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Q: Lose my voice before Tuesday?
It's hard for me to lose my voice. Don't ask why, I just want to lose it.

Wow , haha....
sing a lot!.
That always makes me lose my voice haha.
Also , just talk a lot.
The more you use it, the quicker it will go away :]

Good Luck, I think haha.

-Taylor

Q: my dads in prison for beating up my mom and for possesion of drugs he has asked to see me i really miss him even though his done wrong should i go and see him or not for all the misery his put my family in.

If you miss him, you should go see him. Just because you do, doesn't mean you are happy with what he did, because I am sure you're not. Also, if you don't see him, you will just continue to miss him more, and obviously he misses you too. You should deff. go see him, but while you're their, you should tell him how you feel. Just make sure he knows what hes caused to you to feel.

Good Luck :]

-Taylor-

Q: Are friends with benefits really that bad?
This kid Dillon wants to have sex with me but doesnt like me as a girlfriend...If I have sex with him is it such a bad thing?

Yes, because you will grow attached to him, and seeing how he doesn't like you as a girlfriend, you are going to get heartbroken. Plus, sex is supposed to be something you share with a special someone, and although it doesn't seem like a big deal, it is. The decision is deff. up to you, but sooner or later, your going to get hurt..:[

Hope everything goes well

-Taylor

Q: how could i get wavy hair like this
http://i81.photobucket.com/albums/j212/aprettygurl/m_4460b1b0c9fdb36af9a11155a5de179e.jpg

You could take the picture to a hair salon, and tell them you want a perm like that. Or if you want to do it yourself just scrunch it when its damp, with styling gel. Then spray hairspray ALL OVER it. (it might take a lot of hair spray) Then if you want the bangs straight like in that picture, make sure not to get gel on your bangs.

I'm sure it will look awesome :]

-Taylor-

By the way, make sure you experiment first, to figure out what's the best way for you to do it :P

Q: I am going on my first date with a wonderful guy soon and I want to know what to expect. I want to make a good impression on our first date together, which may involve kissing. I'm not really sure about some things regarding the appropriate time to kiss on a date.

Should I kiss a guy at the end of our first date if it went well or should I wait a few dates? What is appropriate? I don't want to come off as pushy or easy, and I want to make sure chemistry is there on his side too without asking him. How will I know it's the right time to kiss on a date?

You will definetley know when its the right time. Just wait and see what happens. Personal experience, wait till yall are laughing, having an awesome time, then just lean over for a kiss on the cheek. Never kiss on the lips on the first date unless its at the end. It *could* go well, but then theres a chance it could ruin things. But at the end of the first date, if you had a good time, go for it. I guarentee you he won't complain :]

Good Luck!

-Taylor-

Q: I am from Nigeria, and am 25years old.i have been seeing this guy for 4 years now but the problem is she does not want us to get married simply because she does not like my parents religion.but i attend the same church wit my boyfriend so i dont see a problem with that.i am really confused because my boyfriend is really close to his mum.what do i do now?

Well I don't see what the problem is seeing how you attend the same church as him either. But regardless, she shouldn't disagree with yalls choice to get married because of your parents religion. BUT, theres not much you can do. Sorry to say, but you just have to sit back and let things run their course. Although your boyfriend is close to his mom, if he has seen you for four years, I doubt he will decide to call things off for something his mom disagrees with. But all you can do, is wait, and see how things turn out.

Good luck with every! :]

-Taylor-

Q: well see there is this one guy. we dont date and his name is bradley white. he goes to huntsville middle and i go to chapman middle, and he live down the street from me. like we have dated 3 times and i want to make it a 4th. everytime we touch and everytime we talk i just want it to last. i never want to loose him. well like this guy im dating named seth he dumped mehh like a week ago, bc his frends told him i was using him and cheating on him and i wasnt. they told mehh the same thing just to break us up. but then after school he came to my house and around 4 asked mehh bak out well bradley was ther hangin out with mehh and he told my sister and step sister he was gonna ask me out well seth asked me out and i said yeh to him bc i didnt no bradley was asking me out. and if i new bradley was asking me out i would of said yes to him instead of seth. well now we hang out (me and bradley) and i just dont wnna loose him i like seth alot and i wnna date him but i wanna be bradleys gf again. im scared if i dump seth for bradley ill never have him again. but im scared if i dont hurry up and take bradley bak then ill loose him and again i never wanna loose him.

Well you obviously can't have both. You say you want both, and well which one do you like better?? Me personally, I would go with Bradley, because any guy who breaks up with you for something your friends said, is messed up in the head. From personal experiences, later on down the road, any guy that will believe friends over girlfriend will cause problems in a relationship. But like others have said, this one is entirely up to you, based on your past experiences with them. Just ask yourself, whose been there for you through thick/thin, who do you trust more, whose company do you enjoy more, etc. That should answer your own question for you :P

Hope everything goes well!

-Taylor-

Q: is it better to have sex with lights on or off? dont give me the "it depends, or either" just sayy wich is better. lights on, or lights off.

Definetley lights off. It relaxes the mood, and calms you down. It also makes you focus on just who you're with, not what's around you. Both are good, but I prefer lights off :P.

Q: I have decided that I want to stay a virgin until I'm married. My virginity is special to me. I've gone out with a lot of guys and they all end up wanting to be touchy and I'm just not into that. I don't want to be used. I want to be pure and be able to show my husband (when I actually get married, of course) that he really is a special person and that I cared enough to wait for a long time for him.

My problem is that I don't really know how to tell a guy that I refuse to have sex. I don't want to outright say I want to stay a virgin or that I'm keeping my virginity for my wedding night. That just feels too PERSONAL to me and the only time I would tell somebody is if we were in a serious relationship together and he needed to know.

I'm pretty young and I'm afraid to just say no and leave it at that, I guess. Even if I told a guy that I was waiting for marriage I think they'd think I was joking because of me being so young.

I guess my question is...

How do I tell a guy that I don't want to have sex without giving out too much personal details as to why?

Ok,
you have to be firm and steady with your answer. If you aren't serious, they wont take you seriously. If they like you enough they will respect your decision. And about the "why thing", that's none of their buisness. Tell them that you want to wait, and if they truly are the right one, they won't need to know your reason. They will respect your overall decision in itself. :]

Good Luck! :]

bio

Ok so I'm Taylor, and I love to give advice, (obviously). I'm always on here multiple times a day. I hate judgemental people, and labels (emo, prep, etc.) I support gay rights, as well as animal rights. I have a wonderful boyfriend, and he means the world to me. I love meeting new people, and listening to music. Rock music is deff. the best!. For a 14 year old I am a very mature, knowledgeable person, and seeing how I have been through a lot, I can relate to a lot of people on here. I have a rocky past, but my future is looking brighter and brighter every day. Anything you wanna ask, or say, lemme know :]

-Taylor-