel embarased tht she does not know adequate interpersonal skills. i suggest that you bring her out to your other friends. allow her to interact with them. let her invite her own friends with you too...for outings etc. bit by bit..you too will improve together your communication and interpersonal skills.
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Hi im 18 years old and im sexually active with my boyfriend for over 6 months, we've been doing it everyday and he cummed inside me almost a month ago, after that I got like some spotting and I thought I was getting my period but it was a false alarm also my breats have been hurting a lot. Im suppose to get me period in the end of April and its now May.11th! Could I be pregnant? Is it too soon?
Please help, thanks! (link)
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to be sure whethr you are pregnant, it is advisable to visit a clinic and have a pregnancy test. hope all go well.
when you go to any clinic next to you..the personnel there will direct you to where you can be helped if they cannot help...
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