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Ok, here is my problem. I have a group of friends. We all were pretty cool with eachother until this year. One girl was acting annoying etc. etc. and making some huge mistakes. My other friends got made at her and talk about her everytime I come over because they are dissappointed and mad at her because she made mistakes, especially a huge one. I agree with them on some topics, but not on others. The friend who makes mistakes is still my friend...but sometimes she goes and makes a white lie to me every now and then and it makes me uncomfortable. I can not side with her or else I'll lose some of my good friends, but I cant side with them either because I do not agree with everything they are doing. I am being used and pestered by the annoying friend sometimes. I try to talk to her about it....but I never can say the things I want to say right. I need help! What should I do?
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I know this may be harsh, but it somewhat reminds me of something I did. So, I'll just tell you... You need to tell your gut that you just have to say to your annoying friend, "I don't like it when you lie to me! It makes me feel (say whatever it makes you feel, even if it is uncomfortable)! I also feel like I can't trust you anymore!" Also say that if this continues, there will be no more friendship between you two. Friends should always feel comfortable and happy when they meet. I guess you should feel like you're looking forward to seeing her. If you don't feel this way, she is not the best friend you will have. I may sound like a grown-up, but I'm only 13.
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sorry if this is long but anyone who can help me , it would be greatly apprecaited. Alright so it all started out when his boy moved away. but he moved back this year around like julyish and everyone was like curious of what would happen when there family moved back. Like would the old "groups' go back would everhthing be the same. So i made a promise to my friend that i would never ditch her for him. So everything was going good. I liked him right away when he got back and more than a friend but i didnt start hanging out with him till haloween. And as i started hanging out with him , i drifted away from everyone else. My bestfriend and everyone. And now i kinda lost all my friends at church . Oh yea by the way this is at church. and i usually bring my friend so im not like the only girl but she's not always going to be able to come and i want all my old friends back. My friend is mad cause i broke a promise to her. It would be really awkard for me to just go back to them . WHAT DO I DO . i miss them all soo much!
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I totally know what you mean. I lost MY best friend to a dork. I don't know if you like-like him, as in a boyfriend, but you should break up with him and let it settle in with your friends. You shouldn't act like it never happened, but say you're sorry and say that you want to be friends again. Ask for mercy, if neccesary.(sorry, that's just my favorite word "mercy") And THEN do whatever it is you two do. If she says it'll take awhile, make her banana-strawberries smoothies. Everybody loves those. She'll see that you're entirely sorry. Plus, don't make promises that you can't keep, even if you think you can.
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yesterday me and my friend were supposed to walk home because we would come back at 3:00 from a field trip and the buses usually leave at 2:10. so on our way home from the trip, she was on a seperate bus and i guess and i didnt know about this until later but she asked people to give us rides home and she couldnt get one but then she asked a friend of hers and the friend said she wasnt sure but shell ask. so when we got back to school i went to my locker and then i walked to find her and i saw her with that friend. then igo to her hey are we still walking home and shes like i dont know i might have a ride. so then i got pissed and left and went outside to try and give my mom a call so she can pick me up but she wouldnt answer cause she was at work. then she comes out with the friend and the friend's dad was there and the friend asked if they could give her a ride and i guess the dad would and my friend left with her other friend. i got really mad ..should i even be this mad? i mean she did ditch me and not even ask me if i needed a ride and she knew that my parents werent gonna be home and we already planned on walking home. and we live like across town from the school. but at the end i did find a ride home with a friend.. should i have the right to be mad? (link)
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I really don't think you should be friends with your friend anymore if she just ditches you like that without any warning. You should make more friends and improve your friendship with your new friends and THEN ask them for a ride. Trust me, where I come from, everyone is really nice. Or if your friend is very dear to you, you might want to have a down-to-earth talk with her and her parents (as in together) If you don't like either of my suggestions, that's okay, 'cause I like giving advice and I like typing.
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I use to have a LOT of friends and I use to be kind of popular. (Nice, smart, kinda of quiet) But I guess.. I just hardley talked to anyone because I was shy.. so I kind of lost friends. So. now im in 9th grade. in 7th grade, i met this girl and she was really nice. then i got closer to her. then she started like controlling me, but i wasnt even thinking? she made me lose alot of my friends! and she started acting really weird, so not very many people liked her. she got me REALLY unpopular. and way shy. now im afraid to talk to people. i have 1 best friend. and like 3 others that i sometimes talk to. my best friend doesnt really want me to talk to other people, she thinks we're like sisters, it's weird. but yeah and my other friends have tons of friends that they talk to. so im kind of left out. and i hate it when we get free time in class or we have to choose partners, because noone ever picks me! please help.. how can i get my friends back, become more outgoing, be nicer, less shy. oh yeah, and the girl that i was friends with in 7th grade, she moved. like a few weeks ago. yay! thanks guys. this will really help. (link)
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You bet it will help! If your best friend doesn't want you to be friends with other people, and you don't like her very much, (which I assume you do, which is kind of bad for my suggestion) maybe you should not be her friend anymore. Your best friend should be able to let you do things that you want to. She may be your "sister," as I presume, but sisters spread apart and do different things. It sounds like she clininging to YOU, and you are trying to break free. Break free from her and be more outgoing by staying away from her and asking your old friends what they're doing over the weekend or something.
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Heyy. I'm Jamie and im 14/f
Okay my best friend is really annoying me lately. She doesnt tell me anything! She likes some one and told everyone but me and im one of her best friends! I got so mad at her because seems like she doesnt trust me but anyway shes also acting conceded like all these guys like her so everyday she'll talk to me online and be like so and so likes me and im like I dont care cause she constantly brags about it. I'm not jealous it's just soo annoying! To make it worse the one person I like likes her. I'll be like ur so lucky the one person I like likes you and she'll be like haha or laugh or something. She also says that she doesn't like this one girl Ashley that doesn't like me but she talks to her on the phone like almost every nite and went to her house a week ago! How two-faced is that!? What should I do!? Please don't say talk to her because that never works.Thanks!
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I saw that at the end of your question that you said don't talk to her. That's good because you should totally and completely ignore her. If she isn't too busy bragging and stuff, and she loves her best friend, (you) she will notice you and ask what's wrong. And who is this Ashley? I have a friend named Ashley and she is mad at ME!
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Im 13 & female. I have this friend "Jackie" and shes really cool in my grade, and were semi close good friends. We made plans for this sunday, to go to a mall together. And my mom is driving, and her dad/mom (i dont know exactly which) But she told me she couldnt go to this other mall beacause her parents are a little racists but shes not & i know shes not. But i feel a little uncortable with the whole idea, Im the same skin color as them (white) but im 100% against racism. and i've NEVER been in a converstation with somebody "like that". I know the subject wont come up, is there anyway you can help me see through and not be so shyish around them.
I RATE HIGH!!! (link)
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maybe when they start talking about it and they ask you something about racism, you might want to change the subject or perhaps say what you feel. if they are understanding people, they will hear you out when you say that you don't like talking about racism. i'm only 13, so I don't know everything, but Ive had experience and I have spread the word and all, so just take it slow if you must. (I am also against racism.)
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