Member Since: July 28, 2019
Answers: 12
Last Update: July 28, 2019
Visitors: 877
|
| |
MY parents and I are sick of my cousin, my brother and his friends being loud and obnoxious in front of our house and selling drugs in our driveway and in my brothers room. My parents cant kick them out because my brother broke 2 doors and he'll try to fight my dad. We are really sick of them drug dealing in front of our house, they carry guns and I think that's another reason why my dad is scared of them, they have pulled guns on my uncle and other people that they fight in our yard. They park in our yard and run in our house whenever they want to. The police told my aunt she was coming from the drug house and she doesnt even do drugs. My parents do not do drugs or sell them. I think they are afraid to call the police. They think that if they call the police on my brother, cousin and his friend they will get into trouble since theres drug dealing going on around our house, they also think we will get taken away. These people are very loud in our yard, they our rude and disrespectful and I want it all to stop. If we call the police will me and my brother get taken away? What number do I call to report illegal drug dealing?
I live in texas (link)
| |
You need to clean up your own backyard before you go walking through someone else's. If it's not your business stay out of it. It will be taken care of by someone else. You don't want anybody coming after you in retaliation. It's not worth it let them get in trouble on their own and just stay out of it
|
17/f
I used to really take it to heart when people said something bad about me, but all of a sudden now I don't anymore.
If people physically are immature-like locking me in a room for a few minutes (me the other day) from somewhere now I just shout at them.
Also, in class if someone's nasty I'll respond back-just like say 'well that's not true'.
You see before I'd ignore comments but be angry when I got home that I did not stand up for myself but now I am doing I feel its to much.
So my question is how to be assertive but not look like an idiot eg.shouting my head off. (link)
| |
To be more assertive the next time somebody says something to you say what? If they repeat what they said they just followed your orders and that puts you in charge. Now the balls in your Court. And when they say the insult just say so. Or that's nice or nobody really cares about that. And then ignore them the rest of the time you're together like you can't hear them
|
|
What does it mean when a person says “kids these days think that the world owes them something”? Is that rude? (link)
| |
It's not rude because he's entitled to his own opinion. Maybe he's come across some kids that have self-entitlement problems. I mean there's no way for you to know the things that have happened in his life to make him say that. I would just listen quietly.
|
Hello, there. I am a freshman in high school. I am still quite young, but my religious beliefs have been bothering me lately. I have had severe anxiety my whole life; I'd always pray to God, hoping he would help my anxiety decrease, so I would be at ease. However, that has never happened. As time went on, I've lost my faith in God.
To be completely honest, I have not read a bible (It is severely confusing to me), nor been to church. I know very little about christianity, yet I label myself as one. Or I used to...
Anyway, I feel like there is always going to be a small part of me that will believe in God. But I don't know if it's because I'm scared not to (Due to my anxiety). I WANT to 100% believe in God, and I feel like I do, but I have my doubts. Sometimes I just feel like someone could've wrote the bible or something. I want to be fully convinced. I'm scared of the devil though and I'm scared he'll kill me in my sleep or something... (link)
| |
When I was small my dad used to beat me all the time. I would beg God to make my dad stop it. But my dad didn't stop. So I lost my faith in God. I recently got it back and realize by my dad beating me it made me a stronger person. It help me tolerate unpleasant situations which you're going to come across them life. I pray to God Jesus and Shiva. I don't go to church I don't open a bible and I Don't Preach to anybody. I'm a Christian and Jesus has my back and that's it it's simple
|
I have a question about Christianity my religion or how people react.
I'm Christian and I always will be, a lot of people say gay is a sin. I believe otherwise. I try to explain that is isn't or even if it was God can forgive you. But it just hasn't helped they don't accept gays, some call me gay which I'm not because
I acaccept them. Which I put it aside if they hate them and move on. Some people say I'm not christian because I support homosexuals. Or becuase our beliefs differ.
Ok ivde heard that the bible says homosexuals are sins.
