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i want to know which programming language should i learn to become app developer? (link)
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Hello - my husband is in the tech industry and he recommends Swift for mobile applications. Hope that helps!
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I’m gay and my grandma is very homophobic. I’ve been with my wife for five years so she’s had plenty of time to adjust. She’s always said random homophobic things but yesterday she took it too far. My wife was doing her makeup at my moms house and my grandma said “boys don’t wear makeup” I said “she’s not a boy she’s my wife” to which my grandma replied “women don’t have short hair” I so badly want to cut her out of my life and my mom is making excuses for her. I just will feel bad when she dies knowing I stopped talking to her. She sees nothing she did wrong and NEVER apologizes. Help! (link)
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Hello! Yikes, Im so sorry to hear about what you're going through with your grandma. I think you're completely justified in cutting your grandma out of your life - maybe not forever, but until she apologizes, and agrees to keep her homophobic and hate-filled comments to herself while you and your wife are around. She may never actually change her mind, but you can come to an understanding that if she wants you in her life, she will need to agree to respectfully
(silently) disagree. That way, if she does pass on, she'll know exactly why you're not speaking and it will be up to her to change things.
I also think you should deliver the same message to your mother, who is also spreading hate by defending your grandmothers words. Let her know she also owes you an apology, and if she wants to see you and your wife she'll need to do that and stop defending your grandmother.
If that sounds too extreme, consider giving them a timeline - like a year, or whatever you feel comfortable with, for them to "adjust". Let them know that if they cant reign it in by a year from now, at that point you will be cutting them out. Often the only leverage we have with family members is our presence in their life. It may take some time for one or both of them to come around, but thats ok. You are who you are, and you should not have to endure hate for one second whether its from a stranger or a family member.
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I am a 30 year old female and I have a date next Tuesday. We are going to the local pool hall to play pool. I am so nervous because I have never played pool and don't know , but that's what he suggested. I am also nervous because my friends say there might be alcohol there and I quit drinking 5 years ago because I don't handle alcohol well and what if he wants to buy me a drink should I just turn it down. I don't want to be rude. I also don't know what to wear to a pool hall. I don't to go over dressed or to casual either. What should I wear ? (link)
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Hello! Congratulations on your date! That's really exciting and I'm happy for you to go and meet someone new. I am married now, but I remember those mixed feelings of nervousness and excitement and all the questions that pop into your head about how to navigate a night with a stranger.
I think the fact that you have never played pool before could be good - be honest and take it as an opportunity for him to teach you something. Let him know you've never played and I bet he's more than happy to teach you the basics. Most men love to show women how to do something they like!
As for the drinking, be honest about that, too. For the first date you do not have to go into every single detail about the reasons why you don't drink, just let him know that you don't and ask for a pop or water instead. If your goal is for this to possibly lead into a relationship, you want to be honest about the things that are true for you. If he's somebody who just cannot handle that, then that's a good thing to find out on the first date so you don't waste each other's time. It's not rude to turn down alcohol. Not at all. It's rude if he makes it an issue.
For what to wear - I'd go with the outfit you feel best in. Pool halls do tend to be pretty casual and often on the warmer side, so jeans and a cute short sleeve or sleeveless top are totally fine. I wouldn't go for a dress or skirt this time, since playing pool involves a lot of bending over.
Good luck on your date and I hope all goes well!
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Hello,
I am a 15-year-old in school. I am currently thinking about colleges, and I realized that I'm quite average, with average grades, minimal volunteering, and almost no leadership work. I can't do leadership in school, because leadership roles are chosen by the teachers and they usually pick students with good grades and don't want to give others with poor or average grades a chance. I suggested it several times to the teachers to pick a wider range of students, but none of them would budge. I want to get into a better college, since my parents both went to good schools, have had the same expectations for me. However, at this rate, the best school I'll be going to is a community college. I'm an introvert who likes keeping to myself and I'm also painfully shy and don't really talk to anyone else other than my friends and family. I tried sports, but I'm not very good at that, no matter how hard I tried. I'm average at art, music and creative writing. I really want to improve my social skills to be able to put into a college resume. Any ideas?
