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well i am only 13 and im female, and I went out with this guy named john who ive liked since last year he asked me out a few times and I said no but finally I agreed to go out with him because at first he was all sweet and nice now he annoys me to death and I cant have a serious conversation with him so I broke up with him a month after HE IS STILL OBBSSED WITH ME after such a long time but now I have sort of fallen for one of his supposed "friends" his name for now is BILLY well I dont really talk to him I bearly know him well john found out that I like billy and now he keeps saying that he told him but i doubt it and john also said that they are best friends but when i asked billy he said no not really so i want to know if john really told Billy or its just a lie I really want to get to know billy more but i dont know how to approach him in a way to become friends and no more any suggestions

ps: sorry it was so long and going out with john again is not an option he goes out with someone else but loves me not her

pss: ill take any advice

John is just doing that to bother you. He's jealous.

Don't pay any attention to him and focus on Billy, you want to get to know him better, ask him questions. Smile when he looks at you. Just do little things that make the bond b/t you guys stronger and happier. :)

-AJ

PS: If you have any more questions please ask.

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Well I really like this guy and he's in 1 of my classes, but the problem is, he literally sits on the other side of the classroom from me. So that makes it harder for me to go talk to him. If he sat like beside me or in front of me then I could talk to him, but now I don't even get the chance to! So what can I do??? Any ideas on how I can go about talking to him??? Thanx in advance!

I agree with what demi said.

Also you could talk to him before class, or 'bump' into him in the hall on the way to class. ;)

-AJ

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Ok, well i dont mean to brag but im really smart. I take all the Honors Classes, and also im kinda "Popular" if thats the term. Like Im in the group that has all the parties and stuff. Well, lately my grades have been slipping. The first quarter i got Bs, As and A+s, but still its not good, i only got honors,not high honors, and i didnt meet "honors standers" for the classes where i have Bs. What should i do to bring my grades up? (and dont say study, because i study so much and it doesnt help).

Also, Well My friends have been slipping away because most of them have a boyfriend, and im single, but i have been single for like a year. I dont realy care, like i dont need a guy to make me feel better about myself but the thing is they have couples pparties and im not invited. So i have been growing closer to another group. Well now the old "couples friends" are mad at me. Which group shoulld i hang out with?

Lastly my family has been falling apart. My parents are always fighting, my dads working late and whenever hes home hes yelling at me or my sister. My mom has break downs like every other day, and me and my sister, which we used to be so close, are always fighting. What can i do to get my family back?

Thanks so much in advance and sorry its so long, and kinda confusing.

For your grades... Maybe you could ask about Extra Credit. Also, you could ask the teacher to go over anything that you may need help with, the way she does it might be the way it shows up on the test.

For your friends, since they do have a bf/gf and you're hanging out with another group maybe that's not all bad. But you can't abandon your friends for others. You could hang out with the other group and still be their friends, but they're going to be less active as friends because they're going to be with each other's lovers. Just explain to them that you guys are still friends, but that you're just hanging out with new people, that's all.

Your Family. I can tell that you're dad is probably very cranky and tired when he gets home b/c he's yelling at you and your sister. Maybe you could speak to him in a calm voice, maybe that will calm him down. Also, try to make his life easier, for example chores that he would normally do. Also do nice things for him that make him happy. I think that if your father is happy then your mother and you and your sister will be happy too. :)

Hope it helps!
-AJ

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My birthday is coming up soon, i am turning 13 adn am having 30 some girls sleep over at the local sports complex..it should be a balst but there is this one friend who is nice but she ditched me and my other firneds for more popular ones we had this huge fight for 2 years now were finally made up but then last night we kinda you know butted heades again but now were cool.....do you think i should invite her to my birthday party? shes really controlling but is SO nice, but sometimes we just dont get along and its definitly not like old timeswe dont sit with eachother at lunch or anything. should i invite her?

I think that you should invite her, because she was once you friend and people who are you friends need to be treated like them.

You guys might have your differences but you will be the better person because you might invite her to your party. And since you said that she is very nice, maybe when you guys do Butt heads, you can talk to each other calmly, it's easier said than done, but try it, it might help. :)

-AJ

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Last night I was on the phone with him and we had plans to go to the movies this weekend
he said "dont be mad but i'm still going to the movies this weekend but not with you"
I didn't mind and I was okay with it but it still was rude the way he said it and just because he ditched me for someone who he doesn't even know and were best friends so it got annoying.
Well then he started being really mean about things so I said " alright I'll talk to you later I'm just going to hangup the phone"
And he said alright I'll call you in a few days maybe or tomorrow.
He went on myspace (hes kinda like confused about his sexuality so everyone thinks hes gay and hes kinda like a girl)
But he said ew your such a bitch i hate you.
And sometimes we say stuff like that to eachother but jokingly
and he deleted his myspace and made a whole new one and never added me back
i dont care about myspace but just because of that i knew something was up.
Well he won't anwser his phone and I know its right next to him.
He got on myspace again today and I messaged him asking what was wrong and he called me a fake ass bitch
I said what the hell are you talking about and he told me to stop playing dumb and to fuck off.
I messaged him again but no reply yet.
I really have no idea whats going on and why hes being like this
at this moment im confused and pissed off the same time so i dont know what to do about it.
cause he wont pick up his phone and talk to me about it either.

It could be something stupid or maybe he's just joking with you OR maybe you did something that you didn't want him to know but he found out. Whatever the cause you just need to be patient and keep reminding him that you guys are best friends and that you can tell each other anything.

Let me know it goes. :)

-AJ

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