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Hi ya,
Just curious, we're having a joke and out of nowhere he asks do you reckon I'm handsome. I said not handsome but fetching and charming and he said he's never been told like that and I was the first person not to think he's handsome with a laugh. We just laughed so much afterwards. Is he being insecure? However, I can't tell even though we know each other well. Is he asking for my approval? Cheers! (link)
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It sounds as though your friend could be having some insecure problems or ego problems. My question to him would be: Do you think that you're handsome? If people have been telling him that he is handsome, what does it matter (to him) what your opinion of his looks are...Unless, he's looking for the truth from a friend. By the way, you took the smart way out with that response to him. You gave him a totally different approach to him image or physical attribute. You might want to ask him if your opinion of his looks are really important to him. Also, tell him that beauty (in his case: Handsomeness) is in the eye of the beholder. Your perception of his looks may be totally different from others. In other words, what may be handsome to some, might not be handsome to other.
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Hi there. I'm looking for more opinions, and advice on a current situation i'm experiencing. I've been with my partner for 5 years now, and his parents have had a hard time accepting me, or us together. Every time I am around them they pick fights with me, or there is always confrontation. I'm not someone who likes fighting or arguing, in fact I avoid it at all costs. In the past I haven't been able to make it to every event they invite me to, and recently they took it personally (I had to work three shifts in one day and couldn't make it to thanks giving.) They decided to not invite me to family Christmas, so I had to stay home while my significant other went. Now some time has passed and they've invited me to his mother's birthday. I'm torn about going because every time they pick me apart, or do it behind my back (my partner tells me all the awful things they say.) I've tried making time to talk to them about it, but every time they avoid actually discussing the issue, and just ignore it. I can't ignore it anymore, and I don't want to go to this event without having discussed the issue. I'm tired of being put down and verbally abused, and I hate pretending like everything's fine and putting on a fake face. The only problem is I don't want to hurt my partner by saying no, which is why I've gone in the past and put up with the abuse. I don't want to tolerate it any longer. What should i do? I am so confused. (link)
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Five years is a long time to be in a relationship...So, kudos! From what I have gathered from you, you have put up with a lot from his family. If your partner cares and loves you, he should not be repeating to you the negative comments that his family makes about you or your character. Apparently, they don't know you well and have not taken the time to get to know you and understand you. Some people have a tendency to form their own opinions of people, without gathering all the facts or getting to know the person. That's called: Judging or Preconceived notions. All of the hate and disparaging words and feelings that you feel from your In-Laws, over time will affect your relationship with your partner. As your partner, he should stick up to his family whereas it concerns you and their negative comments and feelings towards you. He should be putting his foot down and putting a stop to it. If he does this then, they will cease to voice their negative comments. They may not cease their negative feelings towards you, but it should cut the negative comments. You also need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your partner about his family and how their negative comments and feelings make you feel and affect you. No, you should not have tolerate their foolish. So, the first step is to talk to your partner.
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Hey,
I accidentally touched his thigh twice while we're in the car coz he was giving me a lift to town. I said sorry. we're kidding heaps but he pointed out saying, oh,you touched my thigh, you got a soft hand and soft pinky. He's a neighbour and a friend. We go to same university and we are quite frank to each other. He's just crazy, I reckon, jokes a lot. I feel like he's flirting with me or is he messing around? What do you reckon guys? Thanks a bunch! (link)
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Sounds to me like he paid you a compliment that could be considered a form of flirting. The only way to find out is to pay him a neighborly visit and talk to him and get to know him or spend time with him to see whether he likes you as more than a neighbor. However, if you value him as a friend and you don't want to ruin the friendship, then keep it strictly friendship between the two of you. You don't want to ruin a good friendship by being intimate and it doesn't work out or go beyond friends.
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