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Q: Well... This guy I've known him for two years beacuase he's the cousin of my sisters best friend, But I've never actually had a conversation with him. A few months ago during the end of summer he complimented me telling me I was pretty, And it sounded like he was true. The only thing he actually does is stare at me ... I didn't really like him then but was extremely flattered. Now I see him alot ... And soon I'll have to spend a weekend with him and other people ( In 3 weeks ). I admit I like him, And I know he doesn't have a girlfriend. But yet another factor comes in ... He's as old as my sister and she's 16. And my sister is extremly pretty, But i'm pretty sure I don't have to worry about my sister because she has a different taste then me ... Well anyways, Both of us barely talk get to talk to each other. But we both pass up perfect moments to talk ... Basically all we do is look at each other alot. Should I take it slow and hint to him that I like him, Or just wait for him to do something?
Signed,
Hopeless Romantic.
( You know me )

Yes, I know who this is... and if you keep things back you'll miss the perfect oppurtunity to meet that someone. I've learned that the hard way. So love, I would take it slow and hint or else have one of your friends that's there with you tell him. I've done that before! Give a note to someone then they give it to them. Follow your heart ok, It's the best thing you can do.

Be careful with the age difference though! If you date someone older than you... they've been through more than you have... so they might want to do something you have never tried before. So BE CAREFUL! I don't want you to get hurt.

Hope I helped

Q: i told him but he hasnt done anything im confused
in love

Dear In Love,
He may be thinking things over. Give him time to think and maybe it will all work out. Chances are, he has other things on his mind and doesn't want to focus on a relationship until he's done with things he started before you asked. He may not want to go out because it could ruin your friendship and he might want to, to get closer to you. I don't know. I hope I helped... ~-Dani-~

Q: i cant tell him help me iono wut to doo!
-in love (again)

Dear In Love,

Telling a guy that you like him is a hard thing to do. Maybe you could write a note and give it to him or have a friend give it to him. Take a chance and try it out. One good thing to do is just walk up to him in the hall say "I like you" then walk off. He may not like you back but what made this world, was people who took chances. ~-Dani-~

Q: I love this guy but im not sure if i should tell him because i dont know what he will say please help me!!
-in love-

Dear In Love,
Let me tell you some lyrics that could solve this.
"Life's a dance you learn as you go
Sometimes you lead, sometimes you follow
Don't worry about what you don't know
Life's a dance you learn as you go"
It means take chances on things you aren't sure about. This taught me about life. Take chances and the results could end up the way you like them, or not. Just tell him. You might end up heart broken but there's no reason you should just love him without him knowing. ~-Dani-~ Hope I helped!

Q: somebody is spreading rumors about me and told my "best friend" a lie and she won't ever talk to me and tell me wut i did! i dont even know!!! i thought she knew me better than than :( ugh help me PLEASE!!!!!!!
-betrayed-

Dear Betrayed,
This has happened to me before too. Talk to a few of your other best friends and see if they could help. When this happened to me; I tried to talk it through with her but it didin't seem to turn out right so I had my other best friend talk it through with her. Don't worry though; it SHOULD blow over eventually. ~-Dani-~ I hope everything works out for you Betrayed.

Q: hey umm well this girl and i used to be best friends ever since we were little and we aren't as close anymore i feel sometimes like she is avoiding me :( well can u help me! please please

-broken-

Dear Broken,

Friends grow apart sometimes. I know I grew away from a few of my best friends from my old school. Well, Talk to her. It's hard feeling like you are losing your best friends but try your best to talk to her or have another friend talk to her for you. Don't let her ger you down though. I hope I helped ya! ~-Dani-~

Q: i think i love this boy but also my best friend loves him too i'm not sure what to do
-confused-

Dear Confused,

Talk to your friend and see how it ends up. Don't ruin your friendship because of the guy. If you are truely best friends with your friend, you will be able to talk it over in a mature way. If she says you can have him, try it. But becareful; he might like your best friend more than you. I hope you don't get your heart broken.
~-Dani-~

Q: Well i have had boyfriends.. but they were jerks. How do i get a new one that loves me for me??
_ Boyfriendless _

Dear Boyfriendless,

Give it time. Your Prince Charming will come soon and you will be his world. I've had a few boys that were jerks to me but I'm still waiting for prince to come. If you find someone, let him know because the sweetest guy will grow to love you more than life itself. I hope I helped you ~-Dani-~

Q: when i go in a tanning bed, how can i prevent sun burn?

Tanning beds can be REALLY dangerous if you don't use them correctly. Put on plenty of sun tan lotion to protect your skin and don't stay in long. Burns cause skin cancer so watch time as you get tans.

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