What verse is this supposedly in. I know it doesn't say its wrong just wanna see where people think it says it. So maybe I can retranslate it to what it was supposed to be interpreted (link)
| |
God didn't make a mistake by making homosexuals. That's how they were formed in the uterus. For other people to not like someone based and homosexuality is simply wrong. If you're in a religion or spiritual you don't hate anybody especially somebody that's born a certain way. That's like saying they hate everyone with red hair. Hate is wrong and hate only makes more hate don't listen to them
|
|
hi hope you can help me i'm a 15 year old male i'm a devout christian i love god with all my heart and i wanna be a better christian and devote my life to god i want to help people to get closer to god i wantto start to spread god's word i'm a bit nervous not sure where to start but i want to start talkinhg to people about god maybe start with people that i know not sure how do i go about it? (link)
| |
I admire you for what you want to stand up for. Some people are put off when people speak about religion. They come across as preachy or they overdo it. Some people are embarrassed to talk about God I don't know why. Just take it slowly with your friends. If more people discussed religion and God and Jesus I think more people would believe in God. Good luck
|
|
can someone rebirth into an older person like i dont know how to explain it right, or do they have to be reincarnated into an infant first? plz dont think im stupid, im just wondering (link)
| |
You can be reincarnated but it's not necessarily at Birth. You can come back at any age
|
My cousin believes in god, but doesn’t believe everything in the Bible and doesn’t believe in going to church because “too many corrupt people in the church and it’s all about money and other things and not god”. She says you don’t need church to learn about god and a a lot of things have been changed in the Bible and it’s not true, etc.
(link)
| |
I call that a rebel Christian. Last November I cross paths with God. I had been an Atheist for 51 years and didn't believe in God. It took less than two minutes for me to know God exists after that experience. But I'm not changing my life. I don't like the Bible I've never opened one. I don't go to church. Believing in God is a personal thing. And different countries have different religions that don't even involve our Bible. God loves us equally and gave us free will to do what we want. I'm the last person I would have thought God would have wanted a cross paths with but he did. And I'm not changing anything.
|
|
So me and this guy have been messaging for a while now. We’ve gone out a few times, but it’s been as a double date every time. I’m not complaining though, I really enjoy it. He seems to be crazy about me, but kind of...I don’t know...inexperienced? I really like hanging out with him. He’s fun to be around and a really good guy. I just don’t get attached to people because I trained myself not to a long time ago when I went through betrayal. I guess I just want to be able to feel something. I don’t catch feelings so I don’t want to end things over that. I guess I wish he was more flirty? I find it fun if it’s done between two people who like each other. I feel like I’m the one to do stuff like this and I wish he would too because it makes me feel like I’m the one taking charge. He seems to like me way more than I like him and I don’t know...I feel kinda bad. Is there a way I can drop hints or something? Maybe have it brought up with the girl we double date with? I don’t know how to go about it, but I’d feel weird to straight up tell him... (link)
| |
You won't be able to change him into a flirty person. You're more advanced than he is in your social life. He doesn't sound as experienced As You Are. You probably going to get bored and move on and that might be for the best for the both of you. You seem to like a challenge and you're not being challenged right now and you can't teach that to somebody. Good luck
|
So it all starts with the ADHD I had when I was a kid, and how I grew up with it I guess. I had not the best childhood as my mom abused me and left me. I was bullied at this time and still have traumas.
I'm now 20 and it was only this year I was diagnosed with social Anxiety and a Cluster B personality Disorder, likely BPD.
