E-mail: brad@bwfwd.com
Gender: Male
Location: Australia
Occupation: Web Designer
Age: 20
Member Since: March 31, 2008
Answers: 3
Last Update: April 3, 2008
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I guess you could say I have a sex partner and alot of the times I'm with him or in a group of people with him I always think about us having sex[but obviously I dont act like it] and even when he's not around im always thinking about it.
We've been doing it for maybe a year now and I know that friends with benefits and that stuff isnt good but im wondering do you think he thinks about as much as i do? Because I don't want to be the only one with those thoughts.. (link)
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Basically you should just have a chat with him, let him know that your fine with what's happening but you have further feelings, don't feel rejected if he says he is happy with the way things are.
You might also consider that he may not be ready to settle down into a relationship.
However at the end of the day, the best thing you can do is talk to him, simply have a few words to him, nothing too full on, what you explained in your question is just about spot on.
Good Luck!
Brad
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13/F/Canada
Well I am going to tell you the whole story form start to finish sorry if it is long I will try my best to not detail it as much.
Well, on Saturday there was this guy named Dillon on webcam with me and we were talking, all of a sudden he asks "Will you go out with me?" And I said what are u joking?! And he said no! And I could see the grin on his face. Dillon is a big joker so I though it was another one of his jokes like they always are, so I kept on saying no and I asked my bestfriend if it was true and she said she asked him and she said he said it wasn't true so I okay and I told him no again, then Eric said it was true and I didn't beleive him either because Dillon was sleeping over at Eric's. So he had to go, we said good-bye and stuff and we logged off. At school on Monday Dillon woulden't even so much as look at me when we got in class!! Then he started telling all of his guy friends, and they were all saying "Dude that was harst you said no to him" And I said " I though he was joking like he always is!?" And they said no and everyone is bugging me that I said no to him. But the only reason why I didn't go out with him is becuase if I did say yes and it was a joke then he would bug me that I like him and that I said yes to him. But I REALLY like him and I messed up big time! I am soo upset..:(. Everyone is telling me to tell him that I though he was joking and that I want to go out with him but I want to wait for him to ask me out again.. Everyone thinks thats wrong, I have liked Dillon for 6 years and now he asks me out and I mess it all up. . . Help Me Please! (link)
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Well i can understand your situation, from a guys point of view, i'd like to think Dillon has some maturity about him, so when you get a chance, pull him aside and just have a chat with him, simply ask him if he was serious about wanting to go out with you. If he says yes then ask him, Will you go out with me?
You should hope he says yes, when he does, give him a hug and go from there.
It should be easy to do you just need to find the inner strength to say what you want to say, so don't be afraid, simply ask Dillon if he likes you then if he will go out with you.
Once you have broken the ice it will all be so easy you'll be shocked how easy it will be.
Cheers
Brad
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i have done random play w/ two different guys at the same time and i feel very messed up and dont know where it comes from is it normal? i'm 18 years old so its not like im a 14 year old anymore or something, but still i dont care i just let myself do random play and dont care, later on i think about it and dont understand where it comes from and its kept a secret from people...ive never cared for some reason of giving myself up to people and taken my virginity as a blessed thing, is that bad? can it have to do w/ being sexually abused when i was little when i cant even remember what may have happend? opinions please... (link)
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Hi There,
From a guys perspective, i'll give you my thoughts.
I feel that in your situation perhaps the events from your younger life are effecting you, however i can't offer any professional advise in this regard.
What i will say is that your free to do what you like, i think that you need to be careful when 'playing around' with guys, at your age it's easy to be seduced into something like sex or other sexual acts, i'd have to say to you, don't give yourself up so easily, i'm personally against all these one night stands, and much more for a relationship where sex comes later, You've always got to do what you think is right, don't be pressured into anything, and make sure your happy, think of yourself when making these decisions.
At the end of the day the last thing you want is to regret the night before. Be careful, stay safe but most of all have fun (i don't mean by having sex) and enjoy the social outing, party or whatever it might be where you'll encounter blokes that want to get in your pants!
Cheers
Brad
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