Hi i'm Katie. I love lending a helping hand. I understand the need to be anonymous, and have tackled suicidal thoughts, confused sexuality problems, your favorite TV show is my life story. This is what i really want to help with and if this is you, i will try my best to give you what you need to hear and convince the world that everyone is beautiful and needs some love. No matter who you are, what you believe in, i'm here for you because i hate how i felt when no one was there for me.
Shout out to all the Lovatics!
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Location: Canada
Member Since: October 2, 2013
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Last Update: January 24, 2015
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Okay so I am 15 and I have had my period for 3 years now and I am masterbating regularly but I am a virgin well not long ago I noticed lump in my vagina. What is this? Please help. Is something wrong with me?? (link)
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Is the lump inside your vagina? Because often this is just how your vagina is structured and it should not worry you,
Should it be hurting, or irritating you in any way, is the point when you should tell your mom, and probably seek better advice
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This guy likes me and keeps talking to me and I want to make sure I'm not accidently flirting with him. Can you tell what not to do? Thanks (link)
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The best thing to do is hint subtly that you're his friend nothing more.
Also, if worst comes to worst and you really think he's not getting the point, ask him advice on someone else you like.
It's often worked for me, as I'm gay (I hope this doesn't put you off my advice) but when guys hit on me, I slip in questions and start hinting that I like another girl, then eventually I just come out and say "you're my friend, and I kinda need help."
They ask "what for"
And I tell them "well I kind of like this girl and I don't know what to do/how to approach her"
Hopefully they still remain your friend
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I daydream a lot and I did a little research and I am not sure if it is a maladaptive daydreaming. I think it becoming a problem because I don't like pain. However, when I have a painful experience I create a scenario in my head. The scenario is even more painful but I am in control of what happens. During these daydream I get emotional because they are very painful experience but it worse than the pain I am going through. It my way to escape and process my emotion. I can cry without dealing with my actually emotionally pain. (link)
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What is your question tho?
I'm confused to the actual problem. Is it when your mind starts to interfere and get in between the process of physical pain, or is it the other way, and the real pain In fact, is emotional, but you create a mental, physical pain to deal with it?
In any case the problem you are facing is that pain is in the mind and you find the need to amplify it. The person you should see, to maybe stop this experience is a phsycyratrist, shrink, or therapist, whatever you call them.
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I need advice on how to improve my chances of getting reviews on my stories. Anything you can tell me? (link)
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I like angeie14's answer, but you also need to keep in mind, that you need to make sure you have followers that are willing to review. Often, what i do, is ask my followers for options. I'll tell them, X, Y, and Z can happen next chapter, and they review their answers. You don't need to give them your full plan or twist, just something to keep them interested. Giving them the option, makes them more invovled in the story too.
Hope that i helped,
thx,
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Hi guys I need some advice on how to get reads on wattpad. No matter what I do I can't seem to get anybody to read my stories. What did I do?
wattpad: hospitalforsoulz (link)
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I had the same problem a while ago actually. in order to be a successful author, you need to put yourself out there, and comment and vote on other people's stories. The advice you got before this, could be helpful, but all you really need to do is find a steady array of followers and people that you can rely on to make your story popular for you. Keep uploading chapters, cus people often look at the stories with more chapters on it first. Also, keep uploading chapters. You can't take breaks for more than a week, if you story isn't popular yet. once it is, you will have the liberty to do whatever you want.
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hi,i was just wondering what kind of books you would recamend if i liked books that involved teenage love,drama,and most of all best friends wanting to become lovers who are generally a teen.
any of those if fine but i get interested in teen romance stuff.it would also be good if they had like peer pressure,sex,drugs,alcohal. and so on.thanks (link)
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Try fanfiction.net, you can search for your favorite best friend couples and look for your preferences. It's awesome! Personally i write on there, but i mostly ship fem slashes, so just check it out, you'll love it!
Try looking for your favorite book, movie, TV shows, etc., best friend characters and you'll see many other people love that too!
Have fun!
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I am someone that gets a lot of attention. People constantly compliment my looks. And most of the time I feel like I feel good about my appearance. I'm a size 8, blonde, relatively tall.
But I can't handle negative comments, ever. I defended a friend of mine tonight, and this guy says my legs are like tree stumps or something random like that.
How is it that one tiny negative comment, the first I've had in forever, can undo so much positive reinforcement? Suddenly it feels like some kind of comfirmation that yes - it's all a lie. I'm average, I'm not attractive, I'm not skinny enough and I want to change everything about myself.
Most of the time I feel like I have good self esteem. But I used to have an eating disorder, I wonder if this stuff will always plague me. What gets me the most is, am I really this shallow? I care way too much about the fact that everyone views me as attractive, one person says a negative thing, mostly to get back at me, and I can think of nothing else. (link)
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You are not shallow at all. You're just vulnerable and at a stage where you just don't believe in yourself. You might think you have good self esteem, that you improved, but this feeling you're getting is just a reminder that you can never stop thinking about yourself.
This isn't being shallow, you just need some time to yourself, make yourself believe the truth... the truth that you are beautiful. That your legs that you seem so insecure about, is the most beautiful part of you. That everyone only tries to put you down because they are jealous.
The worst thing that is the worst about how you're feeling, is that you're thinking about who you could be. Never change, that's only going to make you feel more down, that's only going to make you feel that even you believe in what people say, and that's the worst thing.