I have a history of cutting myself and only this year I picked it up again. I can't move forward in life, I just can't. I have burns and cuts on my arms currently. I went to the ED (Emergency department) three times so far this year, and this was on my own accord. The first time I visited ED I felt normal, or what I perceive as normal. After being assessed I walked out. Second time was an interesting one, after getting off the train I had the urge to just buy a knife at the shops and stab my hand just so I can have a reason to go to the hospital. I stabbed myself decently just as planned in toilets, I would have liked to go deeper though. Got there and told them I stabbed myself. After getting cared for and being questioned by the psychology team, I felt a little crazy and wanted to make a scene cause why not? I actually did have a head ache and unfamiliarization tho :/ The nurse got worried and called for the psychology team again, this time the Psychiatrist. She put me on meds said I couldn't leave. The third time was a few days after cutting my hand rather deep and letting the blood drip on the pathway cause idk. I stopped going to my psychiatrist cause I don't trust him and think he's no good for me. He doesn't understand me at all. I'm now off Quetiapine and Escitalopram. I hate them. Recently I cut almost all remaining friends and acquaintances. Started drinking. I'm isolating myself. Not sleeping enough. Went to the GP today and he prescribed me with some other anxiety meds... whatever, he doesn't understand me either.
Anyway I feel like i'm heading towards a even darker place and don't know what my next action will be. I need advice. Help? (link)
| |
You're using self-mutilation to cover up the pain that's already inside you from your childhood. Next time you feel like cutting remember the scar that it will cause and how in the future people are going to ask you including your children what happened right there. Trust me they're going to ask. I would find another coping skill for when you're feeling angry or sad over things. Like putting a rubber band around your wrist and snapping it 10 times get your attention off of the pain that you're feeling inside of you. Eventually your past will start to fade away from you you're only twenty. Maybe try taking a class edit your adult education center or Community College. Not a class to get the credits but a class that you'll learn something from like a psychology class for a philosophy class. I know what you've been through. It does get better. Good luck
|
|
I’m an 19 year old female dating a 21 year old male. For the sake of the site, we can refer to him as T. T and i have been together for 8 months. He treats me perfectly but become extremely uncomfortable in situations that have to do with his phone. He hides his phone at night from me and refuses to show me. I know this is bad but i’ve found his phone and looked through it while he was sleeping and didn’t find much. He constantly is reassuring me how much he loves me but he always gets so uncomfortable, secretive, protective etc if i ever bring up his phone. The only thing i found on his phone was brief snapchat’s of him asking for photos from a female who lives out of the city. When i somewhat hinted towards it he denied it. when i checked his phone he had deleted her off snapchat. He also has a really good friend (we’ll call her C) who he’s been best friends with for years. They message everyday and always try to make plans to hang out. I found out recently that they’ve had a sexual past. I know this is all over the place but i don’t know exactly what to ask. am i worried for no reason? and how should i bring up the things in his phone without telling him i went through it? is it bad to go through s/o phone? (link)
| |
You and your boyfriend are entitled to your own privacy. Do not go through his phone. That is a trust issue. You have nothing on him. Some really simple things are private to some people. It's probably nothing. If you happen to catch him in the ACT doing something inappropriate then deal with that but his phone is his own just like your phone is your own
|
I don't really know where to start, so I'll just jump in. I really, really, REALLY hate myself sometimes. I'm a 31 year old college drop out, I have a dead end job that my mom got for me after I'd gone unemployed for a while, I've never had the balls to go after my dreams because I'm afraid I'll just screw them up like I screw everything else up, I can't emphasize enough how I screw pretty much EVERYTHING up, I have no useful talents, and I feel like an absolute nothing. I wonder sometimes why I was born in the first place.
I think what feels the worst is feeling extremely unloved, unwanted, and unimportant and having no one to talk to about it. I have a terrible relationship with my father, and I'm afraid I'm about to have one with my sister (my only sibling) as well. My mom loves me, which is great and nothing to take for granted, but I feel like no one else really cares. My dad's made it clear that I'm a disappointment to him and he and I have very, very little contact these days because his life revolves around my sister and nephew and he ignores me. When we are around each other, he treats me like his own personal human emotional punching bag. He gets angry extremely easily and takes it out on me. He'll get angry at my sister, but won't say a word to her about it because he wouldn't dare risk hurting her feelings or anything like that. Instead, he comes after me because my feelings don't matter to him and he doesn't care how he makes me feel by attacking me when I haven't done anything.
