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I'm a rather shy girl when it comes to stating how I feel or what I want. For a while now, I have been interested in bondage... Checking hentai sites and the like about it. There have been several occasions that I have attempted to tell my boyfriend that I would like to try it, as I have never before. I would very much like to, it's just, any time I try to bring it up to him, I get horribly shy or embarrassed and cannot bring it up.What should I do to either get over it, or are there ways of hinting to him that would be very clear that I'd like to try this? (link)
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I have been into bondage for a long, long time, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with asking a partner if they'll try it. If you and your boyfriend are really close, it'd be a good idea to talk about it with him and gauge his opinions. Yes, it will be very, very awkward; but the thing is, you never know if he might be having those same fantasies, too. Surprisingly enough, bondage is a very common sexual fetish, and it might not be as outlandish as you think. Basically, work up your courage and tell him how you feel. If he cares about you, he'll at least listen to what you have to say!
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Is their really no such thing as believing in God and Evolution??? Really? Am I the only one? I mean everyone I tell this too gives me crap about how there's no such thing. In my perfect ideal mind, God is not discriminative against gays, bi's or lesbians, skin color, or form of religion. He created the world (well, more like lives amongst the universe) as is and created it to change and shift forms along with the products living among it. Animals are just as important as human beings and God loves and is not to be feared.
My parents are Catholic maniacs and their ways of thinking and belief are just not the kinds of things I belive and feel are truely correct. If their God is the real God I may as well be down in hell right now! I mean what the heck? Is there anyone out there who sees things the way I do? (link)
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There is definitely a way to believe in both, even if they seem to conflict a little with one another. The thing is, I don't think we'll ever find out for certain how we got here; it's not like we can ask God, and it's not like we can go back two million years to see where we started out. It's perfectly normal to admit that there's truth in both sides of the story, and a compromise would probably make the most sense.
Oh, and if you ever feel a little down because of the parents...Just sing Born This Way by Lady Gaga a couple times to yourself. It does wonders. :D
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16/f.
So there's this kid a year below me. He would stare if I walked by until he would have to walk backwards to keep looking. I never looked openly back, but he was so obvious about it that I could tell. Every time he saw me this happened. Without fail. In class, at an event, wherever. I know it was me he looked at 'cause a couple of times I accidentally made eye contact but was scared I didn't hold it for even a second.
The weird thing though? If I was up CLOSE to him, like standing by him and talking with a teacher, he completely didn't look in my direction at all, almost like he knew I was there but was ignoring me. That's how disinterested he was. He stares like a stalker at a distance, but ignores me up close, even flirts with girls in the area.
That kind of stuff.. What's it mean? I just saw him again for the first time in a few months and I admit it was a little strange that he still sought me out and stared (from a distance), but... Could it be he's just got a staring problem?
I've never spoken to him. He's kinda cute, I'm kinda not, so I don't wanna get my hopes up. Be honest please. :) I'm just asking here 'cause everywhere I look it says "Oh, guys look at gurls cuz they think u r priity." And I don't believe that's the case with me. (link)
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In my personal opinion...the guy is completely attracted to you. If a guy is obvious enough to let himself stare consistently at you, even when you might catch him, he's willing to risk the embarrassment just to get a few more moments to look your way. Also, if someone I find really attractive is up close, my natural instinct is to look away and stare at the floor or someone else. So he might not be ignoring you; he might just be a little insecure and unsure of how to act around you.
Don't call him out directly on it, but the next time you catch him staring, try to look straight-on at him and don't back down. If you're interested, throw in a wink, too! This guy's bold enough to A. be caught staring, and B. flirt with other girls to make you react. There's a high chance he wants you to step out and be bold, too.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while now but he ignores me all the time and I am getting sick of it. I don't deserve it and it's bringing me down and making me feel neglected. He blames him ignoring me on his multi personality disorder. I want to deal with it but I don't know. I wanna accept him for his flaws but it's just so silly. He's never blamed it on that before. Please help. (link)
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First, you need to find out whether he has a serious mental condition that involves multiple personalities. Many times, people suffer from depression or bipolar disorder, but don't quite understand their issue and misinterpret it as a separate personality. I had the same problem; it turns out, I had bipolar disorder to the point where I -felt- like two different people at different times. There's an EXTREME difference. EXTREME.
