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I ended things with my long distance boyfriend of 1 year, a month ago. The distance was hard, we were fighting a lot the last 2 months, and I figured it was best to end it.
We haven't spoken since, as I decided no contact is best for me to heal, he did contact me once but I never responded.
3 weeks after we broke up, he got a new girlfriend. I feel really sick about this.
I was doing surprisingly well, until I found this out. Now I find myself thinking, "wait, are we soul mates? should i contact him? did i make a huge mistake and let go of 'the one'?" I keep feeling the urge to e-mail him, just to talk to him, to see if he still cares, to see if we'll ever have a future.
I haven't e-mailed him though, and I'm REALLY trying not to. I KNOW I'll look desperate, because he has a new girlfriend, and I'm the one that broke it off anyway. I really think the break-up was the right choice. But, I think because I'm extremely lonely, and so hurt that he got over me so quickly..I'm second guessing myself.
So, what do you think? I keep replaying the good times we had together, and thinking about how we really did click so well, and it was honestly the best relationship I'd ever had, before it went sour. We did fight, but we just clicked, like 2 ppl that were meant to be. The main reason I ended it was because the love just felt like it was dying? On both sides, and I assume it definitely was for him..because he got a new gf.
So, I'm just wondering..should I contact him? Or should I just never contact him..ever again? I feel stupid for wanting to know if he misses me, or if we'll ever get back together..but I do want to know. I really just need some opinions. It's been a month, and I'm feeling so alone, and so depressed. Please, any help. Btw, I'm 19, and he's 22. (link)
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I dont think you should try to contact him. You broke up with him because you felt like the love was dying and you were fighting a lot, and that just tells you off the bat that things weren't working out. The fact that he got a new girlfriend that fast just solidifies that.
But don't stress out over his new girlfriend. Maybe that's his way of coping with the breakup, and she's just his rebound for right now. I'm positive he misses you at least a little bit considering you were going out for a year and he had strong feelings for you. There's no way he doesn't, so just know that. But that also doesnt mean that you should try to be with him again either. Just because he misses you and you miss him, doesnt mean that the relationship is good.
You should just continue on like you have been the past month. If in a few months you still feel strongly about talking to him, then maybe try to be friends with him again and see where that takes you, but I really wouldnt try anything with him now that he's with someone else.
And youre right, this all probably is just because youre lonely, depressed, and hurt that he moved on so quickly like that. But you should try and meet new people. Whether it's at work or school, surrounding yourself with new people always helps breakups.
Feel better and I sincerely hope everything works out for you.
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Me (female) and Tucker (male) have been dating three years. We have not done anything besides hug and hold hands. We have kept our relationship a secret and noone knows about. tomorrow is my birthday and he says he wants to kiss real bad. So I dont know what too do. Is our relationship going anywhere? I mean I really love him but we have a sorta you know friend relationship but we are in love. Should I break up with him or stay with him. Thanks for the help. (link)
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I think you answered your own question when you said "friend relationship". If you haven't done anything with him yet, I don't know that you will anytime soon. Is there a reason why you haven't kissed yet? Do you both want to? I would say go for it, if that's what you want.. I don't see what would be holding you back.
The direction of the relationship is dependent on what YOU want to do with it. He seems interested in making it go further just by wanting to do more with you and get more intimate. It's really up to you. If you love him like a girlfriend should love a boyfriend after dating for three years, then stay together. But if you just think of him as more of a friend and you can't see a future between you two, then break up with him.
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How is it a human being can no longer care wether they live or die? I'v been thinking alot and I realized I dont care. In fact i actually kind of want to die. I could never take the cowards way out, but still. i just don't care about anything. Is there a way where i could begin to care again? Why might i be feeling this way? (link)
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I know people who feel like that, and sometimes I do as well. You might be feeling this way if you're lonely or if something bad has happened lately. Try to think back to the past year or two, and see if anything bad has happened that you have yet to get over. Did someone die? Did you lose someone close to you? Did someone get diagnosed with an illness?
It could be a number of things. Depression and stress were the first two that came into my mind when I read the question. I really think you would benefit from meeting new people or trying something new that you have always wanted to do. Maybe a change of scenery, like moving or taking a vacation, would make you feel better. Get closer to people you haven't talked to much lately. Get a new job if you don't like your job. A major life change might trigger some kind of care about whether you live/die. You have to think positively and do something drastic in order to really fix that kind of a problem.
