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I'm Erin. This is my advice column. I'm suuuuuuuuuuper open, and I'm always here to answer and help you with your problems. Yeah, many people say I give out good advice and it works. So, here I am now, making one.

Don't be afraid to ask.

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hey erin its um rachel kind of one of delaney's friends.


um yeah i kinda have like three questions sorry, if you don't want to answer them, you don't have to, haha. (their about the same person though :D)


seriously, if you don't want to even read this or answer it, you don't have to.


um okay, well i have been going out with my bf for about 4 1/2 months now, and i realllllly want to kiss him. Every time i ask him to come to movies with me and my friends, he can never go! I mean i know he's busy but ehhh. Well, anyways, He brings up like me and him kissing all the time when we talk on the phone. but what im asking is, when is a good time to like kiss him, or like how do i know when he wants to kiss me?


Okay and another one of my questions is, that how do you know like a guy still likes you? because sometimes like i always think that he^ doesn't like me at all. Like we talk to each other all the time, and we just started saying i love you maybe, a month ago. then he says it though, it seems like he just doesn't mean it at all. I get really frustrated too, because he'll talk to other girls and not talk to me. One time i rode his bus and sat alone just for him to sit with me but he didn't and he didn't talk to me at all but he talked to another girl in our grade instead. He even shared his ipod with her and didn't offer to let me listen at all right in front of my face!

My last question is, my bf^ has like changed a lot since we have been going out. Like my best friend and him used to be like really good friends, but now all the sudden he hates her. It really bothers me sometimes because i like everyne to get along. He changed because he used to be so nice to my friends but now he's not, and he just act wayyyyyyyyy different than he used to act.



heyyy rachel, i defff. wouldnt answer your question, b/c i answer everyones question.


you are only in 6th grade, right? well, you shouldn't have to rush this kind of thing. I got my first kiss when I was in 7th grade, and I'm in 8th grade, and the guy who kissed me, welll we went out for a year. you don't have to be kissed at the movies, that's not the only place you HAVE to do it. like for me, we were at a park. it's that simple. but you shoudlnt FORCE yourself to do it, and he shouldnt force himself, when the time is right, it will happen.

well are you friends with any of his friends? ask one of his friends to ask him how much he likes you and if he likes another girl, and then have him tell you what he says. rachel, you are only in 6th grade. 6TH GRADE! you shouldnt be telling your boyrfiend that you love him, b/c chances are, you dont know the real meaning yet. love isnt something you just say, you feel it.

you know, people change all the time. he could have been changing all this time, but you only noticed it now b/c you are so close to him.

heres something else. when/if you two are to break up. dont be down about it. you are in 6th grade, and there are PLENTY of people out there for you. im the type to ALWAYS have long relationships. in 6th grade, i had my boyfriend till 7th grade. and 7th grade, i had my boyfriend till this year, and maybe further on. life moves on, no matter how much you will miss them, or like them.

come back if you need more help.
erin.

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hey, im really having trouble with people at school. i feel like i have no friends and if i do i can't trust them because i know theyy'll turn on me b4 i know it. im so sick of it all and the best thing i try to do is keep a smile on my face and hold back the pain. everyday i come home and i'm ready to cry. you probally wont be able to help me but, whatver. its worth a shot.

thanks (:

you dont think i can help you out? pshhh, i go through this EVERYDAY and i feel the same thing as you do right now. talk to your friends about it, and ask them if you actually can trust them... and if you still can't, write down the stuff that's in your mind in a journal... yeah, it sounds stupid, but it helps alot come out.

and just watch what you say around them, and try to make other frends.

but whatever you do, keep that smile on your face no matter what. it proves to people how strong you are, b/c you ARE strong.

come back if you need more help(:
erin.

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okay i'm going out with this guy and he's amazing but i now this other guy, which likes me, and i'm starting to like him! but the thing is, i really don't want to break up with my boyfriend now because he really likes me and it was just valentine's day and he got me a big present! but the other guy that isn't my bf is super superrr nice and he even asked me if i wasn't going out wtih my bf now, would i go out wtih him!? adn i'm just so confused pleaseeee help me erin. :D thank you.

well, yeahh.. DEFFF been in that situation, except mine was just a... TADDDD more complicated.

okay, well, i know that you totally dont want to hurt your boyfriends feelings, but forcing yourself to stay with someone isnt right. you do what you think is right. i cant tell you to break up with him, and i cant tell you NOT to break up with him.

but, you have to respect your own feelings... yes, you might hurt his along the way too, but think about how much it will hurt him when he finds out LATER from someone else that you like another guy... that would hurt him ALOTLOT more.

and if you do break up with your boyfriend, (think about it before you do, or dont break up with him), give time just for yourself. you can't just jump into a relationship with someone else RIGHT AFTER you broke up with your boyfriend. before you go out with another guy, make sure that your boyfriend is okay. yeah, he might not be too thrilled about you breaking up with him.. but give him some time. and until you know he is fine with you goign out with someone else, then do it.

think carefully about both guys.. whichever one you think will take care of you the most, or has taken care of you... and dont just think about the good things, think about the downside to both of the guys too.

come back if you need more help(:
erin.