If he's starting to use it as a constant excuse, it's up to you to either A. put up with his shit or, B. confront him about it head on. If he really -does- have a mental disorder in which he has another person in his head, this could be a make-or-break situation in your relationship. It involves carrying MANY burdens; you need to learn how to deal with this 'other' person, his likes, dislikes, mental stamina, his reactions to you...it's a whole other ballfield then a person who is just depressed or bipolar, chickie.
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I was really angry when I was shaving and SHAVED off this huge chunk of skin near my ankle!
Down to buisness here, I had to wait a long time after putting on some pressure to stop the bleeding and then sprayed on some Poly on the Go. An hour later I stuck a bandage on.
Every day when i'm about to shower I take off the bandage, shower, dry it and place on a new bandage.
It's been a weke now and today really sucked because I was removing my bandage and the whole wound stuck on it so i had to peel the bandage off and of course it was bleeding again and looked the exact same as the first day!
This sound as if it's the first time I've goten hurt or something but honestly I haven't gotten hurt since I was like 10? And even though the diameter is about the size of my thumb it hurts so bad and I feel like i'm dying! I don't know what else to do! (link)
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If it hurts that bad, it's time to go to a professional. Wounds that don't show any signs of healing have a HUUUUGE chance of being infected, so just...do it! Go! RIGHT NOW!
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My talent show tryouts are a week from now!!!! :( (link)
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One of the best ways to find choreography that you like is to go through your favorite music videos / dance routines; I do this especially whenever I have to pull something together quickly. Pick out a little piece of each, add a twist, and make it your own!
As for the song itself, it's a very jazzy, yet quite an intense song. A big part of performing it has to be the emotion in your face and body language. Moves that involve thrashing, snapping backwards, collapsing, etc. are generally good, seeing as the song is about being possessed against ones own will.
I actually performed to this song for my dance camp exhibition in my sophomore year. I really played up the 'doll' part and made sure that my body matched up to the feel of the song; another good idea, if you want to go that route, is to find a ball-jointed doll (something a little more flexible than a Barbie) and observe how it would move doing the same dance moves.
~Katilix.
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Id love to know my talent show auditions week from now!! SOS!! =( (link)
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It all depends on what school level you're talking about. Elementary/Middle school...not so much. Same goes for high school UNLESS you find the censored version; the lyrics "needle in your arm" can be considered explicit/offensive. Or, if you'd rather, just cut the song in a way that said lyrics never show up.
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What do people mean when they say that they 'got on someone'? For example, 'I got on this guy at the party last night.' (link)
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This is a very open-ended statement, seeing as it can mean a wide variety of things. For one, it could mean he/she physically GOT ON the person, as in, sat on top of them (sexually or not). It could also mean that they bothered, teased, flirted with, etc. said guy/girl. It all depends on what context it's used in. When in doubt...ask.
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My friend is really out of shape. She's very uncoordinated, so she doesn't play sports. Almost all of her time during the summer was spent sitting in front of the TV. I've tried to get her motivated to do some excersize, but she won't. She gets stressed easily and she gets frustrated easily, so I think thats a part of why she doesn't want to excersize......maybe because she'll get frustrated when she can't do something. Sometimes I get a little worried about her because she is so out of shape....I don't mean to be rude when I say that....but it's true. How can I motivate her to live a healthier lifestyle by excersizing without nagging her and sounding like I'm being bossy? (link)
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The best idea would be to do things by invitation. Ask her one day if she wants to go walk to the store or to the park with you, or invite her to some type of activity which requires movement. If it's not just herself doing the work, she'll probably feel more motivated to keep up with you. It would be even better if you could get a whole group together to do something active, like swimming (although it'd be better indoors, if it's cold out) or attending some type of class (Zumba is always great!)
