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Warning: this is going to be long, I already know that.
We are both sophomores in college. Lately, my best guy friend has been odd. He's been "talking to" this girl for a few weeks and they just met face to face Sunday and have been hanging out since. I'm not a big fan of this whole thing because it's usually the two of us always hanging out, he is usually always in my dorm room watching movies with me or getting food with me and since she's moved into our dorm, I've been set aside and I hate it. Yes, I am jealous of the fact that she is important to him now. I want him to be happy and if that's what it takes for him to be happy, he can go for it, I will always be here waiting to fix him when he gets hurt but it just sucks that he hasn't even been talking to me these past few nights. To get to her room, you have to take the stairs right next to my room so I see him come up and he walks by my room and doesn't even say hi. So, in an effort to not be so hurt about it, I've been trying to distance myself from the situation. I haven't been texting him and when he walks by me when I'm working, I don't really start up conversation, same with when he's working, I would normally sit down and chat with him but I haven't been doing any of that lately. Needless to say, I think he knows I've been kinda upset. The other night, I was in the lounge studying and he texted me and asked if I was in my room, I texted him back about twenty minutes later (when I read the text) and said "I am now but I'm on my way out" and he texted me back "Oh, I knocked on your door and you didn't answer." So I texted him back and explained that I wasn't in their earlier and he never texted me back but that's usual for him. On to how he is being weird.. the first night his almost but not yet girl friend moved in, he didn't go see her right away because he was with me in the lounge watching a movie. About an hour after he told me she moved in, he asked if I wanted to grab dinner, I said yea and he said we should wake up my roommate and see if she wants to go, so we did. We were all walking out of my building, when he fell behind which is, again, usual for him because he gets so absorbed in his phone that he can't do anything else until he is done. However, I turned to see if he was okay and he was with the girl. He didn't tell me she was coming so I was kind of mad that he just let that happen. So they walked behind us to dinner and she asked "so, who are your friends that we're eating with?" and he said "right here, these two are my friends" and then we got down there and her and him got their food first so they picked a table first to which I later found them sitting across from each other, forcing my roommate to sit in between them. All night, my leg would touch his and me elbow would touch his when we would both go for our phones. I invited some other friends to sit with us and as they made their way over, I moved over to make room for my one friend to sit in between my guy friend and I but every time I moved away, he moved closer, making my other friend sit next to him and not me. It got to the point where our small four person table was seating nine, we were so cramped that my entire right side of my body was flush against his and he didn't even seem to mind, meanwhile his girl was sitting across from him and he wasn't talking to her much. I was texting and he made it so blatantly obvious that he was looking at my phone which was weird for him again because he's been doing that lately, when I was on my computer the other day, he wasn't even near me but he walked over to see what I was doing on my computer. I have nothing to hide from him so I wasn't mad in the regard it was just odd that he did that because I make a solid effort to not look over his shoulder at things. So, he was getting antsy and decided to leave, stood up and waited for her to get up and they left. My friend looked at me and said "if he's trying to get with her, how did you two end up like that at the table?" and I said every time I moved, he kept coming closer to which my friend said "well, it looked like you two were dating, that's all." After that, I haven't seen him all night or the next night. The next day, though, I saw them walk in from having lunch together and he didn't hold the door open for her which he usually does, he always holds the door for me and my friends. Then, I saw him leaving her room and he came back up with his computer which was kinda funny because he never has his computer when he's with me, so he must have been bored enough with her to get his computer or I'm looking to into it and they were going to watch a movie or something. The night after, he came to my room and I didn't really want to see him, so I walked out and went down to the hall to call someone. I came back and he was gone. Then, last night was the night where he texted me and asked where I was because I didn't answer my door. This morning, he relieved me of my shift so as he was getting on, I told him the normal information and went to leave and he told me sweet dreams as it was 4 in the morning. I got back to my room and realized I forgot to give my boss my timecard to get paid so I went back down and told him I'd appreciate if he put it in her mailbox before I forgot again and he looked at me and thanked me for reminding him because he forgot to do his. I said you're welcome and as I went to leave, he started talking to me about the weather. He and I are such good friends, we talk about the deepest stuff, he told me that he never told anyone about his dad before and he told me about his dad and how he used to beat him so we talk about major things and here he was talking to me about the weather and how he didn't want to have class. After a few minutes of that, I went to leave and nothing has happened since.
