hey my names ashley and i love music its like my life and my friends mean soo much to me and im one of those crazy advice columnists that has more problems then the people on here do but anyway theres only 3 things i cant stand my hugest pet peeves #1 the word ex-boyfriend (personal issue ... oh boy) #2 liars and #3 couples who say i love you after less then a month and couples who say i love you and dont actually mean it so basically i love this site and giving advice because i plan on being a psychologist when i get older so bring on the questions ill answer them all!
-ash
Gender: Female
Member Since: March 3, 2007
Answers: 21
Last Update: April 9, 2007
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Hey im a 13/f and i have just gotin out of a years relation ship. and the guy that i was dateing dumped me and wont say why. So his best friend conner who i have known since i was a baby has been txting me all the time and has been flerting with me. and saying ll this cute stuff and he has asked me out i haven't answered cuz i dont know what i shuld say. Is it wrong to be dateing his best friend who is also one of my bestfriends??? Please help me cuz i need it.
Love,
Bubble2Gum (link)
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Okay i say that go for it if you like him then good and if your ex gets mad then thats wrong because HE dumped YOU it would be different if YOU dumped HIM and then decided to date his best friend but thats not the case so go with your gut instinct it hardly ever lies so if you wanna go out with him then do but i suggest bringing it up to your ex if your still friends...
hope i helped
-ash
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I have dark brown hair, and I want it to be lighter without dying it....because its damaging
Are there any hair products that could make my hair lighter?? (Creme, shampoo, etc) (link)
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okay well i have dark brown hair and also wanted mine lighter and decided to do blonde highlights ... WORST decision ever i had to get them covered cause i didnt like them and now have a film on my hair and have to use special shampoo and wash it twice a day its a drag so im sorry for telling you my own story but i felt the need...
anyway i suggest dont use anything but good old sunlight that always does the trick but anything else even gels and stuff can damage your hair and you deffinitrly DONT want that ...(my mom works in a hair salon so thats how i know all this so take my advice!).. hope i helped
good luck
-ash
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Can someone tell me what type of dress most girls wore on their grade 8 grad?
http://www.debshops.com/Fashion/ViewInCat.asp?CatID=113
Like the green one in the second row, or someone simple, or something cute but simple but special material like the two poka dotted ones on the 2nd row?
Because Everyone last year wore like the green one but I was wondering if it's ok to wear like the poka dotted ones, I don't want to be dresing disrespectful or anything.
And what style did most girls have their hair? Leave it normal, striahgt down, Curled down, or tied in a half pony tail and curled?
Oh and I'm taking my friend too so what dress would look good on an asian? (link)
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okay so ive done the whole 8th grade dress shopping streesfest haha anyway ... i bought my dress at a macys and they had a huge selection of georgeous dresses and i suggest no polka dots graduation is more formal then polkadots so i suggest going to a macys or going online to macys.com okay hope i helped
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okay. so me and my ex boyfriend are talking again. and we dated for 11 months and i liked him for like a year and a half before that .. thats a long time ot like someone. we have both dated other people. but he out of the blue is talking to me again. asking me to hang out and stuff..
all my friends say its not a good idea. cause me and him werent always happy with the relationship.. he didnt always do waht he said he would.
but i cant get him off my mind. and him talking to me like this is makin me hopeful. and im tryin to stay nuetral so either way ill be fine but i really want him to want me back ..
i dont know how to handle the situation. its kind of like hes trying to decide whether he wants me. and he's keeping me around so he can decide that.
the number one advice would be dont wait around. i know. but what do i do if i cant do that ..? (link)
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okay so i basically had the same thing happen to me and its hard cause you dont know how they feel and you dont want to fall again and everyones telling you dont do it and not to wait around but in the end its your choice your life and most importantly YOUR ex boyrfiend so honestly go with your gut but dont get to attached and do hangout with him and figure out his feelings and goood luck and i know exactly how your feelings so if you need any advice at all just ask!
good luck hun!
