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My name is Nikki� and I love to help people with there problems. I wont give you cheap not-really-caring-answers. (= I'll make sure to give you the best answer you can ever get! Well, heres a little about me, I love to smile :D its my favorite! Singing,writing, and acting are my life. If you have any questions that are privite or personal you can send me an IM from Ask me dudex3 (which i made JUST for advicenators) by the way, i will answer any questions, no matter who werid/embarrising/sick or personal! (= thanks for reading. Please ask a question if you need help!

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What do you suggest I eat to lose more weight?

Ok, well start eating you veggies (= and try to do alot of athletic stuff, like swimming,surfing,skating,skiiing. and you know sports (= p.s hiking & tennis burn the most cals. And make a list if what you normally eat. for example. Hashbrowns,Bacon,Soda,Cheetos,Another pop, and 2 cookies. That way you know what you should do. Like switch cookies with carrots. Or have some tea instead of pop. Or low-fat bacon. Turkey bacon is the healthiest! And doing some jumping jakcs, which burn about 400 cals. and try not to look at that calories all the time. Look at the fat and stuff (=

Have fun!!
- Nikki™

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16/f
I've been with my boyfriend for about a week. He is friendly and has a ton of friends, although he's not considered popular and he's definitely not a jock. Since we've been together we've gone as far as taking all of our clothes off except underwear. He constantly makes sure I'm comfortable with this because, as he puts it, I'm too important to him to ruin it over something like moving too fast.
I'm completely okay with how far we've gone, and its comforting that he seems to care about me. However, everytime we hang out we only make out and never talk. I know a relationship needs more than physical aspects, and he assures me that he's not looking for a purely physical relationship. How do I make sure he's not just using me? Thanks in advance.

Well, maybe you guys are moving to fast. You should tell him to that it would be better to take things slow. And if he cares about, he will respect that. Try not to make talk 24/7 though. Just call each other, go hang out at the mall together or do something that will get your mind off making-out and getting to know each other. That way it can be fun, so you know you dont have to make out all the time to have a good time together (=


Good Luck

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I have been an advice coloumnist on this site for almost three years. I am very happy that I have helped so many people and yet I am unhappy as a person. I have an empathy level for people that is off the charts. It makes me literally sick to my stomach when I see someone in absolute pain. I care more about a strangers well-being than my own. I am successful as a writer and college student but I can't figuare out why I am not happy with myself. I had many boyfriends since the sixth grade, alot of which I savotaged even though they were really great guys and some that were not. I find myself at a crossroad unable to decipher my own feelings. Why am I so unhappy? When I look at my life, I should be thrilled, not unhappy.

Well maybe you should take a brake from helping others. It might help you! Go shopping with freinds, visit your mom, do something exciting. And theres probably something bothering you. You might not know it. Maybe you should release your feelings out, you might bottle your feelings without knowing it. And if you like helping people try doing something that is helpful to other and exciting for you (= like a two mile bike ride that helps raise money and reasearch for cancer.

Be happy k,?
- Nikki™

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and i'm going into 7th grade. I go to this day camp, and, i am an aide there. There is this guy there, that I think is really hot, and I always catch him staring at me. I know his sister pretty well, but, she is two years older than me, this guy is on my grade, but, doesn't go to my school, and in camp, we have no classes together. I really want to get to know him, though. I think he knows my first name. He has smiled at me a couple times, but, we've never actually talked. how do I get to know him, by letting him take the first move? please help me because he seems like an amazing guy! :] And, if you are gonna say, ohh, well, you need to strike up a converstaion with him, then don't answer this please, because I don't even knoe if he'd want to talk to me, and in 7th grade, girls don't do that, unless they know the kid!

Well try talking to his sister (= just be like, Well actually i think your brothers really cute..and i was wondering if you could us meet each other. Or maybe you should just wave at him, or give him a smile. (= guys like girls who are friendly! And i know who you feel, i just left from seventh grade. And ask his sister what kind of girls he's into..that might help!

Good luck

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16/f

so i'm kind of confused about my sexual orientation right now, but i think i'm bi and i think im in love with my best friend [who is a girl].. i told her about it, and she said she was fine with it, but she didnt feel the same way. she said she only loved me as a best friend, but nothing more. i went to visit her in california for a week and at first we would be really affectionate towards each other. like we would hold hands and cuddle a lot. sometimes she would bite my ear and i would kiss her on the cheek. then one day, i just asked her if i could kiss her, and she said i could. so ever since then, we would make out like all the time, but we would try to hide it from our other friends. the thing is, i asked her if she loved me, like if she was "in love" with me, but she said she doesnt know. she just said she knows she loves me, but not if she's IN love with me. so i just said okay. but then i also asked her if she was bi, and she said "i dont know. only with you i guess.." so i dont know. it's so confusing...when i came back to new york, she would tell me she missed me and stuff and she wanted me to come back..the thing is, i really dont know how she feels about me. she makes it seem like the thing that happened between us while we were there was nothing to her because she does it with other guys; like theyre not even together or anything.. and more recently, it seems like we're not as close anymore. like we dont talk on the phone as often, and when we do, there's a lot of silent, awkward moments. i dont know what to do.. how can i tell if she loves me more than just a friend or not at all? do you think she's just in denial or not?

i'm so sorry it was long. i really need help though..thanks.

Shes probably just as confused ask you are! She might be thinking alot of her sexuality. Thats why she might be kissing other guys, just trying to figure out who she is, if shes bi, or a lesbian, or striaght. She might be thinking if it was just a one time thing, or if it was really something magical. And she also might want to keep it on low down becuase she doesnt want anyone to know. And antoher thing is she might worry what her family would think if she told them. You should give her a little time, but confront her also and tell her how you feel. And shes probably not in denial, just confused about everything. She could just feel a sexual attraction for you and not other girls.

- Hope you & your friend work out (=
love,
Nikki™

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