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Hello!
It's awesome that you want to get into a good college, but I would encourage you to think about a couple of things, especially since a college degree doesn't necessarily mean what it used to anymore. For instance, what are your career goals after college? Does it require a college degree? If it doesn't, then you may not need to stress about getting into a good school. If it doesn't but you'd still like to have a degree anyway, a community college may be a great option since they're less expensive and are often much more flexible, giving you a chance to work or intern at the same time.
But if your career goals will require a college degree, start working on your grades, now. Good grades are unfortunately an admissions requirement, and that won't ever change. At 15 years old, you may be a freshman or a sophomore, and either way it's not too late to get back on track. Any college will still require you to keep up your grades so you will need to practice that now. And that will build your work ethic, too, which is never a bad thing.
As for leadership experience, and also volunteering opportunities, maybe try looking outside of school. There are many community options to involve yourself with, like YMCA's or community centers, libraries, churches, etc., that look for volunteers to help with their youth or kid programs. That may even help you branch out and improve your social skills as well, since you'll meet other people doing the same thing.
In life, you have to help yourself, because you're right that people will generally not take a chance on someone who has not demonstrated the skills required. That is unfortunately a reality we all live in. So, instead of trying to make others change to accommodate you, you will need to take matters into your own hands and change what you can within yourself. Start with your grades, and go from there!
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Hello, I've never really done anything like this but myself sister has used this website before and I thought I would use it for this inquiry I have. Basically I learned about the pain and suffering of animal at a young age 12 to be exact. I learned about it from the internet and became a vegetarian and soon as my mom let me which was when I was 13 or 14. Now that I'm older and have been making my own food and dont have to eat what my mom makes anymore. I realized that I was still watching videos on Veganism but still remained a vegetarian. One night I it came to me and I decided to become Vegan. It has been difficult especially when I go out with my family. I will not lie I have messed up a lot some on accident some on purpose. I can handle that. The real problem is that I'm in a school called EVIT it's a vocational school where you get to be hands on experience in the career you want to pursue. I was in culinary at my school for two years but then I saw that EVIT had a lot more to offer then my school. So I'm now currently in EVIT it is my second week and I started to cook foods. A lot of them have dairy or meat in them. Taste is one of the most important components of culinary so the fact that I cant taste things is terrible for me. No one really even knows I'm Vegan except one girl who I told when she told me to taste something. While no one might challenge me on the hypocrisy of making food with meat products in it but not eating it I do and dont know how to feel. I dont feel like I can call myself Vegan but I dont want to ruin my career because of this. I know this was a lot to read but it's what I've been thinking. Am I being selfish? I think so. Do you? (link)
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Hello! That sounds like a really good school to be in, I wish there were options like that when I was in high school.
I think in this situation, you will need to look at it like you did when you had to eat what your parents provided. In your heart you may have been vegan, or vegetarian, but because of the situation, you needed to eat what your parents gave you. During your time in school it will be the same way... Just a temporary time in your life where the situation calls for you to put a pause button on vegan - just during class, in order to learn all you can. Then after class and at home you can eat vegan.
We will always need to find compromises when two things we want in life conflict. If your goal is to be a chef, then in the long run, it will be more important to learn and taste as much as you can, so that when you're done, you can do whatever you want and replicate dishes in a vegan variety, after you know what they should taste like and have the skills to adjust things to your vegan preferences.
You also have the option of tasting, but not swallowing. For example, if your friend wanted you to taste her dish, you could explain that you're vegan and are willing to put it in your mouth, but will be spitting it out without swallowing as a statement and testament to your beliefs. That way the message is out there, and you are still able to offer feedback to your friend.
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