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ieatjello
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ive been with my boyfriend for 10 months now and he isn't a virgin but i am. and i wanted to know that he really loves me and he didn't just want to get in my pants so i decided not to give it up to him in the beginning. now we're at 10 months and i feel like sometimes i wanna give it up to him and sometimes i don't because im scared that im gonna regret it. my real problem is that im scared that he's gonna leave me or have sex with someone else because hes waited so long without having sex (link)
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I've been with my boyfriend for a year and 8 months and he isn't a virgin and I am. Relationships isn't about sex . You have to have that confidence of him not cheating on you. If he says he loves you , than he loves you. He should never pressure you either. My boyfriend always tells me its not about sex . We actually have dry sex , sounds funny but you can try that. If he does leave , he's missing out . Dont do it until you are really sure ! You have tour whole entire life ahead of you to do it . Be confident and he isn't doing a good job of making you feel confident if your feeling this way. Dont feel insecure.
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I was at a waterpark today with my friend -one girl, one guy-and I jokingly pointed out a cute boy that was standing by two other guys.. so my -guy- friend went over and said, 'Dude, she likes you.' ... and his friends laughed and said, 'THAT girl??!' and they did that dumb 'gag' hand gesture where they point down thier throat and pretent to throw up. The worst part was, I think, was the fact that I later found out one of the guys was the son of my dad's co-worker/best-friend... it just lowered my self esteem even more later on, when I was getting out of a pool and they started splashing me with a lot of water and yelling at me.. so I kinda lost it and flipped them off and hid in the restroom--more info-- im a middle schooler, blonde, very skinny, and short short hair.. and I have depression. :( so I guess the question is, how do I deal with this? I haven't had a boyfriend for almost two years, but every time my friend trys to set me up, she ends up with the guy, and every time one of my guy friends trys to, they come back saying guys thought I was.. ugly. (link)
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I never seen you before but I know you are far from ugly . God already used his paintbrush on you , no need to change the art. Your only thirteen , you shouldn't be dating . You should be building up that confidence! Lets say you do get into a relationship and the guy ends up breaking your heart , you will feel more depressed than you feel now. I think you should learn to love yourself before you go loving anyone else. If your skinny and blonde ROCK that skinny blonde hair girl look and love it at the same time. Your not in this world to please others , not everyone is going to like you and not everyone is going to find you attractive. What matters is that you find YOU attractive. Have fun , enjoy your youth . No need to rush into dating any guy.
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I am only 10going on 11and I have the worries and stress of an average teen! First off we are NOT poor! My mom is a doctor and my dad is a pharmacist. They don't have to pay for childcare cause my dad works when my is off.i have literally clothes that would be considered " babyish" for a 7 year old. I have very little clothes. Please don't think I'm a spoiled brat who is complaining when she doesn't get what she wants. In 2nd grade rumors were going around because if my clothes.everybody expet for my 2 friends looked at me like a was a monster. This has been going on scince then, but I try to ignore it. I am willing to pay for it from my own $but my mom says I have enough clothes. Am I crazy for wanting more clothes??am I ungrateful? According to my mom I am. HELP??? (link)
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Honey , you are only ten . You shouldn't feel pressure about looking good . Its all about the inside. You get what you receive and always be thankful for what you got. Yes you may have a " little " but remember there's people who have absolutely nothing. Always stay humble . Stop worrying about the world . There is always going to be judgment either way. The more you get clothes , the more you want. Stop worrying about looking good , always stay humble. Because you don't got it bad !
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Hi, 20/M
Me and my girlfriend (all but name) have been going through a rough patch recently.
I saw some messages on her phone at like 1am from a guy that she was introduced to at work. He sent her a pic of herself, and sent messages like "I'm not the type of guy that has sex with just anyone". I told her that I saw them, and it really upset me. Not only do I find it to be inappropriate to be texting someone else at 1am, but what really upset me was that I left hers, because she claimed to be too tired, at 12am.
We spoke and she apologised, and she said she didn't see it like that and understood why I was upset.
There is also this other guy, who is the boyfriend of a mutual friend. We went to a BBQ a while ago, and I kept telling her that he was flirting with her. I then saw messages from him, on her fb, at 1am, with him telling her that "she's cute".
Again, we spoke about this and she said that she didn't really it as a problem, and she didn't see it as flirting.
I'm worried that because our relationship status is not public (people just think we're friends), when she is nice to guys that flirt with her, may give the guy the wrong impression i.e. that she is interested, when really she says that she doesn't know the difference between flirting and someone being nice.
It feels now that she has really taken on board what we've spoken about before. But do I have anything to worry about? Is it inappropriate for a girl to be like that with another guy? My friend says yes, but my girlfriend just happens to get on better with guys than girls (I also get on better with girls than guys).
What also confuses me is that sometimes she will say "I can't just stop talking to them, thats rude" or "He helped me with my job application, I can't make it look like I was using him" which to me sound like excuses.
I just don't know what to think. Am I being paranoid, stupid, and jealous? Or are her actions inappropriate? I of course want her to have friends, but why am I being so paranoid when it comes to these two guys? Is it just because it happens to be that they were flirting? Or am I going to carry on being like this with every guy friend she has?
I should reinforce that our relationship is fine apart from that. She loves me, and I love her. She hasn't physically cheated on me. It's just this messaging. (link)
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Honestly , if you find it a problem its because it is a problem. Everyone should treat one another how they want to be treated. Your girlfriend obviously wants to be treated how she treats you. If she loves you , she wouldn't let you feel the way you are right now. If your relationship isn't public , than you should feel insecure . You should talk it over with her . You should always receive respect and if she doesn't want to stop talking to those guys than the relationship isn't important. When you love , you risk alot of things and she isn't risking that. You deserve to be with someone way better , someone who respects how you feel.
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