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I know because Im Fourteen Im not saposed to have sex, and I dont Im still 100% virgin but everyone seems to be doing it, and its weird because I stayed back and there all younger then me and not virgins.. when is the average of losing it and Ive been offered.. a couple times with some VERY hot guys but I said no which Im very proud of but because i keep saying now am I not interested in guys? (link)
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that does not mean you don't like guys it's just you know whats right and what's wrong and what you are doing is RIGHT. and whenever you feel ready to lose it then go ahead. its your body and no one can tell you how to control it
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14\F
Ive been going out with this boy named Eric for about 4-5 months now, and were always going on dates and everything and just this weekend [Saturday] I went over his house alone... well we've been kissing for a while but thats it I mean IM ONLY FOURTEEN and Eric put his hand up my shirt, and I donno if it's normal or not but I sorta freaked cuz its the first time anything besides kissing has happened to me.. and I was like Woah and he like continued so i was like oh umm im sorry but can you stop. So kinda mad I think he did, I let him"feel me up" on the outside of my shirt so he wouldn't get to mad, but then he tried un-buttoning my jeans and thats when I was like WOAH! What are you doing?? and he was like weve been going out for so long now why can't you go further then kissing me it's not like we'll have sex or anything.. and i donno I just didnt feel comfortable but I do like him. And I was like Im sorry.. and hes like You do like me dont you so I said yes! and he was like okay then. and Tried putting his hand up my shirt again then it was like No.. i dont feel comfortable ill just walk home and he got really mad at me. I tried telling him Crawling leads to walking, and Walking turns to running and I dont like running not yet atleast IM ONLY FOURTEEN!!! Well I feel violated right now, but then it's like would I have gone all the way if I let him? Would he have?? and I needed to talk to someone and my best friend Adam--yes it a boy was like WHAT and wanted to kill him but I made him promise not to. And this weekend oim going back over... and I dont want to go any farther then we did this weekend but I donno if Eric will accept that and I know if he doesnt break up with him but shouldnt I atleast do something? Like handjob? like satisfy him?? I dont want to.. but to make him happy I will... I donno what to do i really like him, and I dont know why I cant just let him do what he wants with me, but I cant... I know I cant.
and Im not a slut.. im only 14, I know ive dated him a long time but I thought he was happy with just kissing... now its like how long has he wanted this? Why didnt he tell me before? and Im just scared you know? Maybe I shouldnt go back to his house without a parnet and my and his parents are being super cool with letting me over because they do know! and I promissed my mom Id keep it PG-13...
Anything would be helpfull really. (link)
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Tell him if he's gonna use you like that then tell him to go. Kick him to the curb! You are right for telling him no. If he makes you try to have sex with him then tell him im not ready and if he keeps pressuring you then he's just not for you.
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My wife and I had been married for over four years.
I have ADD and high anxiety which I'm not taking medication for.
I had a pretty good paying job but was laid off early 1n 2007.
My eyes started giving me problems before the lay off but I did get them checked out while I still had insurance.
Found out this year that both of my eyes have cataracts. I've attempted working at three jobs but my eye sight prevented me from passing the probationary period.
Here's my issue. I had a step daughter that had always found a ways into getting into trouble. Everything you asked her not to do, she went ahead and done. The computer she would stay on Instant messaging, My spacing all her friends till early morning.
I gave her so many chances but she proved to me she didn't care.
Her mother and I constantly fought about her because every time I tried to lay the Law down, the discipline was always to severe.
Even if it was just a few weeks without the computer.
Then she started on the phone..the same thing.
My wifes daughter wouldn't barely do any thing in the house.
And after her mother and I told her we expected more from her since she was 16, like washing clothes, doing the dishes...she made sure she washed only her stuff when begged, ( and if she washed three loads of clothes, it would take over three days and then you'd never find them put away) until I got so tired and fed up with her and the way me and her mother fought all of the time because how she ran the house, I made her move out when she turned 18 and graduated.
My step daughters every other word was profanity, and I don't think that she once told her mother or me the truth.
And Lord if you found her in a lie ( which was always ) she would cover it up with another one. She never admitted to anything she done. From bringing guys over when her mother and I were gone, to finding a ways to explain why she messed around with her best friends boyfriend.
Well, My father and mother passed away with cancer. And I made sure that no body smoked in the house. My wife and I don't smoke.
My wife invited her brother over ( or he invited his self ) and in both houses we used to live in, he smoked in each one, not caring.
And my wife let him and to this day, if he wanted to visit...I'm sure the same thing would have happened.
Well again, on Christmas eve of 2007, her daughter wanted to spend the night with us, to be there on Christmas. She smoked.
When I went down to visit my family in Alabama, mysteriously as it sounds, my wife let her daughter move back in knowing full well we never got along. Knowing full well her daughter never listened to one rule of the house, never helped out.
Then one day out of the many fights that broke out in the few months her daughter stayed there, my wife asked me to leave. And I did.
Amy, was I asking to much? Showing respect seems to be a thing of the past in today's society, but the way my wife handled each situation, and the way her daughter and her whispered and told there secrets, was it fair or justified at the way things were handled?
It seems as though the many things I accused her daughter of doing, my wife finally told me that yes, she did smoke pot, yes she was smoking in every room in the house when she ( her mother ) was in the hospital, yes, she fooled around with boys when we weren't there.
But instead of digging in deep and finally sticking up to her guns
and giving discipline to her daughter, it was easier to let me go.
What are the parameters of a marriage? Just because a person has children, does that erase the morality or any since of any opinion I may have had? I love her mother very much, but would I be asking for more heart ache if I tried pursuing this marriage. I don't want to walk away from this marriage. To me I think the Lord gave her to me, I'll get counseling and change anything I can.
But if I'm going to be the only one who'll attempt to change, will
this be visible?
Thank you (link)
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OK. Your wife's daughter OBVIOUSLY needs to move the HECK up outta your crib! Tell her that if seh wont listen then she needs to leave and stay out until she can have MANNERS and EDICUT and LISTEN! Don't listen to what she has to say because it needs to be the other way around.
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17/F This girl and I were best friends a few years back, but I guess that means nothing now because she is being rude to such an extreme. Trust me, I've done nothing to deserve this kind of treatment...knowing that, I can't figure out how to handle the situation. I want to be the bigger person...
She is not even worth trying to explain my feelings to. Point is: she's just trying to impress people, so she'll continue to put me down for attention from her peers. How do I keep this from getting me down? (link)
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Talk to her. That's what you should try at least. But if things don't work out, then tell her to back off. If you are known to be a tough person, tell her if she doesn't leave you alone you will beat her up or something, but if you are known to be a problem solver not starter, then say, "I knowyou're just trying to impress your friends. And if you have to bring somebody else down to make you feeel good about yourself then you must feel pretty darn ugly on the inside." she should back off then.
I hope my advice helps. :)
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