I feel like, aside from my mom, everyone who has ever cared about me much is gone. I had three grandparents who used to make me feel loved who have all died. The only one that's still alive ignores me like my dad does. I had this old school counselor once who I saw once a week from the 7th grade to the week before I graduated high school. She was a very sweet, loving, Christian woman who was the first person outside of my family to tell me she loved me. I was walking out of the room where she and I met at the time and I actually went straight across the hall to the bathroom and cried when she said that. It meant so much to me. But she died nearly three years ago. I feel like any friends I've ever had have moved away and I have a hard time making more because I'm so overly afraid of being judged as a loser that I don't let people that close to me. I feel like I make bad first impressions anyway and that also makes it hard to make friends.
I feel unsafe talking to anyone about this because when I've tried in the past, people have shamed me hard for my feelings and made me feel like I could never open up to anyone ever again. They don't listen, they ignore details, they put words in my mouth when it comes to my feelings, they let their own past experiences cloud their judgement, some of them yell at me, they call me whiny, they shame me, they make me hate myself more than I already do, and worst of all, they make me feel more unworthy, unimportant, and insignificant than I already do.
I didn't have a great 30th birthday. It was alright, nothing to complain about, it just wasn't special. My dad and sister ignored it, which hurt because I acknowledged and helped celebrate my sister's 30th and she actually planned our dad's 60th. It didn't sit well with me that after I did that for her and after she did that for our dad, showing that she does care about some people's milestone birthdays, she just ignored mine, showing that she didn't care about it. When I made the horrible mistake of expressing my feelings about that, people shamed me, called me self centered, and made me feel like I wasn't worth my sister's or my dad's trouble anyway.
Speaking of my 30th, my mom felt bad that she didn't make a bigger deal out of it as she typically goes over the top for birthdays, especially milestones. I told her that she did well on my 30th and didn't need to worry,. But she still felt bad, so she asked me what I wanted her to do to make it up to me. I said I didn't want anything, but she kept asking. SHE wanted to do something for me, SHE asked me what I wanted, so I came up with one idea. We had several movie nights over the course of a long weekend. I'm a big nerd when it comes to movies, especially scary movies. The ones from the 90's are my favorites, particularly the Scream trilogy I call it a trilogy because that's what the creators meant for it to be. Scream 3 was a perfect ending to the series and Scream 4 was an atrocity that should've never happened. This isn't relevant to my problem, it's just something that really pisses me off. Anyway, I stayed at her place that weekend and we watched the Scream trilogy. When I made the mistake of mentioning this to anyone, the next thing I knew, I was being berated for being emotionally manipulative for "guilting" my mom into doing this for me even though SHE was the one who said she didn't think she made a big enough deal about my 30th, SHE asked me how she could make it up to me and I at first told her I didn't want anything. This makes me feel like everyone always thinks thinks the worst of me in every situation, which makes me have a hard time not thinking the worst of myself.
Everytime I have a moment of any kind, my sister takes it away from me. If I lose a bunch of weight while she's struggling to do so, she gets mad, calls me a bitch, and makes me feel guilty for it. If I accomplish something, she puts it down and makes her accomplishments seem better. If I celebrate some big event in my life, she finds a way to make it all about herself. I can't vent to anyone about this because they'll just defend my sister and say that if it makes her feel better to do this, then there's nothing wrong with it. However, if I ever did the same thing to her, I'm the devil in the same people's eyes.
