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hey, ok, well my room always seems to get EXTREMELY messy. i straigten it up, but then it just gets dirty right away. there's always clothes on the floor, desk cluttered, dishes everywhere, the works. so, this is a pretty general quesiton, so anything constructive i will rate 5's! so, plz give me some tips on how you keep your room decent! (link)
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The key is always lots of storage. The more organized storage the better. Be sure to label storage bins and keep them accessible. Start a 2 day rule, if it's in the same spot for two days in a row, assign it a place or throw it out. This will stop dirty laundry and letters from cluttering your space.
Doors and curtains hide messy areas. Under bed storage, wall storage, closet, etc... Take advantage.
Febreeze will cut down on any odors. Designate areas for specific activities. Bed--for sleeping. Desk--for working/writing. Pillow corner--for lounging. Windowseat--for all else. Eating is to be done in the kitchen or somewhere else.
Good luck!
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hey everyone,
I was fiddling with a piece of my hair and i noticed nearly every individual strand is split! You just have a single piece of hair and its double at the ends, sometimes its quite far up and i touched one of the half-strands and it just fell off where it split. I straighten my hair everyday but i use a heat protection serum and i dont know if this has helped it split or not. I havent been to the hairdressers for a while but now im planning to and im going to get quite a bit off but the problem is some of the short, new hairs at the top are split too and i dont want my hair to be cut really short. I also want layers but not right at the top.
What i want to know is 1.what has caused my split ends? 2. do i have to go short or is there another way? 3. if you leave your hair to grow (like the new hairs) will the split ends rise up the hair strand?
thankyou for your time
Rachel (link)
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Start over. Get a professional to trim your ends and clip it short. Get a proper condition and maintain it. It's scary.
Start reading the beauty magazines. They will give you verified hints and tips that help give and keep healthy hair.
Good luck!
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My friend is pregnant and she's only 13. She's freaking out a lot..and she wants me to help her. What should i do ? i dont wanna end up killing someone else's baby! (link)
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INFORM A RESPONSIBLE ADULT IMMEDIATELY!
I suggest her parents or guardians, but even the school counselor would help! There are many resources out there that will help.
She is very young. Just a kid herself. This may be a traumatizing experience. But there are options.
Remember, she did not do this alone. Don't make her feel bad or scared. Encourage her to tell a responsible adult. Don't be embarrassed. She's not the first teen in this position. Ensure her that you will be there for her and she'll get over the initial fear and circumstance.
But DO NOT MAKE ANY ASSUMPTIONS or decisions without guidance. Get experienced and professional help. She needs to know what term she is in and what options she has. (Adoption, etc..) Time is of essence. The longer she waits, the slimmer her choices get. Any fears she has will come to surface as they will. If she is afraid to confront her parents, tell her they will find out sooner or later. So she may as well tell them while she still has options. Even if they reject her, which is highly doubtful, there are resources that will HELP her. She will not be alone.
I stress to YOU that you encourage her to seek help. This is not just her life, but a baby's life. The right decisions need to be made and she needs to prevent it from happening again.
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ok. I previoulsy asked a question about how do i get up in the morning. now i have the worst time falling asleep! help! (link)
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Sounds like temporary insomnia. Please see a doctor. In the meantime, find something calming and create a dream. Start thinking. What do you want to dream about? Imagine the dream as if it's a fantasy. Eventually you will drift off. You may not dream about what you imagined, but it'll get you to sleep.
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My friend Carmen is a freshman in high school and her new boyfriend is Greg a senior in high school. Now this may not seem very weird to you but i don't care just trust me..this relationship is WEIRD. Picture a 4'11" girl hugging a 6' guy. Before they were going out, Greg used to be Carmen's older brother's best friend. He basically dumped John(carmen's brother and greg's best friend) for Carmen. The guy is a huge ass hole. He didn't even have the coutesy to tell John, John found out by seeing them kiss, and that's not the way is should have been. This kid is a slimy and gross. The kind that only think about butts and boobs all day long and have too many zits on their face and back to count. Not only is he rude to carmen and her friends, he flirts behind her back...like all the time. He even tried to give me a back rub once while she was in the bathroom. He touches and flirts with girls all the time even when she's right there but she just doesn't see that he's a terrible person. I've told carmen all of this but she either doesn't believe me or is trying to pretend it isn't true. This guy is a creep. I have a very strong intuition and from the day I met this kid I knew he was bad news. I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm afraid that she's going to loose her virginity to what I believe is the nastiest 18 year old alive. What should I do? Is there anything I can say to her or him to get her to understand how awful this guy is. I talked to a couple of people about it and their best advice is just to be there when she falls but i can't just let my best friend make terrible decisions. Please help me. I've run out of ideas to help her.
