I'm really good at advice and want to be a therapist some day! so feel free to ask anything and everything, if you are under 16 then I have prob been through it all.
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Rose
i like this person..but i've NEVER talked to him before..well like in middle school like once but that was like "can i have a pencil?" kind of thing..and i see that in the other advice that you have given people, you just tell them to find out if he likes you..but i don't think he does if he doesn't really know who i am or even i know i go to the school, and theres like no way i could hang out with him..well theres like ONE way but that would be pulling alot of strings just to hang out with him or even like see him..and that would be really weird because i would be like the only girl there..yeah and i don't want that to happen..so its going to be hard giving me advice but i really need some..oh yeah, he's liked me before like in middle school but i havn't seen him in a long time...soo got anything? (link)
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well this is a toughy. I think you should hang out with him with a group of people. Thats how my friend got with her boyfriend. Like just go talk to him about some random thing like "Did u watch some show last night" then get into a convo and ask for his sn or soemthing, and then be like we should chill sometime...it usually works, or have a friend talk to him for you. Or are you friends with any of his friends? You can have them talk to him!
well this was hard
but good luck and write back
xoxo,
ROSE
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Hey one of my best friends knows soo many ppl. She knows everyone pretty much and she always leaves me out. Like when Im with her 1 on 1 shes great but when im in a group of friends shell ignore me. What should I do (beside confront her)? (link)
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okay well i have a problem similar to this...
okay. well no don confront her as a first thing, use that as a last resort. Um..the sign of a good friend is someone who will NOT pretend to be or not be your friend. If she really is a good friend then she will not be like this. hang out with her one on one and have her as like that kind of friend...then have other school firneds. also, try to hang out with her at school and if you get the hint that she really doenst want you there, then go hang out with someone else. She shouldnt be one of your best friends if she treats you like this, but i think you should keep her as a friend. She can be a one-on-one friend, and have other school friends. Then, as a LAST resort talk to her!
Hope i helped!
let me know if you need more help!
xoxo, rose
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Rose,
i like this person that i've like never talked to before. I have no classes with him but i want to like get to know him. now don't tell me just to go up to him and start talking because no one really does that. Now i like him before he's like the outgoing one so i know more about him...what should i do? and remember..i am not going to walk up to him and start talking thats lame.
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heyy--
okay well i like a guy i dont know either. Is there some way you could like hang out or soemthin to get to know eachtoher better...based on experience from my friends, that works.Also, try to get a friend to find out if he likes you too. Also, if you know anyone thats friends with them you can tell them to set you up that also worked for one of my friends. well good luck and im not SURE i fully understood your whole ? soo if this isnt what you wanted then let me know!! if you need more help let me knoww!!
xoxo, rose
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Hey rose,
I'm in-love with this guy who lives in a different country. While I was there I met this who was too. She found out that we kissed but I didnt know she was in-love with him because she was so excited about liking another guy so I thought she got ovr him. So she got mad at me and made me chose between her or my guy. I chose her but I regret that decision. She told that I should forget about him cause hes hers. But the truth in the matter is that he doesnt like her. She can't just hog him, now if he liked her then ok maybe I can accept that but he s her. I am in-love with that guy but I can't cause hes hers? whats that about?
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Heyy--
I think i know who you are because i remember you tellin me bout this! well.... hes not hers! thats the thing because like you said, he doesnt like her. So i think you should just nicely say you know i really like him and want to go out with him but i want us to keep our friendship. See what she says, and She cant stop you from liking him and you shouldnt let her!!
Write back soon!
xoxo, Rose
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Sorry
I can be like that sometimes
I know it is not good to be
But you two are like it too
I think that it will be fine
If we just call someone behind
the backs
the lies we make when mad
its really sad
so if i say sorry first
will you second and third?
*Rhose, please put this up*
*The people in the poem know who you are* (link)
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okay wait i dont get it!
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Hey Rose,
My friend who's a freshman in college just introduced me to one her friends.I haven't met him in person since today was the first time i talked to him.He's not that bad looking!Well anyway to cut to the chase he wants to hang out tomorrow because his parents are out of town which would mean we'd be alone.I want to meet him in person but I don't feel comfortable being with him alone and i dont want to ask any friend to come with me because i actually dont really have any (yes its sad but true lol).I wouldn't feel comfortable being alone with him becuase i don't know him real well and what if he wanted to have sex or something or even like rape me?You never know!And if i do hang out with him how am i suppose to leave the house with out my older over protective bro seeing me get picked up?
-frm well you know who...lol..hope u can help me! (link)
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heyy--
hah yeah i know who you are. DONT take any chances...since he is so much older, you hear about those cases all the time with older guys. Im not suggestin hes bad just to be alone with him is a lil risky. I luvv you sooo much and i care about you. I think you should listen to your bro and you can use him as an excuse to not go. Go somewhere with this guy in public first, lik a mall or soemthin where there are a lot of people!!