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What do i wear to an interview at hooters ?
I'm a seventeen year old girl and I have an interview at hooters tomorrow for a hostess position.
I have absolutely no idea what to wear. Its going to be 50 degrees tomorrow if that helpss
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I hate to say the usual "something that shows off your boobs", but wear something that makes you seem both attractive and professional at the same time. If you can, avoid jeans, and go for a more business-like top that still shows off any chest area, if only a little. More important is your overall look, not just the chest; make sure your hair and makeup is appropriate.
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This is gonna sound super weird, but is there any DVDs of the 2003 Japanese movie called Moon Child, I believe it was written by Kamui Gakuto? I'm just super curious because I read the plot and it sounded good... I need English (or Spanish) subtitles, though. (link)
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This is actually one of my favorite movies, and yes, it's quite easy to get a copy! Ebay, amazon, you name it. All the copies have an option for subtitles in English, too!
Oh, and his name's usually spelled Camui Gackt. It'll help when searching online!
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For our final in Digital Media we have to write, film, edit, and finalize a short movie (5-6 minutes). I have no ideas for this project. Unless, I use my grandma's iphone to record I have to use the school's camera and record it in the hall way..
I dunno.. (link)
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First, think up a plot. This is the most daunting part of any film task, so bear with it! I can't come out and tell you exactly what to use, seeing as everyone has different tastes. Imagine a scenario that you think people would enjoy watching, whether it's funny, freaky, or anything else in between. If you have trouble thinking of something completely on your own, pick a book or a movie and let it jumpstart your ideas. There are many books in which tragedies happen; let your imagination make the changes and do the rest!
Next, pick locations that are legal to film in and get permission. Make sure you have a decent camera, and use LOTS OF ANGLES. This is a major problem with most student films; the camera stays in one spot or whips back and forth sporadically. Shoot each scene from as many different views as possible and splice them together later.
Make sure you have a good movie editor, both the person doing it AND the program you use. There are a lot of tutorials online on how to make a good film come together with medium-level software; or, better, watch a few student films yourself on Youtube and the like, pick out the ones that you think are good, and notice how they edit their scenes together.
Music should be used, most definitely, but not in over-excession. Make sure some scenes have a backtrack, if you can. Many students think they can get away with nothing but dialogue in their movies, but that's not the case at all!
I know this is a must, and I don't know if the people you are working with, but good acting is a big thing, too. Make sure people aren't joking around and treating this like it's not a big deal; finals are no pretty thing, so they deserve a lot of hard work and a good film.
Good luck!
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Okay I made it official with this guy june 18th 2009, last year which in fact was the eptimone of my naiveness, and I was blind to everything as a girl I was easily manipulated etc.. I said yes I'll be your gf on that day, and ever since then weve been really tight like best friends and talk to eachother about pretty much anything including what's considered cheating in a relationship and what guys want from girls .
He says that every guy just want to have sex as first intention and then theyll get to know you
I disagree example: someone hit me up that I knew in elementry on fb I said how are you doing etc .. MY BOYFRIEND GETS MAD saying theres no reason to write to him unless you really want to see how he is.. the guy prob. thinks he can get you etc....
another example: my ex hits me up on fb and this is an old old ex and says whats going on and i write whats up with you . Boyfriend says: why are you writing back to him theres no reason to write back to him, etc.. * BUT this was strictly mutual I will never cheat on my boyfriend ever, I love him to much and its morally wrong a huge downfall .
