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Gender: Female
Location: Middle of Nowhere
Occupation: Book shelver at a library
Age: 16
AIM: buggybrain4ever
MSN: chocolatenutbar@hotmail.com
Member Since: September 27, 2003
Answers: 40
Last Update: October 24, 2003
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I moved away from to go to college, but most of my friends stayed in our hometown to either take community college courses or just slack off and not do much of anything. Now it seems like every weekend they guilt me about not coming home. I can come home some weekends, yeah, but honestly I'm making some new friends here that I like to party with too and don't really want to go home more than once a month. My high school friends are just like, "But it's so-and-so's annual such-and-such party! You've never missed this! are you too good for us now or something?"
Am I a bad person for neglecting my old friends? Should I make more of an effort to go home and salvage these relationships? I want to stay friends, but sometimes I wish phonecalls were enough. (link)
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It's your own life! Don't let your friends run it. If they're really your friends and you sit down and explain the situation ("I'm just trying to meet some new people, I'm not sick of you or anything, I just want to see what else is out there at the same time"), I'm sure they'll understand. If they don't, then they're not really your friends. Just make sure you actually stay in touch with them.
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Ok, there's this guy that I really like. We are good friends and I've known him most of my life. I don't know if I should ask him out or leave our friendship how it is and maybe look for other guys...(ok, I'm not from the US so I have no idea how your grade system thing works but I'm 16...not really young...). Anyways. (link)
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Ask him how he feels about the situation, theoretically. If you say "So I've got this friend, and she really likes this dude..." etc, etc. If he likes you, he'll probably get the large hint you just gave him, and if he doesn't he'll just say something along the lines of "huh?"
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sometimes i feel like my weight is getting to high ...although everone tells me i am not fat i feel it and i dont want it! i cant go running i never am able to keep it up....i cant help my self to foodS! i crave easy how can i solve this without those traits! (link)
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When you crave something, drink water. Water fills you up very quickly, it's zero calories, and it all leaves you anyway. Keep a bottle of water handy and drink it whenever you get an urge to eat food.
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I am building a bridge out of toothpicks. Problem? The stupid glue won't dry! PLEASE help me! It's due tomorrow! (link)
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Freeze it. If it's cold, won't it stay hard? Seeings how glue is liquid-y.
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I'm eating too much unhealthy junk food. What are some healthy snacks I can eat instead of chips and sodas? (link)
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Fruit juices (orange juice rocks!), whole-wheat crackers, various fruits or vegetables. I love to eat celery dipped in peanut butter with raisons. It tastes awesome and it's incredibly healthy for you.
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there is this guy who just asked me to homecoming. i dont really like him so i said that i would think about it, and fortunately for me a guy i like asked me and i said yes, now i dont know how to tell him that i am going with someone else because he was really expecting to go with me. how should i tell him i am going with someone else?b (link)
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Just give him the straight up truth: you don't know him all that well, so when another guy you like asked you, you said yes. The truth is the simplest thing.
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why does god hate me?
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God does not hate you. You may think that God may have a funny way of showing you his love for you, but I don't consider his Son dying on the cross so you don't go to hell for sinning against the Almighty powerful God a way of showing hate towards you. God doesn't hate you just because bad things happen to you. God gave humans free will, and we've screwed up this world so much that if something wrong happens we automatically blame someone who just wants us to show him a portion of the love he's shown us. I could go deeper into it, but if you really want to know more IM me sometime and I'll give you a whole list of reasons why God doesn't hate you.
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I work at FedEx and there's this guy that got hired on the same time I did. We became friends, and we've seen each other outside of work but strictly as friends. Now, for no reason at all, he's stopped talking to me. He goes into work a different way so I don't see him. He doesn't talk to me online, and when he sees me online, he puts up an away message. I figure he's met someone but I thought we were just friends so that shouldn't matter. I hate feeling like someone is avoiding me like a plague, especially when I didn't do anything. What's going on? (link)
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Well, I can't tell you exactly what's going on. Seems like you know the basic jist of the problem: he's avoiding you and you don't like it. My best advice is confront him about it until you get a straight answer. He could just be having a bad day or week or month, he could just be waiting for you to seek him out. The only way you'll know is if you ask HIM.
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Everybody in my school has already had like 10 boy/girl friends... I've had none. Thats right... zip, zero, zilch! They all say how great it is to be hooked up, and they always have someone to dance with at activity nite. I have nobody!
Sincerely,
BoyCrazy (link)
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First of all, relax. Boys aren't that important. They're more of a hassle than anything else. Boyfriends are more than just posessions, they're people too (some people say that, anyway). You should at least somewhat kinda care about a person before you start dating them.
