I'm a straight forward type of person. I basically tell it like it is based on my own experiences and a few experiences with friends. I've always given great advice to friends and family which always motivate them to look at the positive aspects of life. I like giving, and because of that I always reap great things.
E-mail: seminolegirl28@yahoo.com
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Location: Florida
Occupation: Full-time Wife/Mother
Age: 29
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16/f
well, lets call him 'george'
george is a really cute puerto rican kid thats in one of my classes at school. we dont have assigned seating but we sit next to each other in the same seats everyday. im really into art and i did his backpack for him and he loved it. and now he seems to flirt with me a lot but he has a girl. im really starting to like this kid.
but you see, he's kind of a 'gangster' or whatever the hell you'd call it. people usually classify me as a stoner white girl (you know, beach, surf, weird jewelry, crazy hair) and we're so different. and it seems like when hes with his friends he doesnt want to acknowledge me, but when we're together we always talk and stuff. i dont know what to do! (link)
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There may be an 80% chance that he wants to get to know you more than as just a friend. Sometimes opposites do attract. However, he does have girlfriend and you want to respect that. You don't want to be the cause of a break-up. The fact that he doesn't acknowledge you around his friends may be because he is insecure of himself and cares about what his friends would say if they saw you 2 together. That's something he'll outgrow over the years. Try dropping small hints that you're into him. If he backs off a little bit, that means he doesn't see you that way;continue to keep it friendly if that happens. If he doesn't you have a chance at a relationship.
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18/f, i've been with my boyfriend for almost two years. he's always telling me how much he loves me and doesn't wanna lose me, and how beautiful i am, the whole nine yards. the problem is i have severe jealously issues, and almost ALL his friends are girls, and he is a flirt! he doesn't try to be, it's just his personality. he's not like a ladies man or anything, he only had two girlfriends before me [that only lasted like a couple months], they are just his friends, but i cant shake the issue. he is ALWAYS texting girls, and will like purposely turn the phone away from me so i cant see what theyre saying. it's not like im trying to be nosy, but that would make anyone wonder, even though he used to read my msgs when we first got together, although he says he "doesnt remember". even if he comments his girl friends, he'll say stuff like he loves their profile picture, and all his comments always have the little winky flirty face ;-). it really kills me inside, even though i know it shouldnt. i know people say "just remember he's with you and not them", and i know, but for anyone who has jealousy issues, you know it still hurts and you still wonder. he's never given me a reason not to trust him; he's the only guy i've ever dated who HASN'T cheated or used me, but i still wonder. i've talked to him about it several times, and when i do he either gets upset and says he would never hurt me, or gets defensive and says stuff like "fine i wont talk to any girls ever again!", which just upsets me more. he has every right to have girl friends and i dont want him not to, but just cant help the way i feel. i dont want to control him or know EVERY thing he's doing, but i just hate when i come across those things or he's texting his girl friends when im around and it feels like i get punched in the stomach. he was texting one last night and i kept making faces and he finally was like "do you just want me to turn my phone off?" and i was like yeah. i honestly dont think he'd ever cheat on me. ALL his friends and family know about me [if they dont actually know me] and he talks about me all the time, but sometimes i wonder if there'd be a girl who would know about me, but wouldnt care, and be trying to hang all over him and stuff. guys look at me and flirt with me quite often, but i dont have many guy friends that i regularly talk to, and i tell him EVERY THING guys say to me as far as trying to get with me and stuff, and i guess it just sux to know that he has ALL these girls for friends, and i dont really get told anything. how can i fix this? i hate that im so jealous. i always have been, and it's not always so bad, but sometimes, it really is, and i NEED to fix it. what should i do? i just cant shake it. (link)
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Dear I'm Jealous,
The first thing that you need to do is evaluate your relationship with this guy. Do you feel that you can trust him when he's with his other girl friends? Better yet, you should trust that he will not cheat on you when he's talking to his friends, sending text messages, etc. A man doesn't want to feel hassled all the time by his girlfriend. If you keep up with that behavior, you will begin to push him away from what maybe used to be a good relationship and you don't want that.
Next, It may seem as if he's being defensive because maybe he has taken a liking to one of these girls. You have to think about it. This guy is young and he may not be ready for a serious relationship no matter how long you've been dating. So here's my advice to you to see if he really does care about you: Don't wait around for him to call you. You're only wasting precious time and could be doing something else; like hanging out with your own girlfriends, shopping, movies, etc. Make yourself slightly unavailable to him but do not ignore him. Just tell him you've made other plans or that you'll have to meet him at a later time, etc etc etc. When you haven't called him for a while he'll call you questioning you about why you haven't called him. If he doesn't call, you might want to reconsider your relationship with this person.
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