I just don't think I can take him thinking that I will cheat on him , idk if its because he's envious or overprotective but it need's to stop
also Ever since Ive been with my boyfriend my whole personality changed as in im not naive anymore i demand more as a woman etc.. maybe he still thinks Im the girl he first asked out ?
idk:/ its killing me I dont want us to breakup over absolutely NOTHING . over what I might do , or what might happen . (link)
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Not to be bluntly honest, but it seems like your boyfriend has some serious doubt about your intentions around other guys. A little jealousy is healthy; in my opinion, every guy should be a little envious inside when their girl is talking to a cute guy. But your boyfriend is blowing it out of proportion, to the point where your relationship might be in jeopardy because of his actions. There are a lot of guys in the world, and a good half of them are straight; there's no way you're going to avoid all of them just for his sake! The best thing to do would be to sit down with him and say you've been feeling really overprotected, and that this isn't the thing that you're looking for. You love him, but you love your life just as much, and you don't want to sacrifice friendship and freedom just so he can be secure. Trust needs to be developed here, at least on his side; until it is, there's a low chance that this behavior will ever stop.
My boyfriend and I, when our relationship began, had very similar issues. I probably didn't help much; I am a very openly flirty and loud person, not to mention I'm pansexual; My boyfriend saw the whole world as competition! But after a while, he told me that as long as I came to him at the end of the day and told him that I loved him, he trusted me enough to never stray. And I haven't. Actually, he's gotten a lot more outspoken and flirty himself with other people, which I think is a good thing; being open like that makes one broaden their horizons a bunch.
Anyways, good luck!
Hope I helped!
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Hey.
Does anyone know where I can buy the guns from Hellsing? Like, online.
Please, please help.
xxxxx
Much thanks. (link)
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http://www.cosplayhouse.com/Hellsing-Cosplay-Props-Alucard-Black-Gun.html?gdftrk=gdfV22132_a_7c516_a_7c1626_a_7cAPH1401
http://www.cosplayhouse.com/Hellsing-Cosplay-Props-Alucard-Silver-Gun.html?gdftrk=gdfV22132_a_7c516_a_7c1626_a_7cAPH1402
They ain't cheap, but if you're going for accuracy...
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Okay, I'm going to an anime convention in October and I really need to know if there's a cosplay of Ciel Phantomhive when he dressed up as a girl! I was hoping to find it at a good price, possibly 100$ and a good wig, possibly cheaper than the cosplay! I really need to find this soon and I need help. Thank you!! (link)
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I've been cosplaying Ciel in his female outfit for a while, but honestly, there's no way you can get a good dress for under $100. I spent a little over it, but added up with all the wigs, shoes, accessories, the entire thing was around $200. Ciel ain't no cheap thang XD Plus, big dresses like have a tendency to take forever to ship, so shipping's gonna be a beyotch if you want to get it here by October. However, if you really want to go for the big bucks, Ebay is your best bet. Some of the sellers there make amazing costumes that can be custom-made to fit.
At the last con I saw, there were four Ciels, two of them in dresses. Sadly, the novelty of the anime is wearing thin -sigh-
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I am applying to a performing arts program and I want to stand out. Since the application shows nothing of my personality please give me some ideas to set me apart from the rest. Should I send a video? Pictures?...etc be as creative as you can with your ideas! (link)
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I went to the Governer's School of the Arts this year, and they had a whole lesson on how to apply for Arts programs and schools. The best thing to do is to be as unique as you possibly can without looking too strange! Have a good picture of yourself (preferably a headshot) ready to distribute at a moment's notice. And try to put yourself into everything you do, even the application itself. However, if they don't ask for pictures or videos, don't send them in unless you are sure they would review them; some places are really anal about what they recieve, and it could become a disadvantage. If you go into an actual interview/audition, go for a really professional look that makes you take attention (without being outrageous, though!)