I luv u!! lemme know if you need more help! i want you to be safe!!
xoxo, rose
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Rosieeeeee!! I asked him! And he totally avoyded it! Ya know girlie, the one about the bf who lykes me for my pooty and goodies. OMFG!!!111!!! what the hech am I supposed to do babe? Ask him agaen? PLEASSSSSEEEE HELP MEEEEE! (link)
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yes, ask him agen!! and if he avoids it be like i asked u a ?....if he still avoids it then he doesnt care so leave him! lol!!
good luck
xoxo, rose
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Hey Rose,what's up?
I've got a problem i was wondering if you could maybe help me by giving me some good advice.well now that school is starting, I am really afraid of being left out. there is this one girl that i have been on and off friends with for 4 years and she is in 5 of my classes so i donno what will happen this year. She is friends with all my friends soo she might take them away from me...u told me that you had a prob similar to this in like June, but im so scared! Please help!
thanks a bunch!!luv yaa bff
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heyy--
yes i do know EXACTLY who you are. And yes i had a similar problem to this in june, that i still have now. So i think since she is in 5 of your classes you should try to talk to her. Just become friends with her in the begininning, and um like if she takes away your friends than include yourself in their group. Just start talkin to her and sincce you were ONCE frineds she will remember that.
Wow my prob is sooo similar to this! lol!
xoxo, i luvv u!
Rose
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Hey Rosie girl! I need some help for real chica! See, I've been dating this real hawt guy for like 3 weeks now, but I'm totally not sure if he likes me for who I am inside. I think he just likes the booty and the goods. Please help babe! I badly need your help Rosita!! I (link)
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heyy--
okay so i think you should ask him. Just be like what do you like about me and see if he says like your personality or your looks. If he says your personality than be liek ok because sometimes i feel like you only like me for my looks!! i think i know who this is!!! lemme know if u want more help!!
xoxo,
rose
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Hey rose-
just wondering-how far have you been with a guy (link)
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Um... ask me and dependin on who you are i might tell you, but lets just sayy i havv done stiff though
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Hey,
I went to Spain this summer and it was awesome. While I was there I was with my best friend. I went to her school one day. And she introduced me to her friends. One of them named Gloriana, was really cool. We just clicked, she was just really nice. At night my friend had a party and she invited all her guy friends. One guy named Pablo. I really liked him and he was really hot. We ended up kissing and I found out that Gloriana really loved him but I didnt know that until after we kissed. She heard (from someone that was there) what had happened and she asked me if I kissed him and I said yea. Gloriana asked me to chose her or him. I chose her but I really really love him. What should I do?
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Um i think you made a good decision. That is the kind of friend you can stay with forever even though you live far.
xoxo, Rose
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Hey rose,
One of my ex-boyfriends and I are really close. We are like family. Hes really good friends with this thats really mean and she is very judgemental. So i was telling him one day how i didnt like her and stuff and I was like DONT TELL HER! So today (I dont know how we got into this conv. but)I asked him about her and he was like O she doesnt like you either. She thinks your obnoxious(or however you spell it). And I was like did you tell her that I didnt like her and he was like yea. And I was crushed. I trust him a lot and I honestly thought he wouldnt tell her. So I was like why did you tell her and he was like well u never told me that I couldnt. Anyway this is just an all-around not a good person, she's a hypocrit and I just dont like her. I have 2 ?'s: 1. how can i make him realize that shes really mean? 2. What should I do about my exboyfriend... like should i be mad at him or should i just forget about it or what should I do? Thank you!
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hey!! good question!!
well theres a guy i like that has a girlfriend who is really mean to me too, and i want him to realize it just like you do. I think you should talk to him..tell him all the things she does that makes you mad, and tell him that he will realize someday. For the trust factor...it is really low of him to have told. You trusted him. I think you should tell him that next time you tell him something not to tell anyone, and dont trust him AS much but if he does it again then lose all trust for him!! Good luck! Lemme know if you need more help!!!'
xoxo,Rose
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Hey,
I'm one crazy, stressed out kid right now. You see, I've had so much consume my mind for the past...let's see...few months. I hear you are good at giving advice so I ask for help.
What's on my mind:
1. I am still looking for a gf. Most of my friends have one and I'm left out.
2. Boy Scouts- I am currently a Life Scout and I have to finish 6 merit badges and an Eagle Project by my 18th B-day (Eagle projects take large amounts of time) It's the time consumption that worries me.
3. I want to go to Kallah next summer and IC in Feb. IC I'll be able to go. My dad is stingy with money. But it's Kallah I'll have to negotiate..and it's frustrating to go through this.
4. Driving
5. My job this fall
I also don't know what I want of myself anymore. I've been so tense and have had problems sleeping at night due to this.
Please help,
One stressed Kid (link)
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Hey-- I know EXACTLY who you are because you told me you were writin lol! okay well...
1- You will eventually find a girl for you. It doesnt matter about all your friends because they just found that soul mate quicker. Dont worry...it will happen soon!
2--Well just manage your time wisely. Yes, when school starts you will be busy, but on weekend instead of hanging out with friends, you can do your project...make sure you get it done before the due date and have the extra time to do whatever you want.!
