Hi,
I am 23 years old and have recently completed BSc Psychology. I work as a relief support worker - I provide in-home and community support to adults with learning disabilities.
I welcome questions from anyone and on any subject.
Gender: Female
Occupation: Psychology student
Age: 23
Member Since: November 29, 2004
Answers: 5
Last Update: November 29, 2004
Visitors: 1042
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When I was 17, everything was going great in my life. I had a job, a car, a boyfriend, and family that loved me. But my great life soon turned into a nightmare-I got a phone call, my mom and dad were in the hospital. They were driving when a car had hit them, and they died 3 days later. I'm 20 now, and I take care of my 13 year old sister and 9 year old brother. I have so much stress being a 20 year old parent. Sometimes I just break down and want to die. Of course, that's not an option. I need help, how can I keep up with working full time and taking care of my two siblings. I dont have family that could help me, I'm all on my own! Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. (link)
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Hi,
I am really sorry for the loss of your parents - it must have been such as tragic time for you. However, what you must acknowledge and feel proud of yourself for is the strength that you have to get on with life in the way that you have. Have you ever considered seeking help from Social Services - they could possibly advise you on how to get financial help so that you don't have to work so much.
I imagine the future probably looks very bleak at the moment, however; it will get better. My best friend was in a similar situation to you a few years ago. It was just her and her mum - her parents had divorced when she was a young child. Her mum had suddenly developed a brain haemorrhage and died a few days later. She was then, at 19 years old, left to look after her younger physically disabled brother, whilst at college and working part-time. She had developed depression from this and things didn't look very good for a while. However, 4 years on, she is happy and in a very good job. Through help from Social Services her brother has now managed to get a job and develop independe so that she doesn't have to care for him as much.
You should really seek some help - you should not have to do this on your own. For now, hang in there - once your sister is a little older she will be able to get a job.
I really do have a lot of admiration for you.
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ok well my mom is a slut and always sleeps with guys she meets online. she never spends time with her kids and whenever we try to talk to her about it she gets all kissy kissy and does it all over again. she stays out until 7 pm to 3 am and comes home with dumb lame and unbelievable excuses. we really need help from someone because she is going to end up hurting herself as well as her kids. please help! (link)
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Hi,
This sounds like an awful time for you guys. I really think that you need to speak to an adult that you can trust about this one. Do you have any relatives that you could go to, or even a counsellor at school? Maybe they can speak to your mom, as it is possible that your mom has some problems of her own that she's not dealing with very feel. However, what your mom is doing is putting herself at great risk of getting herself into harmful situations and is also putting pressure onto you guys. Although, not everyone is perfect - not even moms'. Maybe she doesn't realise what she's doing is wrong - this behaviour does not mean that she doesn't love her children, but it does mean that she will have to build respect from you all again. You really have to speak to someone about this, as I think that your mom has to be made aware of the consequences of her actions. PLEASE speak to someone about this. Hope everything works out.
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my boyfriend of 9months has recently started smoking weed and hes always telling me how his parents dont trust him now because they are so suspicious that he smokes. and whenever he asks them if he can come to my house they say no because they dont even trust him. i love my boyfriend to death i just hate that he smokes. he doesnt try to make me smoke or nothing, but its soo dangerous and he knows i dont like it and he doesnt do it around me or nothing..but he talks about it and it just like kills me to know he is hurting himself...i tryed talking to him about it...what can i do? (link)
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Hi there,
I feel exactly the same about drugs as you do and think you bouyfriend should remember that he is breaking the law by doing this. Furthermore, there are some possible negative side effects to smoking weed, such as the effect that it can have on the lungs, not to mention the psychological effects. Get you boyfriend to check out this website: http://www.personalhealthzone.com/marijuanasideeffects.html
However, it is your boyfriend's decision if he wants to smoke weed. I know many people who smoke the stuff and it doesn't make them bad people, or people that you can't trust. And I think with the fact that your boyfriend does not smoke it around you shows that he is a decent person. One thing I want to point out is that weed is probably no more dangerous than alcohol. You say that both his and your parents don't trust him now - but why? The main difference between weed and alcohol is that weed is illegal!
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There is this guy who i really like and he says that he really likes me to but the weekend he was flirting with my cousin and she told me that he was suppose to get a girl on the go this weekend. After all the shit i have been through with him i am really confused on what to do.What should i do? (link)
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Hi there, I think we've all been there at some point - relationship stuff does get better!!
Firstly, did you actually see him flirting with your cousin and did you hear him say that he was to get another girl on the go. If not, then ask yourself how much you can trust this person who gave you this information. If in fact he was flirting, then this is no big deal - most people flirt just for the fun of it,and there's often nothing else to it. If you are not actaully in a relationship with this guy, then there's no reason to stop him or yourself seeing other people. However, if on the other hand you were under the impression that you and him are going somewhere and if he is getting it on with other girls', then I think you should speak to this guy and ask him where you stand.
If he is still willing to get it on with other girls' whilst in a relationship with you, then I think that you should just forget about this guy and find someone who deserves you. Good luck. Lanie
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Hey i Got a problem we have a kitten and he stays outside but i bring him in when i go to bed but my mom puts him out after i fall asleep but sometimes she forgets and he poops everywhere and mi mom swears that if he does it agian he is goin to a pound an ideas please help i love mi cat
-SaRaH- (link)
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Hi Sarah,
I think firstly, that if it's your mum that's forgetting to put little Kitty outside then it is not the kitten's fault - when nature calls....
Anyway, from the information that you have given, it seems as though your kitten is not "toilet" trained. Do you have an indoor litter tray? If you don't then you/your mum should buy one - you can get one from a pet store, or Argos sells really good ones that have a roof on top. Also, you should buy wood based litter as this stops the whole house smelling of cat wee!! To train your kitty you should put him in the litter tray so that he can get used to it, and it is especially useful if the next time that your kitten wees/poops on the carpet, take kitty to this to let him smell it and then put him straight into the litter tray. This worked for my two cats. Let me know how you get on with this. Lanie
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