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Hello, fifteen, female. I couldn't find a better category to put this in but it works well here, too. I am having my Sweet Sixteen in August and I have no idea what I want to do. I don't know what to wear (hence the category). I want it to be something that people will remember when school starts but I don't want it to be to costly. My best friend's sister had a casino night, she rented out a place and had like roulette and all those games out on tables, that was 4 years ago and I still remember it. I was thinking we could hang back at my house and when it gets to be night time we could have a bonfire and play like manhunt or capture the flag but I have no idea what we would do hours before night. It's my first party that my parents are allowing boys and girls to come. It's not going to be a giant party though. So, I need it to be something I'll never forget as well as my guests. Any help is appreciated. Activities to do, what to wear, music to play? (link)
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If you're going for a smaller crowd, there are a bunch of good murder mysteries out there to try. I'm not takling the little dinky kind, I mean fully fleged cases that can really creep some people out! Sadly, these kinda parties cost a lot, so for a smaller budget...how about a rave? Glowsticks, techno/screamo/bouncy/crazy music, and brightly-coloured clothing. Plus decoration isn't that much of a thing; just turn out the lights! Or a huge scavenger hunt. It may sound juvenile, but if you do some really crazy things (my clues at my best friend's fifteenth were written entirely in spanish, so I had to get a dictionary, translate them, and do the weirdest things to get my next clue) or come up with really unique ideas, it can be major fun. For my sixteenth, I'm going all-out and writing a mystery myself, not to mention having everyone dress up in cosplay/halloween costumes. Honestly, it all depends on what you think you'll have the most fun doing!
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I've been with my boyfriend for over three years, and am happy to say we make each other very happy and love each other more than we can say. We won the "Cutest Couple" superlative, and have always been different from other couples, but more successful than them, as well. We do not have sex (but do other sexual things), and we aren't all over each other every second of every day. We are each others best friends. However, that phase of always being cute with each other has passed, as it always does with a long relationship. Sometimes I'm guilty of questioning if he "loves me as much as he used to, in the early stages of our relationship", even though at the end of the day, I realize it's a silly idea by the way he says he loves me and treats me. There aren't anymore cute messages left on my phone when I wake up, not as many random "I love you's", but we do other fun things that have brought us closer in the long run.
So, I'd like to hear stories of your lasting, loving relationships and how you kept them that way. We both just started college (at the same large university), and while most couples we know have broken up because they "wanted something new", we didn't feel that way at all, and look forward to the ups and downs college life can throw at you. So if anyone has advice or stories to keep our reationship as strong as it is, or any stories of growing into more than just "high school sweathearts", I'd love to hear them! (link)
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Well, I can't say I've ever experienced a long relationsihp myself, but I definetly know someone who has. My old neighbor and teacher says she was in love with her husband since sixth grade! They ended up going out in high school, and they dated for a couple years afterward. When they were in college, he proposed. It shows it doesn't matter how young you are, you can always find that special person that can change your life. Heck, they've been together for almost fifty years, so I have no doubts!
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i got asked out by this guy that i really like about 2 weeks ago and he hasnt kissed me yet...we definetly act like we're dating but im definetly hinting that im ready to kiss and he kinda just sways away...and i know he really cares about me cause of the things he tells my friends...why wont he kiss me? (link)
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Trust me, chickadee, if you really like him (and he really likes you!), you'll end up kissing eventually. Most guys have this thing in their brains that we aren't ready, or that we don't want them to kiss us. It takes a good while for some to realize that we like them more than friends.
Take it from me. Even though we were really close, it took my boyfriend almost eight months to finally kiss me!
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If I (guy) see a movie with a friend (girl), should I buy her ticket? It seems like doing so would be awkward, and not doing so would also be awkward. So which is the least awkward? (link)
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If you guys are just friends, it's perfectly normal if you want to pay for her ticket. It depends on who invited who; If you asked her to go, then it's okay for you to pay. But if you're just meeting up there, possibly with more friends, she should probably pay up for her own ticket. If you feel bad about not buying the ticket, you can always treat her to popcorn later ^.^
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