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Q: Laney,
Do you know where you can get free MP3 downloads? I'm sure not gonna pay 1.00 per song.. i know that sounds cheap but if you had 100 songs that would be 100 dollars. Or if you had 400 songs that would be 400 dollars. wow. i am cheap aren't i ? haha

honestly, i have no clue!! i just listen to CD's people make me & the radio!! i have no idea about all that stuff! lol!! & don't think of urself as "cheap" .. just "sensible!' .. please u could spend that 100 or 400 dollars on something better!!

Q: Laney...
so i know you are very smart and i think the world of you so im gonna ask your advice on this...
ive been dating this guy for like 2 and 1/2 years now, we are both in college but live in different towns. i recently went down to visit him and had a great time. when i got back to my hometown that i hate and cant wiat to get out of i got word from someone that talked to someone that talked to someone that has supposedly dated my boyfriend for 2 months but they ended up breaking up bc she found out about me. i asked him about it and he says that shes just a psycho that wants to look cool by saying she dated a football player. i know you know who i am and know everything about me and my relationship but without putting names in this (if you guess who it is answer as if you didn tknow) what do youthink? do you think he did date 2 of us at one point and wont tell me about it and is denying it. or do you think it is completely ridiculous that he would continue to date me (and must love me to continue to stay with me) if he could date someone there?
i love you

haha i def. know who this is.. and your boy friend lets just call him Bob... wouldn't ever do that to you. Honestly, from what i've seen.. Bob is your soul mate & would do anything for you...i doubt that if he had a girl friend in his town he would date you... there would be no reason to!!! we have talked about this MANNNYY times.. (ha) but i can see how you would be still having doubts... but i think everything is going to be okay... i love you and Bob together! ya'll are meant for one another!! haha! i love you so much and have no idea what i would do without you! you are such an amazing person & you have so much going for you! i look up to you in everyway... well except the fact that you cant stay on a diet for more than 24 hours.. which i dont look up too because im on a diet right now! haha .. honestly tho.. i think everything will be okay with him.. he loves you & like we've said before .. *he is getting scared because marrige should be soon* i love you with all of my heart and more .. i miss the hell outta you & cannot wiat for AUGUST 5!! because of 2 things.. u will be here & DUKES OF HAZZARD! haha sorry this is a lil off topic.. but anyways.. i love you & miss you tooonnss!

Q: so people are pretty mean arent they.ive realized that anywhere you go people are gunna be rude even over the summer and breaks.ive been mean to you laney and now i realize that isnt right.im sorry for everything and i think people who have been mean to other people should get off on a good foot the next years. so im sorry. everyone talks about people sure but they shouldnt. maybe our school should try harder to stop. like i said im sorry for everything and i just want to have a good next year. hope you forgive me and everyone that reads this should try and be a little nicer and try and make your enimies your friends even though that is hard. but hey thats what im tryin to do so yeah everyone should try. im sorry laney again i am. hope you forgive me and even if people dont say sorry or apologise for being rude and mean its better if you just think that they are and they really should be.people we are growing up. we are going to be sophmores next year.lets act that way and be mature and not little middle schoolers and talk and start shit.i realize we all do it because even i do it.but im sorry for that. but at least i try and be a bigger person and say sorry. but i am. laney/for everything ive said and done in the past and for everything ive said behind your back. it was out of hatered and rudeness. so sorry i truely am.everyone needs to concider this.and concider having a better,carefree,dramafree next year if thats possiable.! sorry and thik about this.
thanks.

wow.. i dont think i could have said it better myself..

let me just say this tho..
we're sophomores, right? which means we only have 3 more years together. after those three years, you may never see some of these people again.. so why would you want to spend the next 3 years hating each other? i guess thats just the way i see it.

thanks for that erin.. love you & believe be.. the past is the past.

Q: laney
me and my bf are really close but i have a really hard time trusting him and i don't even kno why. the things i worry about have never even happened. what can i do to help get over this i'm going CRRRRAAZAY!

it is probably just a phase you're going through.. try talking to him about it, it will probably make you feel a lot better!!! hope i helped!!!

Q: ok, me n this girl liked each other and when i asked her out she told me she wanted to be single for the sumer but she still liked me. Do u think i should try to bak with her next year, or just forget about it?

try keeping in touch with her over the summer... it will help her feelings to stay in tact.. then if ya'll hit it off over the summer, then yeah def. try next year!!! hope i helped!

Q: the situation is...my mom used to be an alcoholic! she got help and for about 160 days she was good. she went to the lake and told me that she might have one beer, it was wierd but i was ok with it. but yesterday when she came to pick me up i could tell she was drinking and i asked her. she admitted it and i was balling all night! its ruined my life once and now its going to ruin it again. i'm sorry to put this on u, but i had to get it out and i didn't know who to go to!