Another example would be when my maternal grandfather was in the hospital having surgery to repair a ruptured bowel. His chances of survival were very poor and I was alone in having to deal with the stress of his illness all day that day. My mom was out of town at the time and was trying to get home, but it took her like sixteen hours to do so. My uncles we're trying to get here as well, but the only relative of mine who could be with me anytime soon was my paternal grandmother (the one who doesn't care about me). Someone called her and suggested she come down here to be with me since I was alone and scared out of my mind. She called me to ask if I wanted her to come to town (she lives less than an hour away) and I said yes. She sounded disappointed and put out, but claimed she'd be here soon. Then, she called back several hours later and said she wasn't coming. If I open up to anyone about this except my mom and maybe my sister, they ask me what I did to my grandmother to make her care about me so little or accuse me of being too passive and not letting her know I wanted her here even though I specifically told her I did. Despite some relatives not being there for me when I need them or when I'm celebrating something important to me, people tell me I'm stupid for caring about those things or thinking they give any indication of how much those relatives care about me. They may be right about the birthday thing, but when it comes to the story of my grandfather being in the hospital and my grandmother not coming when I asked her to, I can't believe that this story does not indicate that my grandmother doesn't care about me very much. I mean, maybe if there was a reason she couldn't or shouldn't come to the hospital, I wouldn't feel that way, but there wasn't. She just didn't want to come. Aside from some people claiming that people can treat me this way and still love me "more than I will ever know," others have called me self centered for wanting love anyway and make me feel like I'm not worth it.
I want to be married someday and have children, but a few people have recently made me feel like I wouldn't be worth a damn to my family either. Some man stated a while back that dads were better parents than moms. That bothered me, so while searching the internet like an idiot to try to find something expressing equality between parents, I found a couple articles claiming that fathers are more important than mothers and one claimed that mother's aren't important at all. That they have no impact on their children at all unless it's a negative one, such as if they're abusive. Now, I know people can be morons and the internet is full of them and that I'm probably a moron for looking all of this up. I also know that whoever wrote that article is probably some butt hurt dad that gets pushed around and made to feel unimportant by his family, causing him to feel insecure and feel the need to make dads more important than moms, but it still bothers me. It makes me wonder how much my kids would need me if I had any. I also wonder what man would ever want to marry me. Everytime a guy seems interested in my, part of me almost judges him for being interested. I think so little of myself that I can't see why anyone would like me.
I hate people for making me feel so unimportant, but at the same time, I feel like anytime someone does seem to care about me and want to listen to my feelings, I don't want to tell them. I feel frustrated because I have all the feelings I've mentioned and more, but while my mom's asked me to confide in her, she tends to interrupt me when I try to. As for other people, I have this odd, incongruous feeling of being irritated with them when they ask me to talk. I can't explain it. I want so bad for someone other that my mom to care about me, but when someone does, I want to ask them why. Why do they care? Why do they want to hear about my feelings? Why do they think my feelings matter? Why do they think I matter? I don't get it. And I know I'm insane for feeling this way. I'm grateful when someone shows that they care, I really am, but I've been made to feel like I don't matter for so long that it causes me to feel this way and have no idea why I would feel this way (I hope that makes sense).
Lately, I've been having dreams about my future. I had a dream back in March that I was married to a great guy and that I'd just had a baby boy named Roman (my favorite boy name). I had a dream another night that Roman was grown and was so sweet, charming, and handsome and was taking care of me and showing concern for me when I was sick. I had a dream that I'd had a baby named Aaron and he was so cute I wanted to eat him up, but when I wake up from these dreams, I feel that I don't deserve the things I dreamed about. I had a dream last night that I shot myself and it scared the hell out of me. That's why I'm on this site today. I don't think I'd ever actually commit suicide, but that dream really scared me. Does anyone have any advice for me about how to handle these feelings?
P.S. Sorry this wound up being so long. (link)
| |
Wow. You had a lot to get off your chest. I would begin with learning to love and respect yourself and others will follow. Boost your self-esteem and confidence and other people see that in you. For starters, next time you go into a store every person look them in the eye and say hey how's it going. And then ask the cashier how's your day been? And then when you leave the cashier say take care. And then look at everyone as you're leaving the store and say hey how's it going or just simply High. That will give you confidence and you leave the store smiling. Just try it one time and see how you feel.
|
|