Im Marisa..my friends call me rissa too so call me whichever one you want :) im 13 and i go to rhodes junior high ! I love to talk and im not scared to speak my mind when someone makes me mad or gives me something to speak my mind about! i guess im a fun person? i love acting goofy in places with a lot of people..i guess you could say my friends and i dont mind being the center of attention haha..i laugh a lot and try to make everything as good as it can get! :)and i love giving advice so ask away! feel free to IM me or email me whenever :)
E-mail: xmarisaluvzux@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Mesa, AZ
Occupation: Junior high heh
Age: 13
AIM: x3BehindMyTearsx
Yahoo: xmarisaluvzux
Member Since: December 28, 2004
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ok well me and my boyfriend are thinking about having sex. we know we're ready but whenever it comes down to it, we always have second thoughts. i know he isnt going to break my heart or anything if we do do it, but i dont know im really confused. (link)
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well im for getting married before i have sex so i'd probably say not to...not only cause its better to wait because you know your husbands the one...and if you get pregnant what are you gona do? even if you use a condom your not 99% sure your not going to get pregnant...condoms break.. and you can get std's too....you dont know for sure he hasnt had sex yet...he might have said he hasnt but guys lie...all the time and i can be the first person to tell u that. and if you guys break up your most likely going to regret doing it...at least i would :/ i just dont think its a really good idea. but good luck i hope it all works out :)
xo-Marisa
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ehh...what if you have a friend that just seems like they don't like you at all and they just don't really feel like being around you.and it always feels like they're mad at you..i dont know i was just wondering. (link)
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oh my goshhhh im so sorry this took so long to answer! ive been just really like moody lately...so ya im sorry! but anyways...i know how that feels! i guess thats kind of how u find out who your real friends are and how you think your true friends should treat you. and they definately should not act like they dont like you or being around you! thats not a friend! at least not in my perspective! and if they're always mad at you, maybe its not you thats doing something wrong...its probably them. and they're not worth it if they're going to act like that...forget them! but if you want to be nice...hehe then just tell them how you feel and ask them if they really do consider you they're friend truthfully! well i hope that helped! :)
xo-Marisa
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Why does everyone have to be so complicated and mean? (link)
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thats just how a lot of people are! im sorry if they act like that, just try to stay away from people when they act like that, i dont really know how to answer that one very well! sorry :( but whenever people act like that with me i just go off and do things alone. it give me time to cool off when people make me mad or sad, then they'll realize how dumb they were acting..hopefully!
xo-Marisa
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thank you. it helped so much you dont even know. (link)
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no problem! anytime...thats what im here for :) if you ever need advice or help or just someone to talk to im here :)
xo-Marisa
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GRR! i try to say sorry to this one person but...she wont talk 2 me:( (link)
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maybe they need some time to cool off and let go of what happened..just give them some time and in time they'll let it go and accept your apology but you gotta give people space sometimes when they're mad at you
xo-Marisa
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ok heres the thing....i lied to my boyfriend about something. it wasnt like about something absalutly horrible like i was cheeting on him or something but it broke his heart and now i cant stop crying and i feel really bad. this is like the worst thing that could happen to my right now. he wont answer when i call and i cant live without him. i walked down to the store and baught him some flowers and a card. im going to give them to him but i dont know what to say to him. im speechless. please help me. its important. (link)
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well first, call him and then leave a message saying how sorry you are...hopefully he gets the point and calls you back. then when you talk to him either when you give him the things you got him or on the phone tell him why you lied to him, and exactly how you feel, then tell him how you feel about him and that you never meant to hurt him....just let him know how much you care about him, and dont lie to him again...honesty is really important in a relationship...always tell him the truth even if it might hurt him, its gona turn out hurting him even more when he finds out you lied to him, well i hope that helped :) tell me how it worked out
xo-Marisa
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everyone i have a friendship with seems to be falling apart like we were never friends...just a while ago all of us were laughing having a great time and now everyone is fighting and saying they're bad friends to eachother when they're not..i just don't know what to do and im completely confused.plz help me!
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well think of reasons why you guys are fighting, are they stupid reasons or good? most likely stupid..thats how it always is with my friends! we always get mad at eachother for the stupidest little reasons we can think of! and its dumb! try writing them notes and tell them all how you feel about this fighting and that you guys need to try and work things out or else you all are gona lose eachother! and im pretty sure none of them are going to want to lose their friends, ask them why they're mad at eachother..remind them about how much fun you all used to have and how you guys could be again...you'll all start missing eachother and want times to be like they used to be, try to invite a group of them to all do something fun together and just forget about all the stuff going on that day! if that doesnt work tell me! tell me how it works out :) hope your friendships get better!
xo-Marisa
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theres a group of kids at r school and they allways think that people r mad..is that normal?