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I am home for summer from college and all my frieds, and when i say all i mean literally all my close girlfriends, have gotten boyfriends and it seems they dont want to have anything to do with me because i am single. I am happy for them but i have been spending all my time alone for the past week and a half. I could get a boyfriend too but i dont want to settle id rather wait for the right person becuase i dont think i need to have a boyfriend to be happy( The guys my friends date are really mean to them but its a whole other story). the point is that i dont understand why none of my friends want to put any effort to see me! (link)
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You shouldn't wait for them to approach you, instead you should just try to make new friends. If you have a job, start getting friendlier with the people you work with. Or if you don't have a job then consider getting one for the summer. That way, you'll have something to do for the summer, make money, and not sulk over losing friends. If they don't want to hang out with you then don't make it seem like you're desperate for their friendship, show them that you've moved on and see if they come after you. If they don't, then whatever, they aren't worth it and you'll make better friends.
And I agree with you, don't start going out with someone just to go out with them, wait until you find someone you actually like and want to be with. Otherwise you'll be in a really sticky situation.
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Okay well my lifes pretty good. except for the fact that my mom is on and off with smoking. how do i get her to stop?! or at least try to stop?! (link)
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I know what you mean. My parents both smoke and my grandparents did for a long time. Ive always been bothered by my parents smoking and tried to get them to quit, but nothing has been successful so far, because they simply don't want to quit. I hate to say this, but there is really nothing you can do to make them quit smoking, it's entirely up to them. Also, keep in mind that they're going to have a lot of trouble with it if they choose to stop, and it might take a few tries for them to fully quit, so you have to be very patient with them.
The only suggestions i really have for you is to have a serious talk with your mom. Tell her how you feel about her smoking, and how it affects you (second-hand smoke, etc.) Explain how you just want her to be healthy and you want her stop. Then, if she seems to warm up to that idea, explain all the different ways to get her to stop. There are tons of different quitting methods, like the gum or the patches, that can help her successfully quit. They're expensive though.
Make sure that when you go to talk to her you know a lot of facts about smoking and its effects on the body. Make sure to google "quitting smoking" and check out websites like http://www.smokefree.gov/quit-smoking/index.html . Maybe even show her these sites to explain better what you mean. She's going to need a lot of support if she goes through with it.
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So, I was looking through some hair styling websites and thinking about getting my hair cut. My only problem is some of the styles list a specific face type the hair looks best on (like heart shaped, round, oval). I don't want to pick a hairstyle that doesn't suite me, you know?
How do you know what shape your face is? (link)
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There are tons of sites that can help you figure that out. I was getting a haircut a few weeks ago and I used them to figure out what kind of cut I should get. :] Hope these help!
- http://www.dailymakeover.com/faceShape/quiz.jsp
- http://www.style-makeover-hq.com/face-shape.html
- http://www.visual-makeover.com/face.htm
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My boyfriend and I are having our six month anniversary on Friday and I want to make him a mixed CD of songs to share with him. I don't really know what KIND of songs to put on the CD, let alone which specific songs.
Should I make a mix CD of love songs? My favorite songs? His favorite songs? What?!?! And...are there any SPECIFIC songs I should really add to the CD before I give it to him? Ugh, how in the world do I make the perfect mix CD? :\ (link)
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I really think you should put songs that you two both like. Ones that you've listened to together in the past. The kind that bring up memories of good times you've had together. I think with a mix of those songs & your boyfriends favorite songs, it would be perfect for him.
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I am considering buying the Sims 3 but I have one very specific question about the game.
Can you transfer characters from the Sims 2 to the Sims 3 game if you have both of them installed? I like my Sims 2 families and would like to be able to add them to my Sims 3 game without having to remake them entirely, if possible... (link)
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No, the Sims 3 makers answered this in a Q&A. They said "There are so many innovations in The Sims 3 so it’s really not possible to transfer items or Sims from previous games. The level of detail in The Sims 3 is so high that any conversion from older games would not be satisfying for players."
But the Sims 3 is still a great game. :] I have it and I love it because you can actually go to neighbors houses and around town, whereas in the Sims 2 you're kind of stuck in your own house.
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Hi; Im interested in Criminial Justice trying to get my Associates Degree, Was wondering does anyone know what classes I need to pursue?I am trying to get the two year first. have had some college courses already and some Criminal J also.Is there anyone out here that has a idea on the best Community college I should attend or the best universary? Now that I made up my mind to go back I need some excellant advice from this site.Thanks in advance. Asking about the classes cause i don't want a college to stick me with courses I don't need. (link)
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I just finished my first year in college and I took a course in criminal justice [Intro to Criminal Justice] but next semester Im scheduled to take Criminal Justice Research Methods and Principals/Practices of Law Enforcement.
The classes youre gonna need to take depend on what kind of career you really want to pursue. Criminal Justice is a wide field. The college you should attend depends on the area you live in. But yeah, there aren't many colleges in my area that specialize in Criminal Justice. I picked a State College cause of the price and it seems to be fine for what I want to go into.
You should first pick a college and then the classes depending on what your advisor suggests. They're knowledgable in those types of situations so they can help you better than anyone.
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