-Me (link)
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Let me do the math. I will assume your friend is 14. Remind your friend, that he is a senior and will be leaving for college or moving on to older women next year. Tell her not to go farther than 1st base with this guy before she turns 16 AT LEAST. (Don't tell her this, but by that time, he will have moved on to another peice of flesh.) He seems like a user and someone out for a young, naive kid who will do anything. Please discourage this relationship.
If things get out of hand, inform an adult. It may seem harmless to many, but this relationship, especially if gone awry, can haunt her for years to come. If she loses her virginity to someone who does not have good intentions, she will forever regret it and there will be an onslaught of emotional issues. She's your friend, you're looking out for her. It's tempting to say 'stay out of her business', but then what kind of friend would you be? You will not sit back and watch her be used by a creep with bad intentions.
Have some alone time with her (Have a makeover/sleepover) and talk with her. Bring up some hot guys, her age, that you think would be nice. Remind her of the crushes she USED to have. You don't want to talk nasty about her boyfriend, this will only make her want him more. Just simply avoid talking about him. Encourage her to think about better guys. She will eventually grow tired and uninterested in him.
Don't mention the things the way you said them here. You will sound jealous and you WILL be accused of it.
Instead try to have her focus on others. Remember you're not her mom, you can't advocate who she can and can't date. Only and ONLY if you have pure intentions should you do any of the above.
Figure out if you don't like him because he's crude and nasty to her and others or you just find him unattractive.
And stick by her side, even if she gets hurt by him. Don't say 'I told you so', hold her hand and let her cry on your shoulder. That's what friends do.
Good luck
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i am a 14 yr old girl and of my boyfriend always wrestles with me what does that mean ? (link)
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It means he is coping a feel. He likes your body and wants you to know it. Are you comfortable with knowing that?
Now the point in telling you that is because if you continue to let it happen he will eventually try to persuade you in to doing something far more risky. You need to be ready to tell him no. Respect your body.
Do you mind the wrestling? You did not mention your feelings on it.
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I have a concern that eats at me. I cannot just put this to the side and not say anything any longer. The problem lies with my mother-in-law. I do care about her deeply and am very hurt by what has been going on.
Here's the background of myself, I have been married for 5 years now, we have a 4 year old and just had a new baby in Februrary. My husband is the oldest of 3 sons from his family. The middle brother just got married in February- this brother picked our due date to get married (which is another story). As the parents of the bride and groom, my in-laws were expected to pay for the rehearsal dinner...which they did...this was in excess of $700.00. Plus she bought a new dress for the wedding and bought the new bride and groom a wedding gift - this is all understandable. What is not understandable is my husband and I had a baby shower at the beginning of February, 3 weeks before due date/wedding. The mother-in-law did buy the cake (which was very sweet) for the shower however, never bought the baby a gift. She keeps saying she will buy something but doesn't. My birthday was also in February, she never bought me a gift, not even a card. We have the baby and she still has yet to buy the baby anything. My husband's birthday (her own son) was in March - no present - no card - nothing for him either. Now her younger son had his 21st birthday in April and she bought him a really nice gift. In the 5 years that my husband and I have been married, we have been over maybe 2 times a year (other than Thanksgiving & Christmas) to eat. Now the son that just got married in February and his new wife are over there for dinner at least 2 times a week. She did have us over approximately 3 weeks ago for dinner but she stressed to us that she may not be able to have us over because she may not have the money. Again this week she mentioned she would like to have us over "if she has the money" (we have offered to even buy the groceries - she has declined). We do not eat more than the average person.
I am extremely hurt that 1. she can afford a 700 rehearsal dinner and a gift for the bride and groom but can't afford even a $10.00 outfit for her new grandbaby 2. She can afford to buy her youngest son a birthday present but can't afford to buy her oldest son a birthday present (my husband) 3. Can afford to have the new bride and groom over for dinner a couple times a week but has a financial problem when it comes to inviting us over for dinner.
We have no weird time schedules; we are not picky - I will even help clean up after dinner (unlike the new wife). My daughter is well behaved.