3--Well you will be able to go to Kallah again, and if your dad is low on money are you sure thats what you want him to spend it on? And if you think thats what you REALLY want then ask him but remember he IS helping you, but if you only kinda wanna go then think more carefully.
4--Okay well my bro just got his license like 6 months ago... yes, it is hard work and hard passing the test, but keep at it. If you do not pass the first time you can always take it again, and remember once you pass, you have your license for a LONGGG Time!!
5--Well noone likes to work and that is the reality to life, but we need to work for money. Just think about using that money for kallah or something like that. If you REALLY hate your job then find something else.
Its okay that you dont know what you want of yourself. Thats normal just stick to it you'll be fine!! ttyl! i know who you are so IM me
xoxo, Rose
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Hey Rose!
I kinda like this guy who's 18 and I really want to hook up with him!I was supposed to hook up with him a few times but it just never happend.Now when i ask him to hook up with me he won't because he says I'm too young.I know I'm too young for him but we can't get in trouble for kissing it's not like were having sex or anything.So what do I do? How do i get him? (link)
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hey--
okay i think i know exactly who this is. Well okay if he thinks you are too young then you cant make him do anything. Just tell him that you only want to kiss and you promise nothing else. Then see what he says. Yes, you cant get in trouble for kissing but it COULD lead to something else. So id say just talk to him and if you dont like what hes doin then move on!
good luck! lemme know how it goes
xoxo,rose
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Rose- -
Thanks for the advice b4. I wrote about telling my mom something..i'm planning on telling her before a certian date so i don't feel rushed. I've been telling myself the same thing you told me but i guess i needed to hear from someone else. I mean it does have to do with my health so i know she can help me!! Thanks!!
- - I'll write you later to see how it went (link)
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Hey!!
I'm glad I helped you. I think you made a great decision!! Let me know how it goes!!
xoxo, Rose
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So i was at my friends house hanging out with our boyfriends and a few other people..my bf left so i walked upstairs with him to say bye.. and when i came back downstairs..my friends were like drinking..i was really shoked but i just sat there..about 10 minutes later i walked back upstairs to call my parents because i really didn't want to stay there..i came bak downstairs to tell em i was going and they locked me downstairs..i was really freaked out so i walked out the back door and waited on the porch for my mom..i havn't talk to them in a while and they all say that i was acting babysish...but i think they have been tellin my bf wut happened..i just hope he still ikes me :( (link)
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hey--
okay well you shouldnt have to do something you dont want to in order to be friends with them. You did the right thing by calling your mom, but the fact that they locked you in like that shows that they are not good friends and not worth your time. Talk to them about how you didnt feel comfortable and tell them how you feel
good luck!!
lemme know how it goes please!
xoxo,
rose
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Rose--
I have something to tell my mother but i don't know how to. It's kind of embarresing so im scared to tell her. It's like personal too.. and im kind of scared of her reaction..like she wont get mad or anything cuz its def. not something to be mad about but she will be worried im just don't know how to come out and say it..i've been trying for like a long time to say it but when i plan to say it..its always like the wrong time..like im in the middle of doing something..what should i do? i need all the advice you have (link)
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heyy-- ill give u all the advice i can...ok well your mom is there to help you. Yes, she might get mad if you tell her but it is good for her to know. I know youre mom wants the best for you so she will do whatever she can to make you happy. And dont be shy...she IS the one who you came out of...isnt she? Okay so go ahead and tell her. Good luck! lemme know if u need more advice!!
xoxo,rose
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Hey Roseee!
I have a good personality a lot of people say! And i can talk to older guys in like high school but i can't seem to talk to any guys my age. I try to tlak to them if they talk to me but i always end up sounding like im not intrested and bored, or i sound stupid. But im actually intrested and stuff. When im with my friend i can talk to them n stuff. What should i do? (link)
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I think you should just think of any guys as older like dont worry about them thinkin bad things of you because they might go to your school. It is easier to date someone your age, so just think of them as anyone else
good luck!!
xoxo, rose
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hey Rose,
My Friend Katie(not her real name) has this friend named Frank(not real name) I've never meet him b4 but we talk on aim and on the phon3 only 2wice. I have his other friends sn and i ask them if Frank likes me and there like all he ever talks about is you but I relly DONT like him but i dont want to tell him...hes ugly...what do i do!?! (link)
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well i think if he asks you out then you should say no because you shouldnt have to go out with him if you dont really like him because i dont think he wants you to pretend to like him, but remember looks isnt everything so if you like his personality then maybe give it a shot, so just say to him that you think you should just be frinends because you dont have feelings for him. Tell him the truth. Good luck!
xoxo, rose
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I have this friend who has a friend(guy)who I talk to on aim and hes cool and i knw he likes me and hes at camp and i found out he had a gf while he kept asking me out and when he had a gf. he had 2 gf! Im relly mad at him what do i say to him wen he gets back? (link)
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hey! well i have a problem KINDA similar to this What i think you should do is tell him that you dont want to go out with him when he has a gf but you feel that you are helping him cheat. So tell him he either has to break up with her or not go out with you.
good luck!
xoxo, rose
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