-ash
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kay guys i'm looking for CUTE dresses.
not fancy dresses- but like cute simple dresses that i can wear to school and not look retarded.
i'm looking specifically for dresses that are not "babydolls" but more like tight around the stomach area and like a mini skirt on the bottom.. example:
http://www.abercrombiekids.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?storeId=10101&catalogId=10851&parentCategoryId=12103&childCatgroupId=12103&categoryId=12173&productId=2&langId=-1
it's like tight around the hip area so it doesn't make you look fat, and people will think youre wearing a tank top and a mini skirt.
okay if youre lazy and will only send me to websites without showing me specific dresses, i won't rate well.. don't just say "go to wetseal.com" i'll rate well if you guys do a good job of answering my question.
also- a dress that i can wear a white henley over so the top of the dress peaks through and i can see the actual "mini skirt" bottom of the dress
thanks! (link)
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try either delias or alloy they always have the cutest dresses ... i just orderd one last week =]
hope i helped
-ash
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Im a 13 yr. old girl and i like this boy and he used to like me but, i waited to long and now he has a girlfriend!! But i really like him ALOT!! he told me that he likes me but i guess not enough to brake up with his g/f. What should I do????? (link)
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there are so many girls with this same problem that come on this site and ask this exact question so ill tell you just what ive told them you need to straight up ask this guy ... say something like this > " hey i really dont want to come between you and your girlfriend but i need to know this... do you like me?"
if he says yes
ask him if he likes you more then his gf and if he says yes to that and tells you hell break up with his gf then good for you and congrats if not read the thing below
if he says no
you gotta face reality and move on and i know for a fact its superrrrr hard but you can do it i prmoise and find a new boy to like to keep your mind off this one
hope i helped hun.
-ash
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14/f
So there's this older guy who I've liked since the very first day of school. I just met him this year. And he keeps looking & poking fun at me and crap, so I'm 90% sure he likes me too. But it's getting really awkward..like one day we'll totally zone out in each other's eyes and then the next day I'll be totally embarassed to face him again because of it.
so now I want to stop liking him, because the awkwardness is driving me crazy and I'm not 100% sure if I'm ready for a bf (I could be ready, but i'm not COMPLETELY assured yet). I do everything to take my mind off him, whether it's pretending i dont know he exists in class or going out with friends to distract me. But everytime I think I'm over him he'll do something super cute and I'll fall head over heels for him again, then soon after another awkward lovey moment comes again and the cycle repeats. It's tiring but exhilerating at the same time. And even though I try to stop liking him, I also have a feeling that I really don't ever want to stop.
so i guess..um, what should i do? i need ANY advice at all, i'm at a loss. thankyou. (link)
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the age difference is not a big deal and what you should do is just go for it and flirt till you cant anymore and he sounds like he really likes you too and dont give up just because of awkwardness because sometimes awkwardness signifys people who like eachother i know its strange but thats how it goes so i think you should just go for it and take a chance!
hope i helped, good luck hun
-ash
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ok well here it goes
its like this well I like this 1 guy for like ever and he likes me back well lets call him Gerald. Then all of a sudden I like this one guys and he likes me back too lets call hiim Kevin. They're both really nice and cool. But I dont know which one I should go with. I feel that which ever choice i make someone at the end ends up getting hurt. Sometimes I like one more than another sometimes I like them equally but either way im still way way confused. i donn knoe wat to do??? I really really really really like each of them and that makes it soooooooo much harder. (link)
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i say wait and see which one you like more and really get to know them both well but after deciding on one stay friends with the other one because 1 its not right to hurt him and not be friends and 2 if you go out with the one guy and decide hes a jerk ad break up with him the guy you didnt choose will still be there for you and help you thru it and you may even want to date him then so im not saying cheat on whoever you pick im just saying stay friends
hope that helped
-ash
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k well i like this kid & he told me he liked me & he was like wicked nice to me so then we started hanging outt & we went outt but then i broke up with him cause like he didnt talk to me alot & stuff and i didnt like him as much as i thought but after we broke up like we talked more like before we went out & i likedd him againn then we went to this dance & we were gonna dance but he couldnt find me so he ended up dancing with this other girl & hooking up with her then they went outt & they still are but they have been going out for about two months & i likeee him & he said he liked me aboutt a month ago but one of his close friends says he likes me & like idk what i should doo nowww,p.s i love your site its wickedd cuteee
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okay well to be really honest with you he has a girlfriend and hes just playing mind games with you you need to talk to him and tell him [i know its hard but just tell him] .. say .. i know you have a girlfriend and im not trying to come between you two but if you like me then say so and if not let me know ...
if he says he does...
tell him that you need to know how much and if he likes you more then his gf and if he says yes hell dump her then be happy and if he says yes he likes you but not more then his gf then read the paragraph below this...
if he says no he doesnt ...
