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Hi there..am Female,23...
Well I had a serious relationship for a 4good years..n recently we broke up..till the end I have trusted him blindly n forgave him for his every mistakes as I loved him in worst n best..there were so many incidents that did shake my faith in him still I intentionally omitted them n behaved like a blind...i know I should not have trusted him so blindly..but I was scared of losing him..so anyhow at any cost I tried to keep him in the relationship..though I never got any evidence that he was cheating on me..but he did a lots of things that indicate he was upto some other girls...but just to keep the mental peace I sabotaged my way of thinking..within this four year duration we broke up for thousand times n everytime I begged him to patch up woth me..he never ever came back to me..every now n then he insulted me my friends n my family..even he n his mom mentally abused me n accused me for his alcohol addiction..he never trusted me so if anybody unknown to him ever comes to him n tell him that I go physical with any random guy, he would have believed that..he even had problems with my dresses n uploading my pics on Facebook...whereas his mom uploads odd pics of hers on fb n flirts around with unknown guyz..i didn't have any issues with her untill n unless she poked his son about my dressing sense and he abused me with slangs..the society I come from is a bit conservative and orthodox..women who have on of that age n husband alive,doing such nasty things are considered to be perverted..i completely felt disgusted by him n his mom..how hypocritical they can be!!
But I trusted n loved him so much..so got a irreparable wound..can't be healed...but now there is a guy younger than me..he admires me n wants to be committed with me...but my ex bf made me absolutely unable to trust any guy...
Please tell me what should I do? (link)
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you trust him and you should hide it for some days. if you really want him to care about you and not to break your trust then simply I am requesting you if you can avoid him for some days. you have to behave like that you are avoiding him and he had to feel it. then i am sure he will come back to you and will love you so much because he can realize about you only when u avoid him. blind trust makes a man to go away. you trust him keep it in your mind. dont mention it to him. think smartly, you will get smarter life. :D
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so my boyfriend and me have been going out for 5 months now. and we never fight its great. cause were both really chill :) .... but .... :( **iam 16 years old btw. (female)
(now i kknow this is going to sound bad please dont judge it just happen.... i feel aweful and i regret it but please dont judge with what i am about to say.)
--> so i really do love and care for him and he tells me he feels the same way. but his personality is always humor not to serious just likes to joke and have fun which i dont mind i find it amusing :p and im kinda the same so it works great. but last night i was sleeping over at his friends house with him and we were all in his friends bed. (me, my boyfriend and his friend) and were all pretty close haha but jokingly to piss off / amuse his friend as a joke me and my boyfriend started having sex. in the bed. and his friend lying right there (dont judge i know it sounds bad) but to be honest i only do this stuff cause he tells me to and i just wanna make him happy. i will admit im kinda whipped. but anyways so then as a joke he told his friend to join in. and hes always joked about 3 some. / sharing me (jokingly) and we had something like this happen before but not that bad just kiss. (same guy) as a dare. with him there. and so anyways he kept telling me to. and they both kept telling me to and to be honest i felt really pressured. and so i gave in. at first it was like jokingly i let him fuck me. :( with my boyfriend right there in the bed. and i just did it cause i felt pressured to by them. and my boyfriend just laughed at first and made little comments. then lied there and \"slept\" per say but i know he was awake but i dont know why i let his friend keep going. i honestly just didnt know what to say i wanted it to stop but i didnt have the guts to stop him. i was frozzeen. i didnt enjoy his friend at all i just wanted to be with my boyfriend. :( anyways i think this time it made him mad. cause he left the room. got up and walked out. and i was left there with his friend . and his friends like i think he cares this time... im like well then why did he tell me to? :( ugh!!! anyways i got up and left to and went to the couch away from them both and just cried all night. think im stupid and just fucked up how could i let this happen. now hes mad :/ which isnt what i wanted i really love and care for him i just wanted to make him happy. not mad. i did what he said i went along with his joke. and anyways his friend told me this ....
\"yeah he never admits to liking you and or any of his girlfriends and he wont ever admit it to us cause he just is hiding his emotions but i can tell as his bestfriend he really does care and like you cause of what he got you for christmas and the fact that what we just did effected him (it apparently never effected him in the past) but he must really like you cause he never spends money on his girlfriends and in the past hes onlydated a girl about a month or two and they fight all the time and we have been together 5 (almost 6) months and no fighting. and the fact he is moody and u effect his moods shows he cares.
(but the next morning he just walked by and left the house. he didnt say goodbye or anything to me....)
so basically im just asking. was last nights incident proof that he cares about me cause it effected him to see me with another guy? cause it never used to effect him apparently when he had a 3some in the past. and is what his friend saying true? or did i just fuck up and loose a guy i really care about :( i dont know what to do. or should i dump him cause he is treating me like a trophy and has no respect for me? :/ :( like i dont know what to think anymore. i do not want to loose him though cause all our friends are the same. i just dont know if im being treated like a trophy and used. or if he really cares and hes just starting to show it. please help :( sorry for it being so long :/ (link)
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I just wanna say you made a great mistake. your boyfriend had past in his life and he got some knowledge about love. I think he is smart. He tested you by doing this. If you were the right girl for him, you would never ever fucked his friend. He wanted from you to say, "you will die but you cant do this. you can leave your boyfrined but you cant do this. if you live, you will live only for him". May be your relations was good and he passed some awsm time with you & he thought deeply about you & compared you with his past and that the issue. He thought everything were okay. So, for some life time decision he needed a special decision for him and tested you. do you really care for him from every side. May be you cared for him but that how much? :D He needs to know it by doing something. I think this issue is the higher issue to verify love. He wanted to know it from from you or from your activities. and you failed :D.
I would like you suggest you never ever do it again. if there is any way to go to him... you just say to forgive you and made some commitment for you good relation and never break commitment. I think he will forgive you and will love you some much then ever you wanted from him. :D you made a great mistake and to recover it, do anything to forgive you. never face his friend in your whole life. :P.
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I am Royal Khan
Bangladesh
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