On her behalf they are not financially set*(which makes this more frustrating that they can stretch their money for others but not for us). Another thing I can think of is that they are not much of cooks so she may be helping them out in this aspect. But if this is the case, it's not fair because my husband and I could have used help in the beginning of our marriage as well. The new bride and groom do not go to school but my husband and I were in our senior years in college when we got married and Lord knows we struggled, especially financially - we could have used some help too.
I do know she loves me, especially her own son. I do know she does not like the new wife very much. I just don't understand and am extremely hurt, I can't stress how hurt I am from this because I do care about her so much. Please advise what to do. Should I say something to her or any other suggestions. It's just not fair
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First, remember there is always favoritism... in every family with more than one child. It is ugly and crude, but it has always existed even in the biblical days. However, that may or may not be what your husband is experiencing.
What I suspect is that she is used to you. She doesn't need to impress you anymore. You know she loves you and she knows that you know it. Maybe buying the expensive gifts for the other brothers' family is just her way of trying to impress the new in-laws.
It is hurtful to see this behavior, which seems blatant, be directed towards your children. But remember, she is the grandmother and if she loves you and her son, she loves your beautiful children as well. Chances are she doesn't know that her lack of gift-giving is even an issue.
My suggestion is to talk with her. Tell her your concerns. Be gentle and unjudmental. Don't scoff at her response and respect what she has to say.
Don't be so materialistic. Don't focus on what she does or doesn't BUY you. Be more concerned of the time she spends with you and your little ones. Also, do not compare your gifts to the ones she gives them. You will never be satisfied. Instead measure the gifts that you HAVE received against how much you really needed it. You'll be MUCH more content.
What is her relationship like with her sons'? Perhaps she knows that your son is more 'settled' and responsible. He will provide what is necessary. She may feel that if she doesn't provide for the other family, it might get overlooked.
It seems to me that she is proud. When you offer to buy groceries, it is unacceptable. Depending on location, it may be more convenient for the other in-laws to visit and she doesn't want you to pay for your own meal or come out of your way with extra expenses. That would bring on much guilt. You are misinterpreting her actions. And this is common. You have spent so much time stressing over it, holding it in and making your own conclusions that you don't realize that there are a flurry of possibilities as to why she behaves this way. The best way to clear this up is good old fashioned communication.
Surprise her. Take her out to lunch. Put it all on the table. Don't ruin her appetite by attacking her or judging her. Simply let her know how you feel. She'll understand and let you know why she does that. Explain to her that you don't mind buying your own groceries, it's the quality time that you are seeking.
Good luck.
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Female 16...Is it wrong to go out with youre exboyfriends brother Even if he likes u? And what if your still in love with his brother but really want to go out with him? (link)
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Only ethically. You're 16 and have a long life ahead of you. What you do now is a reflection of what you will do later. As a teenager, you are creating patterns for yourself and it's good to keep them good and positive.
Going out with your ex's BROTHER and still having feelings for your ex. is begging for trouble... both now and later.
This would be a great Test of Character. If you can resist the urge of dating him, maybe it'll be alot easier when you're married and tempted for the cute waiter that keeps winking at you.
Think about it this way.
You can dump your ex's brother anytime, but your reputation will follow you wherever you go.
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Does anyone have a site where you can take a lot of fun quizes? Thanks! (link)
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google it. You'll find TONS. But, of course you know that by now.
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my friends keep making fun of me,but i know there are just joking but it makes me feel bad, can anyone help (link)
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Let them know how they make you feel. No matter how corny it sounds. Your feelings matter. Let them know that you wouldn't treat them that way and it hurts that they insistently criticize you.
There's probably just a flaw in communication.
Try reacting differently to their comments. Instead of laughing it off or letting it slide. Nip it in the bud right then and there. Whatever issue they make fun of, shake your head and disagree. Do not even snicker. They may say something like 'dude lighten up' or 'someone's in a bad mood'. That's your perfect opportunity to say 'ease up with the [glasses/dork/fat/whatever] jokes. They're bugging me.'
Your true 'friends' would respect your wishes.
If they're insistent and only one or no one comes to your rescue, borrow a cliche, 'it's nice to know who your friends are.',
or 'with friends like you guys, who needs enemies'.
Don't be afraid to step on some toes. It's a friendship, it's not perfect. Depending on the crowd, expect some friction to your newfound courage, but know that once they get alone and really think about it, they'll understand and make efforts to stop.
Don't be a drama queen about it. You don't want them adding ANOTHER thing to the joke pile. Keep the tears inside and be strong.