you gotta face reality that he moved on and i know this is hard and it sucks a lot but you gotta stop liking him because he obviously cant make his mind up what he wants and you cant wait for him forever you gotta live you life
hope all this helps good luck hun
-ash
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sometimes i feel like life would be better if i was a loner again. Having best friends is so complicated...and i take everything too seriously...and i'm extremely shy. My 'best friend' has really changed. Well we're opposites, but now we're getting to be even more opposites. I think in some ways I'm jealous of her too, but i can't stop feeling this way. It's gotten so bad that now I try to avoid talking to her at school. She's acting like she's clueless...but i know she feels like we're too different too. I just wish she could think, "yeah, okay, we're not best friends anymore" like me and just leave me alone. just give up like me. But the problem is, she doesn't think that and yet she still hangs out with her other friends and has so much fun with them, leaves me out and still calls me her 'best friend'. but maybe i'm just being jealous too, because i know she can have other friends, but, remember i used to be a loner and the only people i have now outside of my family are my friends from school and i don't want to loose that...What's the biggest mistake I'm doing right now? Should I just be fake and pretend nothing's wrong and let it go? I don't know what to do...I think i'm making it bad myself...
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TALK TO HER and tell her how your feeling and whatever you do dont try and be fake and act like nothings wrong and honestly if things dont work out with you and her dont give up or go back to you loner ways keep your head up and look for new friends who will include you love you and have lots in common with you because everyone deserves loving and caring friends who are like family so my advice is search for those people and when you find them NEVER let them go.
hope i helped
-ash
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So basically,for the past 2 years i've LITERALLY BEEN INVISIBLE. to like everyone at school. So next year, i want to make a name. i was to be fun,crazy,and wild. So to get out there,i was thinking of trying out for Drama, Cheerleading, and finally Vollyball. and takeing as much electives i can get. But the thing is,i don't know how to cheer lead,it looks wicked fun though :o). im really short and light,so you know,i could be a flyer. but seriously,i dont people to hate me because i cheerlead,that stupid sterotype. anyways, is it easy to learn how? and is this a good idea? thankss. (link)
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cheering is not that hard and is pretty easy to learn i dont cheer but my best friend does and she does in front of me and i catch on and start cheering with her instantly its not very hard at all so dont be worried ... good luck and listen to the girl before me who said dont do this for the wrong reasons!
good luck and lots of love
-ash
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i love this boy named james but all my friends wind me up because they know he wont go out wiv me.and they make fun of him and i dont like it cos i really really love him :( (link)
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honestly if you never went out with this kid before and like him then you dont LOVE him love is such a strong word and one of my pet peeves is having people say they love someone and not even know what love really is so im sorry if that offende you. now secondly who cares what your friends think or anyone else for that matter its your life hun and you can live it however you wanna and to be honest im not trying to be mean but if he wont go out with you then hes a jerk and you should find someone who will feel the same for you as you do them otherwise its just not worth it.
hope i helped! =]
-ash
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15/m uk..
Ok, so ive known this girl for quite a while now and we went out for 8 months non-stop, then i ended the relationship hoping to give all my time to concentrate on my studies.. that didnt happen.. as the days went on shes all i thought about and i always wanted to text/ring her, spend time with her or just do anything with her! While we were apart, we kind of made a deal that we'd both wait till after our exams to get back into a relationship - as when i ended things my feelings for her hadnt changed.. Alot happened in that time, sitting on other guys laps, she had feelings for another guy etc. I really tried to keep her feeling for me and only me, i tried my best, but it wasnt good enough. So i did what i wanted to do for ages, i asked her out again but said we should keep it a secret from everyone. This has been going on for a few weeks now, and things are going great. But, still i feel insecure about her and most other guys she is with.. I just feel like every guy she is with is better than me in someway, and that one day she will see that for herself and leave me for them. I really really love this girl, she means the world to me and id do anything for her! She is all i ever think about, and the only person i wanna spend my time with. How do i deal with all this insecurity?
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think about it if shes with you she must love you and dont worry about those other guys she obviously sees something for in you then she does in them dont feel insceure it seems like the feeling is mutual to me so dont worry and get jealous she wont leave you if she loves you trust that and be less insecure and more happy that you got her back.
good luck
hope i helped
-ash
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i have know this guy for about 2 years now but this past summer we have gotten really close but then he tells my he has a girl i wasnt realy worryed at that time because i had a man. but know were both single is like we got even closer.we both know we love each other but he moved to staten island where she lives. they just started to she each other and know she says that she wants to have his baby and he doesnt want one. but i dont know if i should dont talk to him any more because i dont want him with her or tell him if he a baby with her were done with. i dont know what to do about the whole thing. (link)
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you should tell him exactly how you really feel and tell him you love him and that you dont wanna see hm with this other girl and it may be realllyyy hard but you gotta tell your true feelings to him bcause if you really love him like you say you do and he really lovesd you like you say he does then you should be the first one to not be afraid to say hey i still love you and leave it open for him to say the same and if he doesnt he may not be the one for you as you think and as for this girl dont let her get to you if you know that you and him have something special and more and longer then hers was or ever will be so dont let that dumb girl get to you. good luck with all that hun. hope i helped!