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well if the people are acting like they're mad then ya, but if they think your mad for no reason then no..ask them why they always think that, i know people like that. they'll ask me if im mad at them out of no where and ill be like..uh what the heck? but ya...just ask them why they always think people are mad...and if they say i dont know..next time they think your mad be like....do i have a reason to be mad at you? haha that'll get them! good luck
xo-Marisa
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ahh! do u think a friend is really a friend if she says something rude behind your back?! okay, cause i have some friends and well i keep hearing all sorts of differnt things from everyone(and they are usualy mean) i dont no what i am doing to make them say thee things. and i dont no if the people are really saying these things and someone is just making it all up! i cant stand it! (link)
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no a friend isnt a friend if they talk behind your back, thats messed up! but dont start blaming things on them if you dont know if its true, because wouldnt you feel really bad if you went all off on them and you found out that they really didnt say anything? i mean if you're hearing it from tons of people its most likely true that they're saying things about you but it could also be a rumor...someone could've said that they said something and then it went from person to person then it came to you..just confront them nicely and ask them if what youve been hearing is true..and if they deny it...trust them, if you start hearing it again maybe you should question your friendship...and if its true just act like you dont care! thats what people hate the most when they're saying things about you, they're just trying to hurt you...but if you act like you dont care they'll get bored and just stop, hope it helped
xo-Marisa
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why do people allways get mad? (link)
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well if someone keeps getting mad they must have a reason for it.try and talk it out with them and ask them why they keep getting mad and whats been bothering them, try and help them out and make them feel better. maybe you guys can solve it all and they'll stop getting mad, hope everything works out
xo-Marisa
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ok im like 14 and yeah well this is gonna sound stupid but whatever. theres this guy that i really like and he just doesnt care. one of his best friends says he liked me a lot last year and still does but he wont do anything about it. so now theres another guy and hes nice and stuff but not really that cute. but hes gonna ask me out and i dunno if i should say yes or not becuase of the other guy i like. i want the relationship to work out if i say yes but with the other guy that i like im afraid it wont. should i go out with the guy thats ready now or spend my time waiting for the one i like more? uggh man what should i do? (link)
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hmm well i think you should go with whatever your heart tells you to do. and if that doesnt work..lol then i really think it all depends if you really think the guy you really like is actually going to go out with you and commit to your relationship.also,then again if you dont really like the guy thats going to ask you out then whats the point of going out with him? you dont need a boy to make you happy! :) so i guess it all depends on what you honestly feel and honestly think will work. listen to your heart though!ask the guy that you really like how he feels about you and if he even thinks you guys are ever going to go out! good luck with the boys! :) tell me what happens! hope i helped!
xo-Marisa
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okay so theres a group of girls at our school right..well yeah...we allways fight because people leave eachother out all the time..they never invite everone 2gethere only a few at a time.it makes other people feel like they arent good enough or something..
13/f/az SJH (link)
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truthfully, i think a few girls at a time is a better idea most of the time... because big groups of girls can cause big problems. once in a while its a good idea, but the other people who arent hanging out with those other girls should hang out together instead or thinking they're not good enough! because thats definately not true! some girls just get along better more easily! tell the group of girls what you think about it..but be nice about it and try to solve the problem between those group of girls! maybe they have a reason for it! good luck :)
xo-Marisa
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wow thanks! haha you do give good advice!
kelly 13
scottsdale az (link)
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no problem! :) im here anytime you need it!
xo-Marisa
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ok i know this sounds kinda lame but im 13 and i already have 'the one'. and i know he feels the same way. he told me he wanted to be with me forever and we spent new years together and it was so amazing.but now theres soming like stoping us from being able to hang out as much. hes in my twin brothers band now so when he comes over to hang out with me he hangs out with my brother and his friends. i try talking to him and we made a deal that we'd hang out every other day and he'd practice with my brother when we didnt hang out. i dunno if this is gonna work tho? what should i do?