I hope you can make some sense of this and tell me what you think is going on. Why do you think he's being weird? My friend thinks it's because he's upset that he hurt me and he's trying to find a way to make it better. My other friend thinks he likes me and he's mad at himself for upsetting me. Why do you think he doesn't talk to me around her? Why was he trying hard to sit next to me at dinner and not talking to her at dinner? Why doesn't he hold the door open for her but he does for everyone else?
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Girl! ASK HIM! I know that going to your girls seems like the best thing to do, but they don't know how he's feeling.. There could be amillion reasons you can go through, but there is only one that he is thinking. If you are so close to him and you feel that you are such good friends then ask him! It's obvious that you have feelings for him otherwise you wouldn't be observing his every move. Just ask him. YOu won't know until you do. A million people would tell you what they think but you wont know until you ask him. Just be brave and ask him whats going on. If he trusts you so much (which it seems like he does if he told you something as personal as his dad beating him) im sure he will tell you whats up.. Don't be afraid to tell him how you feel.. I am here for you.
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I need some serious help , cause i'm one step closer into losing my sanity.First of all , my parents are divorced and this is the main reason of my life corruption.When i was kid(i'm 17 now)my life used to be filled with joy and everything was going smoothly and i used to be with my besties ,until my parents had a huge fight together and they got divorced , even though my mom was very patient with my dad's shitty attitude.After a couple of days my dad forcefully sent my mother and i to a foreign country(Egypt),originally i'm from America(NY).Ever since i came to this country my life went from perfect to absolute shit in all angles , my girlfriend broke up with me just because i'm distant from her , my mother is treating me like shit i'm having fights with her everyday , education here is terrible , my health is getting worse(i get permanent headaches) , i feel so alienated here , and this year i should go back to America(without my mother) for college and i'm gonna have to put up again with my dad , who ruined my life .I lost everything , what am i supposed to do , i know that nobody is perfect but this is just too much :( .Thanks
email - ahmedscater2@hotmail.com (link)
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DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF YOUR OWN HAPPINESS. I know that your family has been there for you your whole life, but if they start making you unhappy, that doesn't mean you have to put up with it. If you go back to America, you do not have to deal with your dad. You will be in college making a life for youself. If your family makes you feel uneasy or sad, tell them.. honesty is the best policy. If someone is making you unhappy, be honest and tell them. If they get mad at you for trying to understand why they treat you the way they do, then you don't have to deal with that. I know life makes you think thta family is always the most important thing in life, but you are the most important thing in your life.. Make yourself happy because in the end, you are truly the only one who is looking out for you.. i am here for you.
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is suicide a sin? (link)
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Regardless of whether or not it is a sin, (which im pretty sure it is) dont do it. there is nothing in life that can be that bad. You are special whether or not you want to feel that way about yourself. You matter no matter what anyone else says. Love yourself. I am here for you.
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Hi I'm 10 years old and I have a crush and want to ask him out but in a way no one has can you help me? (link)
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Crushes are the best thing that will ever happen to you, especially when you are young. Do you want to ask this boy to be your boyfriend? If so, be honest. Tell him that you like him and that you think he is interesting! If he says he doesn't feel the same way, don't feel bad sweetie! You are so young and you will like many people in your lifetime. Don't ever like someone who doesn't like you, and that even goes for friends! Be who you are and if someone doesn't like that, it doesn't mean that no one will ever like you for who you are! Be brave and say what you feel!
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