If you're really looking for a guy, check out places outside of your school (other schools, the mall, various other community gatherings) and start doing new things. Join clubs, sports, anything. It'll help you meet new people and quite possibly the boyfriend you're looking for.
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I so want to travel to atypical countries for vacation. I'd rather go to India than France or England, Africa than Cancun, Cambodia than Japan, the Philipines than Australia.
Any suggestions? Where would a good place to go be? What might I need to be aware of before I go to such places? (link)
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Morocco. Very cool place. Be aware of things like heat and terrorists, and look up other information before you go. But definitely interesting.
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How do I get kids to show up for debate practice, or to take chess practice more seriously?
Chess isn't all fun and games if you want to get good. And it's frustrating to go to tournaments and lose all the time, so I'd think they'd want to get better. Study. Too much like schoolwork.
At least they're showing up for chess practice. I'm getting almost nobody to debate practice. And this was their idea, too.
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Explain to them that it was their idea in the first place to have these clubs. If they didn't want to participate and strive to be the best, tell them not to bother to show up any more. Even if you lose a bunch of people, at least you have the ones that are dedicated. Sort of.
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Why are squirrels such vicious and demonic rodents? (link)
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Because their bushy tails make them cranky.
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I've heard that some babysitters take classes at local hospitals or community centers. What do they teach you? Are they worth it? Does it matter where you go to take them? (link)
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I, too, have heard this. They're not really that cool, they just teach you the common sense stuff: don't let the kids play with matches, etc. Some of them give you a little pack that comes with first aid stuff and ideas for games to play with kids. But mostly babysitting is just common sense, so I wouldn't suggest it unless the kids you watch are constantly getting hurt because of your carelessness.
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I like to go jogging in the park a lot, but I've heard from some people that it's really tough on my joints, especially knees. My knees and ankles are sore after I run, but I can't think of a better activity to do for my heart, you know what I mean? Is running really so bad? Am I going to crumble into nothing someday, or can I just drink lots of milk and be fine? (link)
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Running can be bad, but only if you don't take the necessary precautions. Make sure you stretch before you run, it's good for your joints and your muscles. Drink plenty of milk and take calcium supplements to keep your bones healthy. Don't run on hard surfaces such as roads or sidewalks-stick to grass or dirt. The pounding will be softer and put less pressure on your feet. Also, mkae sure you have the right shoes. The right shoes can mean the difference between knee replacement and a lifetime of running.
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When you work out and get sore muscles, what helps more, ice or heat? (link)
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Ice for fifteen minutes, heat for fifteen minutes. If you alternate it won't freeze you or burn you, and it feels pretty good on your muscles.
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What's the worst that could happen if I dont see a doctor about an ingrown toenail? (link)
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Ooo... I know about this one! The toenail can get infected and grow into the skin. It will eventually get all pus-y and hurt REALLY BAD. Infected toenails will bleed quite a bit too for no apparent reason. Go see a doctor right away, they'll take out the ingrown toenail with almost no pain whatsoever. If you wait until it gets infected, the toe has to be drained of the infection and it's kind of painful.
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which church is the best church 2 go 2? how do i pick a church thats rite 4 me? (link)
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The best idea is probably to visit a bunch of churches and find out which one is most comfortable to you. That can mean which message is right for you, how the people react, and the way the church is involved in the community. You can also call up most churches to ask questions about service times or what the church is all about, and sometimes you get a really good feel for the church over the phone. Also, consider praying about it.
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Do you feminists hate gay men as much as you hate straight ones? (link)
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Hmm... perhaps this has been a misunderstanding of what a "feminist" is. A feminist is a person who stands for equal rights for women. Feminists don't necessarily hate men, but the fact that some of them treat women like dirt is what infuriates feminists everywhere. So if a gay guy treated a woman like dirt, I would dislike him. If a straight guy did the same thing, I would also dislike him. I try not to base my opinions of a person because of a stereotype given to them. That's what got men in trouble about women in the first place, right?
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Where are my gray socks? (link)
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There are no gray socks. It's all part of your imagination. Actually, you have no imagination either, because you are not there. None of us are.
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so i'm sailing aboard a ship n noticed there are a few holes in it. microsoft has told my friend that we shud fill them. what shud we fill them with??? we could use socks but we rnt sure cos they mite just soak up the water from the sea n the earth will b dry! can u suggest a sock substitte? (link)
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If your boat is wood, use wood. If your boat is metal, use metal.
It's not that complicated.
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