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so. ive been dating this guy for almost four months. and i really like him a lot. but sometimes i feel like we're just friends. now dont get me wrong, i dont want to be friends with him, oh no. but sometimes he treats me the same way he treats his friends that are girls. and im always worried that hes going to go back to his ex girlfriend. any advice how to get over the fear of him leaving me. even though he has assured me that he was never going back with her?
thanks (:

well if he has assured you, then trust him. and talk to him and tell him that you think he treats you like other girls, and just a friend, not a girlfriend. he should understand you, and if he doesnt, explain it to him. tell him that you love him as a boyfriend and that you want to be treated like a girlfriend. he should have respect with what you say if he is the good bouyfriend he is..

your welcome(:
erin.

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yeah nvm im through with him
hes nothing but a waste of time
haha now a new problem
he says im mean and a backstabber for no apparent reason he thinks i told my friend not to let him play her wtf i didn't even say that. hes just making me really mad and i don't really care but idon't know how to handle this without making myself look stupid and hurting him to bad where he hates me for the rest of my life. i just want to be friends with him again. btw can you delete this after you get it..i think everyone knows who i am talkign abbout haha

okay, well just gice him time, and until he's raedy to talk about it... talk about it..

tell him the truth and what you told her, and even tell him to ask your friend...


and yes, i will delete it..


thanks,
erin.

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erin,
i think a teacher at my school, may want to start a relationship with me...
my friend told him (as a joke) that i wanted a relationship with him, and he laughed and said " i know".

erin i find this very creepy.
what if he trys to rape me?
should i tell somebody?

thank you(:

welll hmmmm...


okay, he's probally just kidding around with you to creep you out...
but its okay, becuase we start a different semester soon, and you probally wont have him anymore..


if says that he "has to see you alone" or "talk to you privatly" then get worried and then tell an adult.


thanks,
erin.

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heyy erin,
idk what to do. i tell everyone i don't like the guy but my heart is still going back to him. We used to do so much stuff together like hold hands and im not gonna say anymore incase they r reading lol. but he doesn't do that anymore which makes me want him morE..i guess..im confusing my self. but also my best ffriend likes him and i think he likes her. i told her to keep going on cause i don't care what happens between them. but now shes the one talking about him its not me anymore. i want him but i don't

well, respect your friend. she took over, what she thought you didnt like anymore, b/c you said you didnt.

and try to get over him, go to like school dances, or other get together and get to know other people.

hes the past, look forward to the future.
respect your friend, and if things dont go good between them, then be there for her.

thanks,
erin.

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erin,
i really like this girl and i asked her out over the summer nad she said no. i really want to go out with her nad i don't know if i should ask her out again.

well do you know if she still likes you or not?
find out if she likes you by having one of your friends, or one of her friends ask her.

or, be brave and ask her yourself.
if she likes you like that, then go for it.

thanks,
erin.

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erin,
when i'm talking to people i say pretty much all i'm gonna say, but when i'm all out of stuff to talk about, what do i say. cause i see everyone else talking and i don't how they come up with all of that to say. what should i talk about?

dont make up things and lie abotu things you do, thats bad... just talk about school, or what you did over the weekend, or ASK if they want to hang out or something.



talk about something you find interesting, or something you know they will.

-Erin

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i like to think about sex.
its addicting.
and my friend, im not saying her name, well i think she thinks that im obsessed with student teacher relationships.

so what should i do to make her think im not obsessed?

:D

go to a counsler sweetheart.
lol.


-i love you abbbey.
erin.

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i think im like in lovee with this hot kid named erin..
what should i do?

welll, maybe you should tell her (:
maybe she feels the same way abotu you.


you never know...


-erin.

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cdzinc won't work. It only plays videos and not the artists albums or songs. Whats going on?

i have no idea.
maybe you should like download something else.

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i think im madly in love with you.
your hot. and everytime i see you, i get all of these little butterflies in my stomach.
i think im ready to pop the big question :O

I LOVE YOU ERIN.


-----av.
gym (:

lmfao (: ohhhhh babbby, welll gym is pretty fun.

those initials, wow... they are hard.
ANTHONY VANCE?! ahhaha lmfao.

i love you abbey, i do.

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e r i n < 3
i feel like recently i have been drifting awawy from one of my bestfriends. She is my dearest friend ever and she is being taken from me by this mean, fake bitch. i want to let her kno how much it hurts to see us become less and less of friends, but i dont want her to think im a freak. i dont kno if she would but still...now im not even making sense. I WANT MY BEST FRIEND BACK! please help me:[

well if shes your best friend, she will obviously understnad and respect what you are saying. if she doesnt, then there is something defffffintly wrong.

all you have to do is tell her how you feel... and i garuntee you, she wont think that your a freak.


tell me if it works okay?
thanks, erin.