Think about all the good things people say about you, think of me saying you're beautiful next time someone tries to put you down. Believe more in what you're thinking than what they're saying. Think that the only people and opinions that matter in you life, should be the people who makes you feel good about yourself, the people you love, and for one thing care about in return, otherwise there is no point in even having those people.
Remember me, remember your family, your friends, and just live in your beauty and never believe in the existence of ugliness, because no one else matters, only what you see matters, and what i see, is that you're beautiful. After all, only the best people get put down, think of it that way.
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I want to die
So tel me , some painless option how i can die (link)
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You don't want to die...
No matter who you are, where you're from, and why you are asking this question, all i know is that you need someone to talk to, someone who'll listen. I want to help. My email adress is katiemckenzie@yahoo.com. If you feel like sharing please just email me and i will listen. You might not feel like talking, but typing out your problem, expressing your feelings and trying to understand why you want to do what you do will help. Do me a favour and email this to me. I will answer you, and it won't even feel like you're making yourself vulnerable. It won't feel like sharing, but it will take a lot of stress off you.
The most painless way to die is without stress and feeling happy. The most painless way is to die naturally. Let your death be something you don't want. When it comes by, you can say it took long enough, but for now realize that you're worth something, and no one, not even someone you don't know, is going to help you kill yourself without helping.
You have a purpose in life. My purpose might be to help you, someone who could change the world for the better who knows, but you're not meant to die now. All those people who you don't know love you, think about them, by killing yourself you might make them feel like wanting to do the same. That's how someone's suicide made me feel, and i don't want to stand by and watch it happen again.
I was so close to doing it, but i was pulled out by my idol Demi Lovato. If you don't want to talk to me, find someone like her.
No matter what, just remember, i'm here for you... we're here for you. Let me be the one reminding you that someone out there loves you indefinitely, the people who admire you for being alive that long, let me help you.
Just type, and let your emotions flow...
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So, I think I've been depressed for a while now.. the thing is I got used to being sad and down all the time.. nothing affects me anymore.. not even my long-distance boyfriend. I'm 16 year old female who does not feel anything anymore. I used to love my boyfriend so much, and now I don't know what happened.. it's not just with him its with every person I know.. even my best friends and my family.. they just annoy me.. I find no pleasure in anything anymore.. Sometimes I find myself happy with everything and I get my love back for him and everyone.. its just so frustrating.. my mother thinks its just because of hormonal changes in my teenage years.. but is it possible that I just dont love my beloved ones anymore? I feel crazy.. (link)
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You don't always feel you love somebody. You know that feeling where you get mad at someone you love, but in the end you sort it out. Think about the meantime, you're only thinking about the problem, you're not thinking about your love for that person. Depression clouds your mind like anger. You'll drift away, later on maybe even feel like you don't deserve it when someone tells you they love you because you can't honestly tell them that you love them back. Depression is a serious problem, but sometimes the easiest thing is to help yourself through it.
Well, the best thing is to tell family, but since yours thinks it's a faze think about it this way. A depression like yours only really occurs to the most beautiful people, the most loved. The people who love without question, but in that loose time for themselves. Use this time that you're drawn away from telling people you love them, to say thank you for their love, and to see how beautiful you are, inside and out. This will help you feel the need to spread this beauty and love bottled up inside you, and every time you are the cause of a smile, you'll heal a little inside.
You haven't stopped loving your boyfriend, family or friends... they are just being given the time to find the beauty and love in you, this is just an opportunity to make your relationships stronger.
A smile is the best way, to be the cause of a smile the best. That's how you'll find you can still love, that's how you'll be loved and spread the love.
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I'm thirteen years old. I have identified as a girl for most of my life, but I have felt rather confused lately.
I feel like I have two genders, if that makes any sense. I sometimes feel like a girl, but there are many times when I feel, er, gender-neutral I guess.
If it helps, I am attracted to girls . . . I just don't see guys in that way. And I prefer to wear gender-neutral clothes.
I guess my question is, why do I feel like this? And does this mean something?
Thanks for any advice! (link)
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I'm no expert on overcoming this, what i do is accept it. I have the same problem, call myself a tomboy for it, like girls, am in the closet, love guys (as friends!), and am planning to wear a suit to my formal dance coming up. People say i shouldn't dress up as a guy, and i guess the point i'm trying to make is that you shouldn't be classified as any gender, i'm just dressing up as not a guy, not a girl, but me. That kind of thing should be what's most important to you.
And your attraction to girls, of course it means something, it means you've found that girls are easier on your heart, and in the end, the people who are going to be there for you. Most of all, it's not about who you're attracted to, because that all fades out when you find who you love.
I bet when you were a kid you liked cars and not barbies, you were the dragon, not the prince, or the princess. Don't worry about it, you're not the only one, i'm an example. Girl, people like us, we can't be classified because we are UNIQUE!
Gender-neutral clothes? We see the best in both styles and realize that style shouldn't make who we are. In the end we will be the ones fighting for equality, we will be the ones who understand, you should be proud and never question it... take advantage! Use it in your acting, your sports. Use the female side, where it is most strong, and your male side to enhance yourself, push yourself a little more.
All that you're feeling, it just means that you have a bigger heart than most others, and you might feel put down because of the awkwardness of being different from everyone else, but however you described you were feeling, that's what's beautiful about you and when you realize this, i bet you will want to help people feel beautiful in what they do to.
Sorry for the long answer, but i recognized myself in you... you will go places beautiful.
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