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Q: how are girls diagnosed for ADD? i read somewhere that they are not as physically active.. but i dunno. any help on this?

well i have add and i'm a girl. I've had it since i was born. everyone as it, just in some people you notice it more, and in others you don't. you should ask a school counselor or someone who would know about add.
hope this helped.
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Maya

Q: OK first Im f/14
I have a few questions,

1.ok my parents are 50 and 51, so they are old fashioned, well my bf and i have been going out for a year, and my parents always watch us like hawks to make sure we arent doing anything "inappropriate" well, so is there any way to escape them?!?!

2. My boyfriend and i kiss, just a little peck, how do i get him to start making out with me??? and i know he wants to make out with me!!!

3. Well so how do i get him to do more? not sex! but like more than just kissing, like idk what, but any ideas and advice?

4. ok, so like..im really confused with like EVERYTHING to do with guys, b/c he is my first bf, and my parents hide me from the world of anything like that, so explain to me EVERYTHING you can think of! ok?

please help me, and im sorry that im kind of out of the world of guys, sex, and relationships.
Thanks for the advice!!!

i would say, keep the kiss, or hold it longer, also looking up like as you would be looking into his eyes, but with your eyes closed. then like lightly run your toung over your lips in a sexy way.
hope this helped. sorry if its confusing.
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Maya

Q: 16/f

Alright, so me and this guy have been dating since the summer. I couldn't ask for a sweeter guy than him. When i am with him i get the best feeling and i just love spending time with him. Well my problem is this, one day at lunch one of my really good friends came over to my table. so we start talking and things and she told me that my man wants to do more things that just makeout. He has done things before with previous girlfriends. And im really not sure if i should or not. I mean yeah, i want to. But then the other part of me doesnt. Im just so confussed and i really don't know what to do. So if you could PLEASE help me i would really appericate it!! Thanks in advance. (:

i would say go with the flow, if he tries to do something while your making out, if you don't want to tell him, but if you do what to, then just go with what your body and mind are telling you. and don't think about it too hard. i know it can get all complicated if you think too much about it.
hope this helped.
xoxo
Maya

Q: i need help here badly ans i can't find a job for a 14 year old i dont know where to find a good one either i have my working papers but it says i can't complete it unless i have a pledge of employment which mean's if i dont have a place willing to give me a job i can't finish and hand in the papers to get my job =\ please help

try asking for a job at a local family-owned store. that way you dont have to deal with all the legal mumbo jumbo. it helps.

hope i helped
xoxo
Maya

Q: I really liked this 1 guy that used to ride my bus and he lives by me. But now he dont ride the bus anymore and i dont see him even though he lives by me!!! What can i do because im afraid that i wont want to go out with any other guy because i have the biggest crush on him!!!!! Hes in the same grade as me and hes the cutest guy that i have ever seen!!!!! What can i do???

well, have you tried going to his house (with/without a friend) and asking if he wanted to do something, like skateing, or going for a bike ride. then if he says yes, you have some time with him and you can talk and ask why he doesnt take the bus anymore, and anything else you want to know, and if he says no, then you can ask if he wants to hangout someother time, and maybe get his cell # and u can give yours.
take a chance and go for the guy. thats what i did. my ex-boyfriend and i went out for 1 1/2 years. it totally works!
i hope this helped!

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Maya

Q: um whould you happen to know where i can get a job at 15 and i live in california?

yes i do, where in california do you live? and what skills do you have, like cooking, baking, organization, singing, etc. look for a job that is small and family owned, thats the best because then you dont have to deal with all the legal mumbo jumbo. i am 15 and i took a cake dacorating class at cabrillo college. i asked for a job at my local baskin robins and they hired me because they needed someone with cake decorating skills. so its a good i dea, go for something you can do, or are good at.
hope this helped, if you need anymore help you can ask another question, or you can email me at
dancedance92@cheerful.com

