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18/f. I just had sex for the first time with my boyfriend of 4 months. And he knows this, but when I was younger, I was raped. Several times. By my older brother. and that's caused havoc with my love life, like you wouldn't even know. I just shut down for no apparent reason, I just get really scared and I don't know how to deal with it and it's so frustrating. and It hasn't been that huge of a problem, I'm fine with everything, we can have sex and I'm fine, but when we hit third base, I just can't do it. I can't give him head, I go into a nervous break down and I can't bring myself to do it. and yesterday he tried eatting me out, and I was okay at first, but just looking down and seeing him sent me into this horrible flashback and I can't let him do it. It just freaks me out too bad. I don't think this is normal, but does anybody else have anything like this? How do I make it go away? I want to be intimate with my boyfriend, and this is severally barring it. Thanks so much...
Sincerally, 3rd base horror (link)
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I understand your problem, although I was not raped I was molested many times as a kid. I am sure you have been told to see a therapist and I would strongly recommend it. I have never seen one because in my case I only ever saw one of my offenders ever again, but he is your brother and he will be present in your life.
I have had to stop my husband from making sexual advances towards me because I get flashbacks. A couple of things that work for me when I am intimate;
Repeat your boyfriend's name in your head.
Realize that what you are doing is normal and acceptable between two lovers.
Most high schools and colleges have therapist on hand so you might consider talking to them if you do not want your parents finding out. I know he is your brother and you do not want to hurt your parents, but is it fair that he is getting away with it while you suffer and will suffer for the rest of your life??? I cannot stress this enough, get professional help.
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Basically every girl in my grade including my best friends have had sex they also have boyfriends. I am really independent and mature for my age and dont feel the need for a boyfriend whatsoever. However I do want one as of right now but I am really picky. I'm not going to date someone who I dont even like but I do realize that the perfect guy isnt going to fall into my lap. But anyway I do sort of feel like the odd one out since im a virgin compared to everyone else. My bestfriends always have their boyfriends and have sex. On one hand I am perfectly fine with waiting for the right one but on the other hand I do feel left out. I dont know...any advice or personal experience is greatly apprpeciated :) (link)
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I, too, was the odd one out I waited till I got married a couple of years ago. I have to tell you that waiting for the right one was the best thing that I could have ever done. I am not asking you to wait till marriage just wait for the right guy. There is no rush to lose your virginity. I know that it can be "uncool" to be a virgin but when I was I was proud of it because it said that I respected myself. Yeah, it was hard staying a virgin but it was my choice not because I was ugly or unpopular. Just think, there are a lot of guys who fantasize about virgins and girls who wish they had their virginities back.
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Im 20 years old and I want my boobs bigger without the surgury..any wayy i can??? (link)
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try a product called "easy curves", its an exercise thing that works out the muscles behind your boobs. if this doesn't work try a padded bra that is sure to work!
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I have this Guy that I think I really Love, But how do I dump him without the guit. I mean this guy only wants me for my body and i'm 14, I am not ready for all of this . Someone Please Help me! (link)
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If this guy wants you for your body you should not feel guilty for breaking up with him. He obviously does not care about you as a person so the truth is he might not care about the break up at all. You say that you are 14 and that you are not ready for all of this, why then are you dating? These are the kinds of things you encounter in the dating world so if you can't handle this then you are not ready to date.
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If a guy ejaculates near my privates but not inside me can I get pregnant? my bf and me have had sex and this happened to me i got tested right after and I am not pregnant but im worried and I am against abortion so.... (link)
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Sadly, yes you can get pregnant. Its just a matter of how far away from your vagina he ejaculated. Sperm can swim and it can survive for up to a week. You can't expect to get real results from a pregnancy test right after the incident, real results can take about a month. why not use a condom next time? or spermicidal lube?
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I'm female and from what I can tell I am getting a mustache, which isn't very attractive. I've seen questions about female mustaches on here and they have suggested waxing, bleaching/dying, shaving, and cream.
Shaving is out of the question.
Waxing, well it isn't really bad enough to start waxing.
Bleaching/dying is an option but I don't know what kind of dye you would you use? Like normal hair dye or is there special stuff?
Also, I hear Nair works well but I also heard it can cause really bad burns, is that true? Do you recommend using it?
What would you do? (link)
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Don't use Nair, that stuff burned my mom so bad that she was left with a scar for years! Try bleaching, facial hair bleach is available at any pharmacy and is very affordable. Why is shaving out of the question? I noticed a little peach fuzz on my upper lip and I use an eyebrow razor to shave it off. The hair never grew back thicker nor darker.
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Okay well i am 14 yrs old i am an 8th grader and i love a guy. yah sounds simple but its not.here it goes i need help.
Okay well in february i met this guy and we i guess hit it off and we went out for like two days we didn't know each other so it was stupid.anyhoo he live(d) up the street from me so every weekend we would hang out he would touch my boobs and butt and stuff and i kinda really liked it anyway,,anyway he is a big player but really sweet and always could put a smile on my face anyway we liked each other on and off lots of times over this year of knowing each other. anyway he moved so we don't hang anymore i don't see him anymore i should just move on? I cant i love him so much nobody knows so what exactly should i do? get over him..how? (link)
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You are 14 and you do not know the difference between love and infatuation. You have to realize that this guy just USED you for his own sexual satisfaction and as a player he will continue using girls. Have a little more respect for yourself and your body, dust yourself off and next time time a cute guy comes around ask yourself, "what does this guy want from me?"
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19/female. i've had the biggest crush on my friend probably for about 3 years now. i let him borrow my handcuffs and whip haha yeaaah, and so when i get them back from him i kind of want to say something sexy. i dont want to be like "did you have fun??" because obviously he did, and i dont want to know or need to know what he did with them!! but i dont want to make it all awkward and be like .. "i'll use them on you next time" or something really obvious. when i gave them to him i said .. i have three instructions. DONT LOSE THE KEYS TO THE HANDCUFFS, THEY BETTER COME BACK CLEAN AND HAVE FUN!:) and he just kind of smiled and said no worries ;) i know hes attracted to me, we talk about sexual things all the time but have never done anything yet. i dont know what i could say that would be cute/sexy when he gives them back. and i dont want to just be like "thanks" and then leave, ya know??
any suggestions? i mean i'm also pretty new to this whole thing too like the handcuffs and stuff so also any ideas i could do with those tooo! thanks:) (link)
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Why would you share toys with anyone? Those things should be kept private between partners and not shared with others who might be diseased. And, if you like the guy why would you let him borrow sex toys that he is going to use with some one other than you? Next time someone asks for your toys tell them nicely to buy their own.
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Here's my info.
I am 14,5'6", about 115 pounds. As you will probably say, I'm not fat. And I know that. I'm actually on the skinny side.
My goal is to BE skinny. Especially in the leg area. That's basically the only body part that I'm not happy with. My thighs and calves. They're definitely not fat, but I want them to be skinny.
I want to thin out my legs without gaining too much muscle. So basically, I don't want them to be stronger (which will make them look thicker, which is the opposite of what I want), but to look thinner.
But my problem is my eating habit. I have a MAJOR sweet tooth. I can't control myself when it comes to food. But I've been wanting to fix that. I'm trying to eat less junk and more fruits and vegetables and water.
So any advice on how to get really thin legs (without pills or surgery)? As soon as possible please, and tell me how long.
Thank you so much! (link)
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Honey, you are 14 you should not be worried about that right now. You are in the age where your body changes and will continue to change for several more years. I understand that you are uncomfortable with your legs, but do you really want to have chicken legs? Why don't you try pilates? They help build long, LEAN muscle so you don't bulk up.
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