-ash
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Well everytime i'm getting fingered I always have to pee or something or something squirts out. it's really annoying. ah why does this happen to me? (link)
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well this is strange for sure but i say go to the bathroom first? or something like that but if its dishcharge then thats not a problem... i have to say one of the strangest questions ive answered but good luck!
-ash
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My ex boyfriend from seventh grade is i think still mad at me. we broke up really badly because someone got on my screen name and was telling him stuff for months. he thinks i was lying to him the whole time. its been 3 years now i hate to say it but everytime i see him in class i just feel all these feelings rush back. we didn't do anything like sex. but i don't think he likes me... he doesn't i.m. me or anything. but i think he's been pranking me lately. what should i do? (link)
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okay I WENT THRU THE EXACT SAME THING so listen up.
in my sitaution he started talking to me first but either way just call him and be like i dont want things to be awkward i want us to be friends and then talk with him like once a week or if you really get close then daily and if things start going well then flirt a little and things could take off from there.
believe me that a litttle talking after a long time can go a longgggg way...
now i got one more thing if you do end up flirting and hooking up with him again dont lose him and let him go ive had my own situation where i messed things up and now we dont talk anymore and he got a girlfriend but i still love him and am stuck waiting for him so if u do get him back in your life dont screw it up like me and let him go SORRY that i brought my own thing in but i dont want ANYONE to have to go thru what i am right now
GOOD LUCK HUN
-ash
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okay, i never had a boyfriend before up until last week. he's coming over sometime in the next few days. i think we're watching a movie but anyways. there's a few problems.
1. my dad doesn't like the fact that i'm dating guys and he'll probably say no. how can i convince him to get to know him? my boyfriend is probably one of the sweetest guys in the world..i just don't know how to get my dad too give it a chance.
2. how can i make this night, not so boring? like, i've never been kissed before or anything, and i don't know what he's expecting of me. so we watch a movie, and then what? board games?
3. does everyone feel so insecure when they start dating? or is just me?
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1. okay well if your dad doesnt like that prove to him your mature enough to deal with a boyfriend and my suggestion is have him meet your dad for like dinner at your house or something like that and it will be nervewacking but if hes as sweet as you say your dad will see it too! =]
2. well first off DONT feel pressured to kiss him if you want to go for it if not then dont rush it watch a movie and just chill it wont be boring if u reallyyy like eachother then just the fact that your together will make it fun.
3. sometimes but dont feel insecure he obviously likes you if hes dating you so enjoy it and just be happy with him and most of all DONT WORRY and BE HAPPY! =]
-ash
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How do you grind with a guy?
-my back to his front
-us facing eachother (link)
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your back to his front silly =p lol and its not hard either and dont be worried go with the flow!
=] -ash
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it's been almost a year since i've been with this boy, but lately i just started missing him. i was with him for almost 6 months, and i guess that doesn't really seem like a lot, but when you're 12, being with somebody for that long is longer than it seemed. anyways. i've really been missing him lately. i had a dream about him last night, which made me miss him more. plus, we passed by where he lived yesterday, and it made me think of him. march 18th would've been our 2-year anniversary, if we didn't break up. gosh, i really miss him. i was thinking of him when i woke up this morning. i don't want him back, but i really wanna see him again or something. maybe start talking to him again, since we haven't talked since we broke up. do you think it would be a good idea to ask him to meet me somewhere?? he doesn't have a girlfriend right now, but i'm pretty sure he has his eyes on somebody. like i said, i don't wanna go out with him again, i just wanna see him. should i do it or not? if you have any other opinions about this, i would really appreciate it, too.
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okay well i think its absolutely fine to like call him and be like hey i miss talking with you we should chill but let him know your not interested in a relationship again you just wanna be friends and stuff and its always good to be friends with your exs believe me you probably know him really well and will probably end up being very close friends with him which is always good so i say give him a call!
-ash
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i want to have more fun on weekends, rather than just hanging out at like people's houses. i want to hang out with guys and like bigger groups of people and go places with alot of people. any advice? (link)
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well this may sound dumb to some people but me and all my friends like group of like 20 or 30 people go cosmic bowling every friday with free passes and have sooo much fun and we dance to old songs from the 90s and bowl and have a greattt time and it lets us all have fun and be together each week
-ash
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