Member Since: December 5, 2011
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Last Update: December 5, 2011
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General question...
We fought a lot, we werent even "together" but couldve... anyway, we were both mad at each other, now he doesnt e mail... he didnt reply..
i feel i missed who i thought he was...
do guys mean what they say when they say they dont care, do they really NOT care? or like girls, do they still think of what couldve happened, what is she thinking...
why do girls think a LOT about situations, and guys seem to dont care as much?
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Ohhh been there...actually I am still there and I hate to be the person to say it to you but as a good friend(and stranger ironically enough) I have to say break this to you-- you're just not the one. At some point he probably did care but he isn't mature enough to go forward with anything. I read this online magazine called WhatMyManDid.com and I swear it is the only thing that helped me laugh this stupid situation off. I've come to grips with the fact that we really never were...give him 6months he'll come running back and you would've moved on...it will feel so good.
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So my boyfriend and I were hooking up the other night and we were getting really into it and I was pretty turned on and he went to start fingering me, which I wanted him to do, but he kinda just stuck his hand down there and went to town. Like ALL OVER town. I think he actually got lost in town...anyway it so did not feel good and I was totally turned off right away. I tried moving his hand where I wanted and stuff but he wasn't moving it with me. I'm not sure if he didn't know what I was trying to do or what, but either way it didn't work. Eventually (not that long after) I just pulled his hand out. How do I help him get better without hurting his feelings? (link)
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Lol! Many many many men are bad at "the stuff". Have your tried telling him "I really like it when you xyz my zyx?" It works like a charm! Men are simple creatures and if you disguise a command behind some kinky language he won't even know the difference. Ooooh maybe you guys want to try watching some "adult films" together. When I had a boyfriend that sucked I would use that to get me started and then even his inferior tongue skills couldn't ruin it for me.
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My boyfriend calls me names and tells me I am all sorts of horrible things. I don't think that is acceptable in the slightest, but I guess I DO, because I'm still with him, right? I have this state of mind that I am not all of the bad things he tells me I am, unless I stay with him... then I feel as if I have become those awful things. Which makes me feel like I deserve to hear everything he has to dish out. Afterall, why should he respect me when I don't even respect myself? Isn't that true?
Thing is, I wouldn't stand for this behavior from anyone but him, and that is a fact I am sure of! I have never taken poor treatment of any degree in the past, and I come from what someone would call the "perfect" family whose parents have the "perfect" marriage. I was raised right. I was taught manners, and I know the importance of respect. So why am I still with him?
He really just has a poor attitude. He is only mean to me when he loses his cool, but he is everything I've ever dreamed of when his temper is straight. So our goods outweight our bads. But does that make his act okay? We are both in our early 20's, and we do not live together. We've been a couple for years, but he hasn't always been this way. I'm not afraid of him physically hurting me or my loved ones, but yet I still can't find the strength to leave. I feel like the most disgusting, pathetic excuse for a human being for admitting this, but..... I feel like I have nothing better to run to. I've grown up a lot over the past few years, and he's been there through everything. He is such a part of my life, that I feel too scared and flat out lazy to lose him only to take a step backwards.
Do you think I deserve this treatment for having not yet left? I feel like I have brought this all on myself. I have, haven't I? Because I am the only one who can stop it, and I haven't, correct? Can anybody help me with finding a train of thought to help myself gain the courage and self-respect it would take to break away from him? And stay away? (link)
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being in a relationship is really difficult and we have ALL been in relationships that we want to leave but don't have the strength to. The key is not to tell yourself that you should leave him or spend every day obsessing and racking your brain. Instead tell yourself "one day I'm going to leave him, it may not be today or tomorrow...but one day soon" keep coaching yourself this way I promise it will pay off. This Blog I found called What My Man Did.com taught me this trick and after my ex boyfriend broke up with me I wasn't as heart broken as I should've been because I had already planned for it.
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