Kelly 13
scottsdale az. (link)
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wow that sounds like my friend amanda..lol but her boyfriends not in her brothers band. and hes a jerk! juuuust kidding :D anyyways ya...okay now..thats not lame that you think you already have the one! he might just be! you and him are the only ones who can determine that ! dont let other people tell you different. but maybe you should try the band thing out. if he doesnt keep his deal with you and hangs out with your brother and his friends sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel and that you dont appreciate him not keeping his deal with you, and sometimes maybe you could hang out with all of them, and if they dont want you to give your boyfriend some time to hang out with your brother then after a little bit have him hang out with you for the rest of the time hes over! i mean all guys dont want to be with their girlfriends 24/7..but just give that stuff a try! hope i helped! let me know how it worked out! :)
xo-Marisa
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well, i have some friends...and its a big group of us at school. but everyone always fights with eachother and just puts eachother down..and no one likes it i dont think. I absolutly hate it! it makes no sence and i just wish all of us would all be friends again and stop with the drama..we dont have to be best friends but just friends..and i dont know what to do.thanks for helping though. (link)
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well maybe you should have a talk with all of them about it and tell them you dont think thats right that they talk bad about eachother all the time and that they should try to get along! and if they dont then maybe its time to find a new group of friends! i mean keep your best friends in that group, but if you dont want to be around those kind of people maybe you should start hanging out with a different crowd, hopefully they'll understand what you mean when you talk to them about it..the same things happening with me..but you gotta realize that a lot of teenage girls are mean and backstabbers..lol not all of them but a lot of them sadly are..good luck! ;)
xo-Marisa
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Okay well...theres this girl in school her name is marisa and she is my BFF should i be her friend??i mean shes super cool!!! i love her shes awesome!!PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICEEE!!! (link)
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if shes your bff then obviously shes already your friend , hope that helped?
xo-Marisa
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Well I am kinda in a long distance relationship and it is hard because i dont get to see him like everyday. I am only 13 and i am a female and I think he is the one and I love him every much. Do you think this will last forever????? NEED HELP FAST!!!! (link)
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Ive been in like 3 long distance relationships..and none of them worked out...usually because he was he didnt call me or we never saw eachother...but that definately doesnt mean yours wont! i have a lot of friends in relationships like that, and they seem perfectly fine..ive heard of people dating from like 5th grade and getting married, so dont doubt your heart or him. if you trust him then keep on trusting him! its all about honesty and trust, just see where it all takes you, if it doesnt work out, then its for the best! everything happens for a reason ! good luck :)
xo-Marisa
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hey..i really hope you can help me with this. i used to be a good student in school but now my dad thinks im slacking off. he yells at me to where i cry my self to sleep and im trying to do the best i can but its hard. 1st quarter i got one of those bumper stickers for getting on the honor roll and i gave it to my dad but he wont put it on his truck cause he doesnt think i earned it. please help.
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if you think about it, i think you know who this is. (link)
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Ha sorry i dont really have a clue who it is...but it sounds exactly like me! im going threw the exact same thing...My mom gets mad at me for getting a b...and i cry myself to school. ya stupid but its true...and it turned out i got an A in that class that same day for the end of the semester! it was crazy..i think the best thing to do if you really arent slacking off which i highly doubt you are slacking off, is sit down with your dad and talk to him about how you feel, and tell him that you're trying the hardest you can, and tell him you dont exactly appreciate him putting you down when you're doing the best you can, and if he doesnt think you deserve that honor roll he's wrong! they wouldnt have given you an honor roll bumper sticker if you didnt get good grades and didnt diserve it! i mean state the obvious...you got it, you diserved it. and im really sorry he's saying that stuff to you , i know exactly how it feels ! and good luck with talking to him about it !
xo-Marisa
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okay here it is i like this guy..but its clear he doesn't feel the same way about me. I told him how I felt and all and he just acts different now like im not really visible anymore..and it makes me wanna cry just thinking that it will never work.I don't know if i should keep liking him or just give up on the whole thing. (link)
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Maybe you should think about the reasons you like him...if he acts like your invisible now, talk to him about it and ask him why hes been ignoring you! aww and dont cry when you think about that kind of stuff! there's *always* a chance ! and crying over boys never helps! i have to admit ive did it a bunch of times and i still do but ive noticed it never helps! and dont give up...as i said give it a chance, maybe he will end up liking you but you were just kind of blinded at the begining..talk to him about it and see what happens! haha im gona give you a quote i got from a cinderella story...dorky i know but its a good one!
"Never Let Striking out, Keep you from Playing the game."
wow haha sorry if i totally screwed up those words!! but ya hehe
xo-Marisa
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ive been seeing this guy, for, well.. about 4 months. hes 3 years older than me. At first i thought he was perfect until he started to take advantage of me. he would sneak me out of my house so he could do it with me in his car. it was amazing I must say, and he has an amazing member. but i think he might be gay. if i ask him he might get mad at me. what do I do? (link)
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well i think that you should maybe just give it a try and ask him what you've been questioning youself..maybe if u ask him it will help ur relationship. if he says he isnt and gets mad at you tell him your sorry but thats how you felt. if he doesnt understand maybe he's not ask perfect as you thought he was. on the other hand, if he says he is gay i guess thats your decision to stay with him...also, if he's pressuring you to do things that you dont want to do then you should maybe just stop what your doing and say no dont let him take advantage of what your future is going to be like. well good luck!
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