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17 F..
I feel really unwanted.. Me and my boyfriend broke up a month ago(we were togheter 2 years) and he had a new girl in a week.. I started chatting with this guy a few weeks ago, I really thaught he like me, we hanged out but now, out of the blue he has a girl to.. I feel like no one wants me.. no guy looks at me and I feel lonley. I just want someone to love me like my friends are loved by their bf's.. I am a bit overweight but I play firts team hockey i have blue eyes and wear glasses and i have blond hair.. i don't think I'm that ugly but I have a very low selfesteem.. please help me? (link)
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Girl, you sound gorgeous!
I know you want to be loved, but you dont need a man for that. sure it would be amazing, but you have your friends, family and many other people who love you.
one day the right man will come along.
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22/f, 29/m
I just recently got out of a relationship. He was the one who broke up with me. The thing about this, is that it's confusing about what he wants. He tells me that he loves me and that he cares about me. He keeps talking about the "future" when we don't have a future.
But the one thing that bothers me a lot, is that he has removed any trace of me on his Facebook. All the posts that he tagged me in--removed. He hid the photos that I took of him, too. It shouldn't bother me, but it really does. It hurts.
The one thing I don't understand is that he removed any trace that I ever existed in public, but I'm still his background photo on his phone, etc. But yet, he kept up the photos that his ex-girlfriend (the one before me) posted of him. What is even worse is that I took a lot more photos than she did, and yet he put in the effort to remove everything that even related to me, but not hers.
I know that if I confronted him, he would end up saying one of the two things:
1) "Well, we did break up"--Which doesn't make sense because him and his other ex-girlfriend broke up but still kept photos of her.
2) "I didn't look very good in the photos you took."--There were more than 200 photos that I took, not all of them could've been completely terrible. Plus, the photos of him that his ex took, didn't look that great, either.
So, I'm confused. I'm not sure what the think or what to say or do. I'm trying to "let it go" because it's just social media, but I can't help but keep thinking, "why did he put in so much effort just to do all of that?" My sister came down to 3 conclusions.
1) He's keeping me on the side until he finds someone better.
2) He was embarrassed of me and still is, that's why he removed any sign that I existed
3) This is an extremely harsh way of him wanting me to move on.
But even if it was the 1st or 2nd reason, they're both really harsh ways of telling me that he really wants me to move on if he's willing to keep his ex's photos up.
Is there another reason why he might've removed every trace of me (in public)? Should I just completely let this go even if I kind of want answers? (link)
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Girl, most people would say you are still in love with him, but i'm not with that. if he removed every single picture you took, that would definitely hurt.
he may have done that-
1) Maybe he didn't want people assuming things
when he got a new gf
2) he may have gotten bored of the relationship
but it'd still loved you
3) maybe he had mixed feelings and didn't want to
hurt himself by looking at those pics
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I don't even know where to start with this. My grandmother died about seven and a half years ago and it was really hard on my mom. The two of them were extremely close. They saw each other and/other talked on the phone everyday and my mom is convinced that my grandmother's death was her fault. She died from complications of cancer. It was out of anyone's control, but my mom keeps coming up with ways that it's her fault and won't listen to anyone tell her it's not.
She has battled depression since then and because of that depression, she's developed kleptomania. What's disturbing Is that pretty much everything she's been caught stealing is something she would never want, but rather, something she obviously planned to.give to me or my sister. We're the people she steals for.
She's been arrested twice and hard charges pressed against her both times. She hasn't gone to jail YET, however I'm afraid that the next time she's arrested, she will. It breaks my heart that she's risking doing that to herself and that she's creating all kinds of other problems.
We live in a small town and people here know she steals. When she goes in certain stores, the employs are either jerks to her or they watch her like a hawk. They won't let her hold or try on anything and they always try to get her out of the store as soon as possible.
People don't like or trust me either. I go into stores and I too get watched like a hawk. I couldn't get a job at a clothing store in college and I wonder if it was because the owners were afraid I'd steal from them. It's not fair because I'd never do such a thing, but I get judged for being the daughter of a thief. What's strange is that the reason I wouldn't steal is because I was raided against it. My parents taught me that stealing was wrong because it was against the Bible, against the law, and it hurts other people. Once my mom THOUGHT that I had stolen a CD storage case in middle school (I hadn't) and almost had a conniption fit. I was raised to know that stealing is wrong, but people still don't trust me because I was raised by a thief. I was in college when my mom developed her problem.
It hurts me as well to hear the things people say about her. They call her scum, garbage, low life trash, and other such things. They say they hate her, they hope she gets arrested and that they get to be on the jury, and things info that nature as well. It's hard because these people aren't the people she's stealing from. If they were, I'd be more patient, but they're being so judgmental. My mom is not scrum, trash, or a low life. She's a good person with a good heart who just had a bad problem. She's the best mother my sister and I could've hoped for. When I tell people my last name, they as if I'm related to my mom and (unless it's someone who knows about her problem), they go on and on about how nice she is. They tell me stories of acts of kindness she'd done for them and tell me how we need more people like her in the world. She HATES when my dad watches Lizard Lick Towing because she hates seeing people upset, even when they kind of deserve it. She HATES going to the doctor because it makes her cry when she sees someone who is sick, injured, or disabled. She gives to charity and gives the credit for it to me and my sister. All certain people know about her is that she's stolen merchandise from stores and they judge her as being a piece of trash and gate her for it.
After the last time she was caught stealing, which was very recently, she received a huge fine and was ordered to get psychiatric help. I'm hopeful that she will change, but I feel like we have no choice, but to move soon. We need to get away from this small town were people judge and hate us. But what if my mom relapses and this happens again wherever we go. What am I gonna do? Is kleptomania ever cured? Has anyone here ever dealt with this before? (link)
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Well, just ignore the other people. I know its easier said than done but you know, that your mother didn't become a Kleptomaniac on purpose. she was just depressed her mother died. i know how she feels because my mother died from a car accident. we both were very close.
It was likely that she would get depressed.Very depressed but you and your sister are surely there for her, you need to help her, soothe her, and stick up for her. tell her that stealing is wrong. she does it for you right? so she'll listen to you.
YOU can be her medicine.
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So I like this guy (he's a junior, I'm a freshman) but I don't know how to talk to him :(
School is over... he knows me, like he knows that I exist, we talked VERY briefly before, but he doesn't remember. I don't know how to talk to him... I have him on Instagram & Facebook... but it's weird to just message someone you don't know out of the blue.
My friend is dating one of his best friends and I talked to him once briefly as well, but she won't set me up because I know she's gonna think I don't have a chance with that guy (which I don't) but I wanna talk to him on my own somehow.
What should I do? I don't wanna seem weird or creepy. Please help. :( (link)
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If you want to talk to him on your own, you could perhaps comment on a few of his pictures. not like,'OMG you look so cute' but be casual and type something related to the picture but not directly to him.
ask him about studies, perhaps the subject you are weakest in.
maybe you can host a party and invite everyone. mingle with him a bit, crack a joke, dance.you get the drill.
but be yourself the whole time, like if he likes footie, dont be like 'ooh! i love footie too!' if you like it, you like it. if ya dont, ya dont.
and if he doesn't respond with any .romantic gesture in a few weeks, forget him.
i know its easier said than done but try :)
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