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Maya

Q: this isnt really advice im just curious. one day this question popped into my head and ive been thinking about and asking other people as well. i already have an opinion of it but id like other perspectives. the question is, do you think one can be deep IN LOVE with another person, if the feeling isnt mutual? not just love them but be truly IN love. also could you please explain why or why not for your answer =] thanks.

yes they can.
in the musical LITTLE SHOP OF HORRORS, the girl Audrey, is inlove with the dentist Orin. but he doesnt even like her at all. if you have never seen or heard of this musical you should rent and watch it. but this just shows that someone(1) can live another someone(2), and that other someone(2) can not even like that first someone(1) at all. its really, sad but true.
so hope this helped

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Maya

Q: okay please dont answer if you cant handle this subject!Also please dont answer if your going to start preching to me because ill jus rate you a 1!!mmmk! so i was talking to my bf and he said that his mom somedays made him read the bible and he asked me do i read it and i said no.then he asked me did i go to church and i said no and he said well thats bad because your probably not going to go to heaven.then this girl who sits next to me who i am friends with who is very religious(dads a preacher)had to jump into the conversation and add her two cents.she started preachen about how if you dont beleieve in god your going to hell and blah blah blah.i simply told them i dont really beleive in jesus and that whole heaven and hell thing! then these other to girls jumped into the conversation to add some of there two cents.they said its common sence that if you dont beleive in jesus your going to hell and i said again that i just dont beleive in that stuff.then the girl sitting besid me started telling me about how she had seen and been through stuff...like she said that she knew somebody that had died and come back from the dead.i just kind of looked at her and was like,yeah sure whatever you say and tried to end the conversation there!I just want to know why people get so jumpy on the subject! why do people constantly try to convince u that jesus is real?!?i take civics and it clearly says in the 1st amendment "freedom of religion" so why are people constantly trying to get people to beleive in that stuff?!?then people start to get mad because i dont beleive in all that and i dont go to church!honestly the theory that are bodies disinigrate and become part of the earth is more logical then- there is a GOD in the sky that tells people if they diserve to go to a good place if they have been good or a bad place if they have been bad!and another thing...the bible was not written by GOD!it was written by a bunch of people who wanted to make it for whatever reason! so yeah...i dont get mad at people if they beleive in all of that but i dont understand why people get mad at me because i dont! its absolutely completely immposible to talk to these danm ignorant people about christianity!!!all they do is argue about how were going to hell!!!there is no hell to go to so it really doesnt matter!!!!i just wish some people would leave it alone!!why do they feel they are right in every way and everyone should beleive in jesus! i just would like to know a good way to deal with these kind of situations if i ever do get into one again which i probably will! i do not want to start going off at the mouth which sometimes i badly do want to because there so ignorant and stuborn but i do want to get my point across so any advice?!?!?

hi
i totally know what your going through. i'm Jewish but i'm also cathloic and i have a lot of friends, some have tried in the past to change me to be more cathloic than jewish. i got so tired of always telling them that i dont really believe in all that mumbo jumbo, that i finnaly gave up and told them all strait out that i had decided to be more jewish, and to join the temple near by. they were kinda mad at first, but once they saw how happy i was with all my jewish friends, they stoped bugging me. so i would suggest to just tell everyone that you dont belive in it all and that if they are going to try to change your mind, they could just forget about or, or they would loose u as a friend.
hope this helps

xoxo
Maya

Q: I know im young but is there any place i could get a job at 14? or even 15 i guess is better. i really need to make some money and was wondering. i dont care what job it is anything would be good EXCEPT no babysitting jobs or anything like that cause i already do that.thanks so much! 14/f

yes there are many places you could work. i'm 15 and i got a job working at an ice cream store, because i have cake decorating skills and they needed someone with those skills. so look at your choices and decide on what your skills are. maybe you are great with kids. work at a gym that offers babysitting for their members kids. a good idea is to look for a family owned place, like a baskin robins, or an eriks deli. (i live in California)

hope this helped.

xoxo
Maya