Pay attention in the future. They may be making honest efforts to stop, but it's such a habit that they keep letting one slip.
But, if they keep relentlessly doing it, despite the conversation, dump them. You're a good person. You'll attract better friends.
Good luck.
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I have been dancing for 11 years. I am 13 years old. I want to maybe go further with my dancing ... like be in shows or something. Also, How do you get to be in a music video or something like that? LoVe, Tina (link)
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You are young and you have other priorities in your life now. However, that does not stop you from still getting what you want. It is so encouraging to see someone who knows what their passion is at such a young age.
To go further with your dancing is simple. Just keep dancing. Get involved in school plays or shows and look around the community for this as well. If you can find none that cater to dancing, then propose to your school or community theater that they do a musical, in which you can star.
How do you find video opportunities? Lots of research.
How do you get in the videos? Experience & Support.
Now is the time for you to be building your portfolio. Engaging in activities now and winning awards for them will help give you credibility when you are older. You will have more than just a statement that you've been dancing since you were 2. Participate in competitions and contests and be all that you can be. Perform for birthday parties and create family videos now. This will be good documentation that you have in fact been dancing all your life. Stay focused on your dream and let your parents, peers and counselors know how much you love it. Have them look for an agent and take the proper procedures to getting you prepared and protected for this career.
This will not be easy. No dream ever is. You have to work at it. Nothing is going to come to you. You have to go for it. There will be times when you have to put in more than you get back.
You are young and as you grow older, you may find other things more interesting to do. So ask yourself this.
Are you sure this is what you want? Is it something you like to do for fun or seriously as a career? Is it worth sacrificing other teenage 'leisures'? Will you be able to balance your life, school & home, with your passion?
Can you see yourself doing this without loving it? (When you are tired to the bone and still have to perform or practice, can you do it?)
Good Luck!
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im looking for some help/advice as to why i always have to buy things in large amounts. for example i cant buy just one pen i have to get 4 or 5 at a time its the same with everything. if i go to a store to buy one thing i buy at least 5-6 things that i dont really need but buy anyway. any help or ideas would be appreciated. (link)
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You may be suffering from OCD. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. In this case, please speak with your family psychiatrist and doctor. There are medications and help out there for this disorder.
On the other hand, you may simply enjoy having more than one thing. Maybe you initially buy one for a friend or like to have an extra 'just in case'. It's just a habit and it's easy to break if you simply do one thing. When you know what you are going to buy, ONLY bring that amount in with you, in cash. This way you cannot buy more than need be. If you're just browsing and find yourself picking up more than 1 or 2 of an item, ask yourself these questions:
1. What is the extra one for? (a Friend, relative, project)
2. Do I really need a backup of this item?
3. Am I prepared to return it if I have not used it/given it away within the next 3 days?
Obsessive buying can lead to future problems, such as being a 'pack-rat'. There are people who keep EVERYTHING they own and there houses have become fire hazards. So be careful, make a change and/or get help now!
Good luck!
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what are some signs that a guy likes you? i mean this guy always tries to talk to me and come near me..and he always stares too, he is very sweet and nice and i just wanna know. o ya and my friend went up to him and asked him if he liked me(she did this w/o asking) and he stuttered and said" uh..uh..uh..no..i..i..dont..um..like her..i uh..i.sw..i swear!." then he told me about it. i mean does this mean he likes me?
thnx in advance (link)
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He's nervous. Probably a bit shy. Of course, he likes you. But to really find out, put him to the test. You have to take control. Start showing him that you're into him.
When you see him, start a conversation. He'll probably be really nervous at first and fumble around. But the more you talk with him, the more comfortable he'll become around you.
He has a crush on you and probably thinks that he doesn't exist to you.
Keep your friend out of the middle of it. It may seem like a good idea, but it's easy for someone who's majorly crushing on you, to misinterpret your friends actions. By this, I mean he may get the feeling your friend wants him for herself or worse, think that you guys are setting him up for a cruel prank.
You'll want to confront him, and privately, so that he knows that it's the real deal.
If you're not that forward, then try sending signals. Playfully wink at him or include him in activities. Invite him to tag along with you when he's around.
Get touchy feely with him. But don't be overbearing and inappropriate. Resting on his shoulder or putting your head on his arm are good signals.
The point of sending him signals is to make him comfortable enough to trust that you won't reject him when he asks you out.
Good luck
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