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My mom said I could start a babysitting business this summer. I am going to make some poster ads for it. What should I write on the fliers though? I want a good flyer that people will notice and call me about so I can make some money. The only thing I know to put on it is that I can do babysitting. What do I write to get clients? (link)
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I think itt is wonderful that you are growing up and desire to work to take care of yourself. It is always a good idea to keep it simple, not too many words. Just let them know that you are three things, if you are of course, and these are: Responsible, Reliable, and of course, the big one, that your rates are reasonable, if you can't truthfully say that they are cheap.
Good luck on your babysiting venture. And please, if you need MOOR advice, let me know.
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ok so about a year ago i read a few of my dads text messages. there were some texts of questionable nature and they were sent to a guy. i told my sister and then we sat down together and told my mom. she confronted my dad who denied it and we all went along with our little lives. then yesterday, i was the only one awake in my house and my dads iPod touch was charging in the kitchen, i proceeded to start playing some apps and what not. but then i got a funny feeling that i should click on the "email" app. so i did. he had 3 different email accounts set up to it, two of them i was familiar with, but i had never seen the third before. so i clicked on it and this is when i wish i would just STOP going through my dads stuff. he had several emails from different guys talking in ways two guys should not talk to each other (especially a married man with FIVE kids!) some emails said what they are into, some talked about meeting up, some said "nice pic, hope to see the real thing". i'm 17, not stupid so i know what they were talking about!
so my dad is bi sexual, obviously! but i don't know what to do! do i tell my mom or confront my dad?? my dad would get pissed that i looked through his stuff and that i am accusing him of this again! my dad is a jerk already, but i don't want him to hate me! i have 3 little brothers ages 7, 5 and 1, all i keep thinking about is how this will affect them if i say something. my youngest brother, we are in the process of adopting him, and i would be devastated if we couldn't adopt him, if they got a divorce. should i wait until September, when the adoption is complete to say something? my sister moved out of state, so i cant talk to her as easily, so she cant help me again.
my dad is always on my case about how i cant be trusted to do things, when he is the one with a secret like this! i have no idea what to do! i have been severely nauseous since last night. i don't want to possibly break up the family by saying something, i would rather this still all be a secret. i would feel so responsible for the divorce if i said something. i just don't know what to do. i am also shocked because we go to church every week, twice a week. my dad just got a position in the youth group...how is he going to teach the youth not to sin when he is committing one of the biggest sins??
i get sick every time i think about my brothers and my mom. i know i cant keep this in because it has been eating me alive and its only been 10 hours since i found out. i don't know what to do..i need help. what am i supposed to do? so much is riding on my family, a divorce would mess everything up. i would lose some of the most important things in my life. help me...please?
also, my dad took his ipod to work with him, as he does every day. so i cant really show my mom, without him around...
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This is a very disturbing subject. I cannot pretend to have the answer for you because it is your family, not mine, and only you can either confront your dad, preferably with your mom present should you decide to do so. However, you were prying into his private matters. I find it interesting to note that you teenagers always jump up and down screaming about your privacy, like you pay the bills or something, when you DO NOT. Now here you are, invading the privacy of the person who does pay the bills. In that, you should be ashamed. But, there is a bigger picture here, that of your intended adopted brother. The question now becomes: is he being brought into a situation not suited for what is probably his fragile mindset?
I think that you should talk with your out of town sister, or grandparent because this issue will likely arise again but under more uncomfortale circumstances, and we don't want that do we? Otherwise, I think you should just keep your mouth shut. You did tell your mom before right? It is her choice to believe, disbelieve or not, and to act upon it should she choose to act. You are the child, not the parent. Focus on being that, and having fun out of life not worrying about such heavy subjects. Things have a way of taking care of themselves.
Take care of yourself please, and if you need MOOR advice, let me know.
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So right now I'm feeling very anxious to see this guy that I like. However, when I do see him sometimes I find myself slightly less attracted to him. Or even embarrassed? But only when other people are around. I should explain.
