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Hey I Am 18 I need advice on how to tell my mom to let go. She is too over protective, crazy mom, examples when I was in high school she timed me on how long it should take me to get straight home from school. When am in college she forces me to come home every weekend to do shit at home. She doesn't let me hang out w. My friends she actually doesn't want me to have any friends she Dominican btw she doesn't even let me walk my dog on my own. She wants me to change schools so I can be closer to home never going to happen btw she checks my bags n room when ever she gets the chance too i have no type of privacy at home .. I just dnt understand why she like this never given her a reason to be (link)
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I feel like communication is key. Talking about the things that are piled up inside you will help you sort them out and make you feel better. Keeping them inside will only make you crazy.
My mom's protective of me as well but not overly protective. I think she understands that I won't do anything "stupid" or crazy. Of course, she's correct in thinking that because I am kind of conservative and an introvert. She wants me to be more bold and go out with my friends.
Maybe you could make a compromise with your mom. You could write a list of things you want changed and ask your mom to take a look at it. And TALK about it because I think you need to make her understand that keeping you confined inside the house won't help your social life in the future. Also, you won't be exposed to the different things in life. Tell her gently but firmly and also, make sure to let her talk as well. Ask her what she thinks and why she's so overly protective of you. Listening to her will help you understand the situation from her point of view.
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Hi, I'm a thirteen-year-old girl who likes girls. I just don't see boys in that way. When I think about my future, I see myself marrying a girl rather than a guy.
So, this question is strange, but I'll try my best to have it make sense.
I don't really remember who I had crushes on in elementary school, but I remember that most of them were boys. I had crushes on girls sometimes as well, but when I did, I tried to ignore the feeling.
When I started middle school, I started to become more and more girl-crazy, and I thought about guys less. I decided to embrace my feelings and be myself.
Now I don't like guys at all and only want to be with a girl. I also have a girlfriend now, and I'm so happy to be with her. My previous relationships were with guys, but I always ended it because it didn't feel right at all.
But I also know that I'm only thirteen, and my feelings could change. People sometimes tell me that it's probably just a phase and I will become straight later. But I can't bear for that to happen. I only want to marry a girl, and I cannot see myself in a relationship with a guy. Even the thought of liking a guy disgusts me.
Basically, what I'm trying to say is that I'm worried about becoming straight. I don't want that to happen and I don't want my feelings for girls to be "just a phase" like people say.
Thanks for any advice! And I apologize again for the awkward question. (link)
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The first things I want to say is that sexuality is fluid.
I don't think you should worry about "turning straight" because if you like a boy in the future, it means that you like him even if the gender of the person is male. Sexuality does not have do be something you label; it can be something you figure out as you grow up in life. If you continue to like only girls, that's great! because that's what you wanted. But, if you like boys as well, it shouldn't disgust you because it means that you have positive feelings for this guy. Just go with what your heart leads you.
Right now, you are happy with your girlfriend so spend more time with her without worrying about what could happen in the future. Worrying about it too much could unconsciously distance yourself from the people you care about.
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I am in the 12th grade, worrying about the future of course. I've been looking into this and trying to see what I want. Recently the idea of taking a year off was brought to my attention. Everyone I have asked has thought it is a terrific idea and they had wished they'd done it. I'm afraid that after my four years my life will be in a place where I wouldn't want to leave where I am because I would be beginning working. I would love to, more than anything, go backpacking through Europe and maybe even take a literature class in Athens. My father on the other hand feels it is a horrible idea and we don't have the money (even though I plan on getting jobs where I can and figuring that out on my own. I also have a job now) I guess what I need is not so much an answer but an opinion from someone more experienced is incredibly needed. (link)
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I am currently in college and there hasn't been a time in my life when I thought that I didn't want to go to college. However, I know that there pressure to attend college.
I don't think that it would be a waste of time to travel, if that's what you truly want to do. Through your backpacking, I think that you could gain insight and experience, and also, you have the time to think and enjoy life.
Speaking from personal experience, the summer of 12th grade, I traveled through Europe with Sound of America (Summer Music Program-- Honor Band & Chorus). We mainly played music but we also had time to look around the beautiful cities. I couldn't speak Italian or German but I took in the scenery and the difference in culture.
If you really want to travel, you should. Once you decide, don't look back on your decision. There will be other opportunities later on in your life!
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So ive always felt that the reasons we're here or the best way to spend your time and feel good is to help others. And ive bee trying and trying to do this, but idk what to do. I joined this website in the beginning of the year cause i was always really upset and i thought a good way to feel better was to help people and i love giving advice so i tried this and it was okay. And then i helped my friend with something, but i cant really help her anymore and i just i dont know. I dont have a lot of money so i cant really donate and one day if i have money i will but i dont want to just throw money at people. I like interacting and talking to people but i feel like i havent been through enough to really connect with people about a lot of things and really help them with anything. I dont know maybe i can make people laugh, and one day i want to write books but i dont know how much that can do and i dont know how much my books will really help anyone. I dont know i want to this cause i like making other people feel good, it makes me feel good and not like a total piece of shit who's just wasting their time with other shit and yeah. Please help me with what i can do. Btw im 16/f (link)
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I like listening to others and giving advice to others as well!
While I was reading your story the first thing that came to my mind is to do small things in life that makes people feel appreciated. For example, you can hold the door for someone coming in after you or hold it open for them before you go in. If you become accustomed to doing the little things in life I feel that you will feel more accomplished and people will feel the warmth and the care from you.
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