You need to talk to her. Maybe she doesnt understand the fact that it's ruining ur life. it's hard to deal with that, i know, i understand. if you talk to her.. she'll help you. mom's will i promise. it's hard i know, but you have to make her understand that you can't deal with it anymore and her drinking is ruing your life. i'm so sorry, its a terrible thing... and talking about it is hard, but it's better to talk then not to.. i promise! hope i helped!

Q: this might be a hard problem to answer to but i'm going to give it a shot. how do u stop something thats has already ruined ur life. i don't want to say what b/c its hard enough for me to even think about it. but its happened once and it stopped then it happened again...and its hurting me SO bad. what do i do?

That is a really tough thing to answer because i have NO clue what the situatuion is. i'm so sorry .. if you want I/M me and i'll try to talk to you about it! sorry!

Q: i like this guy, he has a girlfriend, what do i do?

you can't do anything... because its not right to interfere in their relationship

Q: Hey, I dated this girl for a few months and broke up with her because I just didn't feel the same way. I told her we'd def. remain good friends but it doesn't seem like she wants that. I mean at first she took it well but then broke down and got all pissed and started doing a lot of things that would lead people to infer that I was a bad boyfriend and only cared about the sexual part of the relationship (def. not true.. since I wanted to make sure of everything before I got into that.. and since I wasn't sure it's a good thing I did that) and long story short -- it's been like 2 or 3 months and she still likes me, still talks about me with other people (makes our business theirs) and just pisses me off. She's not saying anything bad about me but definetly leading them to infer plenty of bad stuff. I've kind of broken off the whole 'friend' thing mainly cause she gets pissed at me for dumb stuff like not saying hi when she sees me but I don't see her... but she sees me... so why doesn't she say hi right? Hypocritical. So what should I do? F.Y.I. A direct approach always leads to arguements and I'm too lazy for those. This is the first time I've ever talked about her with anyone else unless it was her friends so as I would not be just like her... But now I am.

Peace.

The thing about when she sees you and you don't say hi.. is this.. She still likes you, so she doesn't want to seem desperate.. if you say hi.. its not that SHE said hi just that she said hi BACK.. so she doesn't want to say hi.. its like a superority thing... she probably feels like shes not good enough to say hey to you because she is the one that likes you! ..

All i can say to do is TRY to be friends with her... forget about all the stuff she says.. & eventually she'll get over it.. and stop saying stuff.. yeah i wouldn't talk to her in this situatuion, she'll just get mad! Also, try talking to one of her friends about it... maybe not somewhere were other people can hear.. be smart about it if you do!!! Hope i helped!

Q: Hey. Well I want to ask you something because I know you've gone through the same stuff as me. I just don't know what to do because this past year has been really, really hard. Alot of drama and stuff has happened and I've made mistakes, but doesnt everyone? lol. But some how even when I apologize to people and try to get over stuff, people are still really rude to me and I haven't even done anything to some people. I know that everyone says to just try to ignore what people say, thats so hard to do. You would think that ignoreing people would make people stop or at least not say as much mean stuff as they do, but really it stays the same or even gets worse. Its so hard to get up everyday and have to go to a school where whenever you walk down the hallway people are either whispering behind your back or yelling really rude comments to your face. I dont think that ANYONE deserves the stuff people say to me, know matter who they are. Its amazing how much stuff people can say towards one person and now realize how badly it can hurt them. Like you wouldnt believe some of the stuff people say to me, its unbelieveable. And I just don't know what to do. I've tried to kind of stay away from alot of the people in my grade and tried to "lay-low" on the weekends but nothing works. You may not have any advice to give me but I think anything could help me right now.
Thanks.

All I can say is, I know exactly what you're going through. Not as many people hate me as the beginning of the year because I changed my reputation. It takes a lot to change your reputation in high school and I thank God every night that I did. I used to be known as "The Bitch, Whore, Slutty" girl. Granted, there are people who still believe I am, but honestly I've changed. I apoligized to everyone I was rude to, and like you, "laid low" on the weekends. All you can do, is not let those people get to you. I know it's hard, and i know that no one deserves the things people have said to me either and I'm sure you too. You have to stay confident with yourself and know that those things are not true! Remember that only you can change you and everyone else can only influence you. Keep your head high babe and don't let people get you down. It's going to be hard, and you probably won't like it for a while, but school is almost over and then you have a break from it during the summer. I hope everything works out!

Q: Okay, so I've gone out with this guy literally 4 or 5 times. He's broken up with me about 3 of those times. And they were good relationships.. but after he broke up with me in November I was definetly through with him and I wanted to move on. So about a month ago I started going out with a guy I REALLY like and we're extremely close and he's an awesome boyfriend, but my ex-boyfriend has started calling me again. He's telling me all these things and trying to make me break up with my boyfriend when I REALLY don't, but I don't want my ex-boyfriend to hate me. I just want to be friends with him. And he's like "Please just give it one more try." but.. he's probably said that to me a trillion times! Agh help!

If this guy has broken up with you THREE times.. you can't break up with a guy that you like for someone that is probably, most likely, going to break up with you again! If it were me, i'd tell the old guy that he has hurt u way too many times and that you like someone else now! He has to understand and if he doesn't he's an ass anyways! Be friends with him but you dont want to set urself up to get hurt again! Hope i helped!