My last boyfriend had flaws that I suppressed in my mind. He is not the most intelligent person ever (This is in no way to be a snob, but he is more of a party-going guy who doesn't like the idea of school. I live to learn and do really well in school so obviously there is a problem). My parents also hated him because they feared he wasn't "right" for me. And also he isn't what I consider extremely attractive. But I really liked him, and even loved him at one point. However, with all of these "flaws" I would sometimes look at him and suddenly be nearly repulsed (that word is too strong, but the point is that from one day to another my feelings for him would change 180 degrees). It's almost like he was a different person but obviously he hadn't changed, it was me who had the problem. Eventually my "hot and cold" behavior was our downfall. It caused so many problems. I broke up with him several times and wanted him back soon after. And he told me several times that I acted very weirdly and changed: that alone I would be one person and in public another. I had problems with "acting like his girlfriend." He told me that I treated him more like a friend. Eventually he stopped loving me and broke up with me for good.
Now I like another boy. And by his behavior I get the idea that he likes me as well. I don't find myself repulsed by him but rather uneasy. I told my friend that I liked him and now whenever I talk to him during class I feel like she is staring at me. I can rationalize that no one really cares and that even if did something stupid and people noticed it wouldn't matter. I'm usually not that self-conscious of myself in general in public. This tends to happen only with crushes or relationships.
I don't know why this happens and am honestly afraid that my last relationship will repeat itself with just a different face. My attraction for this new guy is completely different (he's smart, polite, my parents would like him, etc.) but I'm still afraid that this will happen. I thought that I'd gotten over this issue (it's been 7 months since I ended the last relationship) but I realize that I've just pushed this all under the rug and now it's coming out again. Am I psychologically disturbed? I don't know, but this is very aggravating. :(
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You just didn't like him the way you thought ou would. In fact, you only thought that you would because in reality, you probably thought that you could be good for HIM, and not him for you. You wanted to change him, to help you be more like you which of course he could never be. This is an old desease, where people want rescue someone who doesn't want to be rescued because they don't view who they are as needing to be rescued. During the times you looked at him in repulsion is when you looked at him withou the pity with which you normally viewed him as. Without that pity, there was nothing left, and so no more attraction. It was probably for the best that he broke up with you because he would have ended up hating you for despising the needy person you viewed him as.
If you need MOOR advice, let me know.
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Alright, I had this past "fling" I guess you could call it. It was but it wasn't because we never talked face to face. I initiated everything, I wrote the notes first, I made the phone calls first, I set up the time and place we could talk but every time, he was to nervous to talk. In his note he expressed everything, I actually still have his note that's how near and dear to my heart it is. He said in it that he likes me so much and he never felt this way about a girl before. That I'm his only one, that every time he wanted to talk to me he couldn't because he would get this knot in his stomach. We cared about each other a lot, I know you're probably laughing reading this seeming as it isn't a real relationship if he couldn't talk to me. I wouldn't talk to him because I initiated everything, I couldn't do it all, ya know, he needed to step up. My friend was a mediator I guess you could say. They talked on the phone pretty much all the time and they would always talk about me. He said he can't get me off of his mind, that he's going to talk to me soon. He's a singer for my church and one time we had battle of the bands, I looked him dead in the eyes when he was singing and he messed up and had to start all over again. Now, I explained that it's time to get to my point. We are over each other, of course we're always going to have that care for each other but he now has a girlfriend. My question is, why was it so easy for him to ask out his current girlfriend when he couldn't even talk to me? (link)
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You seem like a nice young lady which makes his observation more difficult. Your friend at church is more likely just going through motions of just being with a girl period. He was not accustomed, or so it seems, to talking to girl at all, le along in a sort of disconnected way. This new girl likely peirced his interest enough for him to ge over his fear of talking to girls. Don' read too much into it. It will take a while for even him to know what he wants to the degree that he can explain it to you or anyone else. So if you really like this young man, be patient, your opportunity will come to at least talk to him on a sound level. Don't emarrass him because that will only make him shut down. Just wait and I promise you that something will happen to place you in a position to talk. Trust me on that.
If you need MOOR advice, let me know.
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