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I like this guy..and i heard he likes me from his friends and i want to hang out with him. But..the thing is he's not one of those guys who you can call up and invite him somewhere. He's different..he doesnt do much and he only has like 3 or 4 close friends. He's not a loner or nething..i mean he has friends at school but he never hangs out. Only with like maybe 4 of his closest friends. Well..i want to to hang out with him..what do i do?

Talk to him. Become one of his friends, gain his trust. If he likes you, chances are he won't mind if you just go up and talk to him...get to know him and find things that you have in common.

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ok i get this report about how i do in school each week. and when i 1st started getting it my dad said that if i get ONE bad thing on it than i am grounded for the whole weekend...no phone. no computer. no friends. no tv. no music. and then something bad was on it and i really dont wanna b grounded this weekend so i told him i forgot it somewhere and that i cant find it so he told me that he wanted to see it on monday and i was free this weekend but he said that if i forget it on monday or if its bad than i get grounded for 2 weeks...and in the next two weeks ill be going to 6 flags and the kiss concert so i dont know what to do because i dont know if he would take those 2 things away from me because he payed for them both..what should i do? be free for this weekend and have a good time like a plannned?? or risk being grounded for 2 weeks..but then again he might forget..please answer! soooon! ill rate.

I would hurry up and 'find' that report...being grounded for 2 days is a whole lot better than being grounded for 2 weeks. Your dad won't forget about it. I guess it's your choice...if you give the report to him on Monday, he might want to know why you didn't tell him about the bad mark, or something. And even if he payed to the concert and theme park, it's possible he'll take them away in a split second..my parents probably would, but everyone's different. I guess it's probably best to sacrifice your weekend for an awesome 2 weeks.

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I've been trying to be a good singer lately. I went for lessons but they did absolutely nothing. I've been singing everyday after school for the past 3-4 years. It's the only time I can because I get embarassed. We had a school musical and when I had to sing to tryout, I choked. But before that, I sang for this girl that wanted to hear me and we both agreed I did good. So bottom line: How can I become a better singer and get over being afraid.

Well, to become a better singer...sing as much as you can. Sing along to the radio or CD's. Sing in the shower. Sing in front of close friends. If your school has a choir, join it! Maybe you can try lessonsagain, at a different place. Really focus on breathing techniques, lifting your soft palette, etc. (I've been taking lessons for a while and have learned so much...), and learn to support your voice.

As for stage fright...the only way to get over your fear is to face it. Start with singing in front of one close friend...then maybe a group of your friends. Don't put a spotlight on yourself at first - have a party and sing karaoke, or something. Have a good time with it. Then, maybe go to your choir teacher or someone of the like, and ask her if you can sing and ask for tips and stuff. Then, try out for another musical. Take a deep breath, and focus on the things you learn in lessons. And always have fun, cause everything's better when you're having fun!

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I think that this guy that rides my bus is attracted to me and he is really sweet. I've never had a boyfriend before so I don't know what to expect. Plus, he happens to be my friends brother aswell. He always stare at me and turns away when i look, and when he thinks I'm not looking he stares again. Anyways recently i have admitted that I really do like him. I told my friend that I liked her brother. How do i get to know him better as a friend first without sounding like an idiot? And once I am friends with him how can I get him to take that step forward with me? I'm just trying to figure out what I need to do to see if he's into me or not? Please help.

You should probably just find some things that you have in common with him. Or if you feel comfortable around him, you can talk about totally random things. And you should be able to feel comfortable around him, if you want to possibly date him in the future. But as for finding things you have in common - there are so many possibilities to learn more about him. What kinds of music does he like? Maybe it's the same ones you do. What movies or tv shows? Does he play any sports? Just talk to him like you would any other friend...and good luck!

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i live in this very small town and im 14 and so is jessica, we've been goodfriennds since we were 10 and she was always sort of an ugly girl, but now shes really gorgeus, shes fit into her body, pretty face, killer body.. she has the whole package. i love her becuz shed never ditch me and shes still the same but now shes been seeing or hangin out with older guys, some 18, some 21, or 23. and i mean if she can do it good for her but i hungout with her, this 22 year old john and his friend vince and i mean we rented a hotel and her and john went in but me and vince stayed in the car and we smoked and kind of hookedup, im getting feelinds for him and i know hes older but is it ok? she didnt make me like him or anything

It's your choice, but here's what I think...
He's 22. Your 14. The age difference is a lot. He's probably about to finish college...you're just entering high school. Even if you like him and he likes you, your interests may change. He'll have to get a job soon...
My uncle and aunt have a big age difference between them, and to tell you the truth, they aren't doing so great. He's way older than her, and wants to settle down and relax...she's still got the mindset of 'its time to partayyyy!' Their age difference sets them apart.
So, if you really like the guy, and he likes you, go ahead, but just know that he might be taking advantage of you...and besides, maybe you'll find someone AWESOME that's closer to your own age.

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