Q: Ok, laney i need help on getting over a guy...well there is this guy and i was dating him for a while and then for like 3 nights straight we didnt talk ...well then i texted him and was like babe y dont we talk anymore an he was like iono and then i was like well i think we should talk more and then he said that i was taking this relationship to serious and that we should just take a break.. but he has no clue how much he means to me and i tried talking to him but he just ignores me! please help

okay...same thing happend to me... i know this seems dumb but... playing HARD TO GET will neverrr fail.. dont call him*dont text him*dont see him*dont i/m him... just wait for it all to happen to you! he'll be missing you sooo bad and wantin you back .. and then finally he'll get over his MACHONESS and be nice to you and not ignore you...trust me.. i did it! *-)

Q: so tell me laney, what interest have you in a town like lubbock, i have been there and it seems kinda boring, what do you like so much about TT beside your cousin(s?) going there?

sorry random question

well... i looove lUbBoCK bc of TECH and because all my family lives there and my family is the MOST important thing to me in my life!!! and I love TTU because my daddy, mommy, paige (cousin), shannon (cousin), sister (TRIDELT FOR LIFEEE!), and BROTHER went there!! hehe and i'm going to TECH & HOPEFULLY be a TRI DELT!!!! bc honestly.. i'm a LUBBOCK GIRL AT HEARTTT! haha!

Q: Du u still have feelings for any of your ex boyfriends? And by feelings i mean like still like them at all?

let me just put it simply...
*The Feelings Of A First Love Never Fade Away

i'm not going to say "yes" or "no" but...let that quote say something!

Q: hey hey ok so theres this guy... i really liked him... ALOT... and he liked me... we dated for a while and then all of a sudden he said he didnt like me anymore.. yes i cried i was sooooooooooooooooo sad. i still really wanna be friends with him but he never talks to me anymore... im really sad now.. what do i do??? ahhh!!! i like loooooved him!!! : (

you make the effort to talk to him!! maybe he's afraid to talk to you!!!

Q: okay...so im having some boy issues...there is this one guy who i dated before and we started talking again...and hes really in love with me..and i love him..but i still like other people...and he asked me out but i told him we should wait a while...what do i do when i while comes by and i love him but i still like other people..i cant say no i like other people too cuz i would prolli lose him and never get another chance...i just kind of wanna keep him around...but still be able to flirt and be with other guys...what do i do?

*-BummBled BrunEtte-*

okay...thats excatly how i feel about this guy named Austin. i dated him for a while and i loved him and i know he loves me...but right now im with someone else.. you have to let him go...if he's still there for you waiting for you when ur finished messing around and wanna settle .. then he's the onE! its a test!

Q: well ok, heres the thing. my feelings are extremely hard to explain cause i cant put them into words (so sorry if i make no sense), but this guy and i had a thing (never went out but close) and that was a few months ago, but now we are friends, and i know i have liked him this entire time, i havent told him or anything..and just when im starting to come to the realization that im over him,and then my friend likes him. i feel bad for being so jealous but i cant help it (i have not told him or her this). i dont really like him, but it still hurts if he likes someone else you know? so gosh im so stuck on what to do because i wanna move on soo bad, but at the same time, i want him to like me. ugh its insane and i cant even decribe what i feel but there is no other guy like him and thats why its so hard...what do i do?

first of all..thats incredibly disrespectful for you friend to like him if ya'll had a thing. if i did that to one of my friends i probably wouldnt be their friend anymore. but, you should probably talk to her about it first before him. bc if she finds out from him or someone else the story will be wayyy twisted around. but for now let him go...i think that if you let him go and he comes back to you..then he really is a good guy! jealousy is normal i still get jealous of my boyfriends ex-girlfriend and thats fine!! just don't let everyone know it and def. DONT talk bad about her behind her back!!!! i hope i helped!

Q: well theres a guy.. and he has great potential to be liked and all, but it seems he only wants to talk to me about weird stuff. and i know that hes really like that, because hes a great guy underneath everything, but sometimes i cant tell what his real motives are, so it leaves me to where i cant decide whether its good to move on with him or not

i think that you should probably keep the relationship there..& in about a month if it contiunes be like.."dude, all u want to tlak about is weird stuff" maybe he'll realize it!!

Q: laney... you have changed alot over the past week or so you arent being as mean or fake or annoying ... please dont change back to that weird person you were for a while. i like how you are now !!!!.. Notice who you are friends with, really look at the people you are around alot, some times the people you hated for a while and you thought didnt like you for a while are the people who cared alot about you during that "stage" of your life...mkay??? i really do love you!! i hope everyting goes ok in lubock...

thank you so much! i've become friends with new people that love me with all their hearts!! thank you for changing me thats all i can say to them! haha but i love them so much and i know they'll always be there for me...they are wonderful girls with wonderful souls...they are my TRUE best friends.