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erin.
i htink i might be gay.
when im wiht my firends i feel different then when i used to. and i just dont see girls as my friends do.and i think i might have a crush on this one guy. and idk how my friends will take it if i tell them im gay and what will my parents think. please help erin.
-david

well, dont tell them until you are ready.

you might just be going through a stage or something, you know?

nothing is wrong with being gay, love is love.
no one can stop that.


but if you are unconfortable with telling people, then dont tell them until you are ready. but when you tell people at first, it might be a shocker, and yes... some people might over react, but eventually get over it.

there will ALWAYS be someone to talk to if you have no one else; me.

thanks,
erin.

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there is this mean teacher that i have and he does whatever he can to give me a bad grade and my parents are mad at me wat shold i do?

tell your parents what he does.
and if they dont listen, tell the office. there are PLENTY of mean teachers that do that in my school. and when we tell the office, then they get notified and they cant do it anymore.

last year, there was this teacher (social studies) who kept giving me bad grades, and pulled my hair and hoodie once. we went down to the office and told, and he got fired.

all you have to do is tell your parents the truth, and tell the office. its not fair that the teacher is doing that.

thanks,
erin.

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hey erinn.
ok so theres this girl that i used to be best friends with, but we always got in fights. im not saying i didnt do anything, but she tells everyone completely different storys, like she was just sittig there and i randomly came up to her and was started going off on her, ad beleieve me, this was NOT the true story. i would say we both eqyally started the fightss. and whenever anything bad happens to her, even thoutgh we arent friends, she blames it on me, ad its gettig old. plus she would always say i wanted to be like her and i wa jealous, but i seously wanted to be nothing like her ad i was sometimes embarrased by her..but she thinks differently i guess. and she still cant get over talkig bad about me and just hating me, and i dont know what to do anymore. please helpp.

okay, confront her about this.
but say it nicely, the meaner or snottier you say it, will just make things worse. tell her that you dont appreciate her doing stuff like that. and if she doesnt listen to you, it may come down to telling the counsler. yeah, you will be a "tattle tale" and everything, and no one likes to be like that, but she made the situation THAT BAD.

just tell her that she needs to stop, and that if she stops then everything will be alot easier than just making the fight worse than what it already is.

thnks, need more help.. come back.
erin.

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My bf is 16 and his penis is bent or curved quite a lot hes insecure about it i told him not to worry its ok ive heard that its normal for it to bent or curved in some form is this true?

honestly? i have no idea.

maybe you should like, look it up on goohle or something.

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hey girl heyy, :)
ive heard about your aadvice thing u have goin and so ive decided to seee if you could help me with my problem. okay well i like this boy rite he gvoes to a different school than i do but yett i like another one who goes to another different school. ones far and ones close but i like the guy whos far not as close if you get what im saying (like i mean location, far close) and ii also have a friend who mite relate to this problem too. and one leads me on and plays me and the other realll amazingv boy says im the 1 for himmm.. who should i go for and what should i tell one another if one asks me out and i say yes? i really need ur help and your great with this stuff because youve helped me before. Thanks again, :)

sighned in love and confused?! =]

okay. if i have told you this before, i cant tell you who to choose.. only help you.

now, this guy that treats you like crap and stuff, then honestly? you really shouldnt date him or anything. if he is going to be a bad friend, imagne what kind of a boyfriend he will be. get what im saying?

and this other boy, saying that your the one for him... well do you feel the same way? and would you like too? if he would treat you with as much respect as he is being a friend, then go for him.

when the one you like more asks you out, then say yes if your ready. and how to tell the other boy, well he will probally figure out by maybe your profiel or other people talking.
but i good way to tell him that you have another boyfriend is just maybe telling him, hey me and blank are going out now... just say it natrually.


im going out with a guy from a different school, soo i know how hard it can be. the school my bf goes to is in holland sylvania, and if you would like to go see him, you shoudl probally tell your parents about him so you can go to his house and he can come to yours.

he location of the school raelly shouldnt matter unless he lives like 30 or more away from you, then that will be a problem seeing him over the weekends.

choose wisely,
im always here (:
erin.

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this is me again about my gayness
and ur advice is really good
but i have one more question
what if my name was austin wasielewski
and i was maknig all of this up (:
hahahahaha

lmfao.
hahhha yeah, i was thinking abotu all of the austins i know, and i was like.. uhhhh he has andrea, nahh it couldnt be him.


lol,
and none of the austins i know are gay.
hahahhaa.

++its cold outside? hahaha.
nice.

good job austin (:
erin.

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