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hey.im looking for a way to get some money.theres not really a lot of kinds in my neighborhood that i know of.i was wondering if you knew of anything i could do besides babysitting to get money.thankx
♥ Amanda ♥ (link)
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Fast food restaurants are always hiring, and family restaurants in general give really good pay including tip. If your neighborhood doesn't have much, try the one next to it if it's close by.
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Okay so, This boy that i am in love with, the girl thats treats him bad just broke up with him becauze they do not get along.So now i thought we would go out cuz he told me we would. But he is now like.I am only useing you for sex,& you let me. I cant help my self he is like a drug to me for 2 years now. Should i let him go? Or should i keep trying? (link)
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I know to me that the plain and simple answer is definately let him go, but to u.. I can see why it can be difficult. Two years is a long time to be with someone whether they're a friend, lover, or sex freak. My cousin visited me this summer for like 2 weeks and right after she left I missed her already. Your relationship between the guy that you're having sex with and my relationship are two different kinds of relationship, but something they have in common is that they're both someone important to us. My cousin is important to me because I love her. That guy is important to you because you love him, but what he is doing to you is clearly showing you that he doesnt love you back. If he's only using you for sex then why date him? Sometimes staying around long enough isn't going to make him see anything more than what he does see in you, and I know that may be harsh but what's important is your happiness. 2 years is a really long time, and if I were you I'd rather spend those two years away from him and finding someone that would value me. I know you love him, I dont understand WHY you love him. But what would make you happier? Him using you as sex or you finding someone else you love that loves you back? Sex between two people that love each other dearly is a very important thing in bonding. If he doesn't love you what are you bonding for? He just wants to have fun, when you're clearly serious.
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im 18 and i need a date for this weekend. im not very good with getting guys. some girls are a magnet for guys because they're very hott. i dont think im one of those girls...
maybe im not attractive but i am pretty. i guess i dont catch many guys' eyes. i think im abnormally pretty; i have many flaws and not very great bone structure, but i think i am cute and charming.
i like cute and charming guys. i guess i attract the guys im not really interested in. like the ones who only want sex or the ones with terrible personalities.. or ones who are shorter than me /:
anyways, how do i get a guy?
i havent flirted with guys since...
in the past, one or two guys really hurt me, and they've made me insecure of myself. so im not so open to flirt anymore, but flirting has worked for me before...
where should i go hunting? what do i use as bait? haha just kidding. im not a predator ;D (link)
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I think that if you're cute and charming that should pull any guy towards you. There are those that use woman for their own pleasures and the truth is, many people only really care about themselves. It's really hard to find someone that will definately care for you no matter who you are or what you're like. I don't understand how you're not pretty but not attractive. If you're pretty then you should definately be attractive. Knowing that you're cute and charming is a good start. A lot of people don't know how to flirt because of their insecurities, they think that they're not beautiful, and if they try it might come out to look gross or unpleasant. Like I said earlier, the reason why you might be finding guys that are only in your sex or terrible personalities is because there are selfish people out there, as a matter of fact there are a lot of selfish people out there. I'm not quite sure on how you can get a decent guy in two or three days time, but if it's just a weekend thing with your friends to go to the movies you could ask your friend.
So.. once again, if flirting has worked for you in the past them you should try it again. So what if there was one or two guys that hurt you. Don't ever let that drag you down. You know you're cute and you know you're charming. If it's something that's successful for you then keep doing it. Life is long and there are many people to meet, there are some friends that'll stay with you and that you'll keep them for a long time, people come and go. My point is, those two guys are gone, now you need to meet new people. You're 18 and you have a long life ahead of you. But if you really want to start hunting you should just talk to people in your class and get to know them better or hang out with your friends in groups with guys in them or go to parties. To be honest, I'm a year younger than you, well.. I'll be 18 in two months and there were one or two people that have hurt me too, and when they hurt me I cut them off in my life and moved on. They've both made really big mistakes in my opinion because I would've stayed wih them and helped them through whatever they needed and do what all that I could do for them, but I greatly do not appreciate being cheated on. [One of them did that any]
Anyway, sorry for the long reply. I really hope that helps. =]
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i found out 2 summer ago that my girlfriend was raped when she was 6..this was before we got together, but we had been best friends for a while already..anyway, i cried when i found out, but she never explained to me what really happened..she told me she had gotten over it already though..
the thing is, sometimes i wonder if the problems she has now are a result of her being raped when she was younger. for example, she does not have a really good relationship with her parents and when we talk about serious things, she tells me she always has a hard time sleeping [even when she was younger]..and that she thinks about little things that bother her, which shouldn't really bother her..she also has small anxiety attacks and has a hard time breathing when people yell or get mad [she has asthma too].
i never mentioned the rape situation to her ever after she told me though..i don't know what to do though.. i always ask her why she thinks she's like that..but she always says "i don't know..there's just something really wrong with me"...and i just want to get to the root of the problem so i can help her..i just feel so helpless all the time whenever she talks to me about her problems...
i'm sorry this is so long, but do you think it's possible that her getting raped could be the cause? or do you think it's something else?
thank you soo much. (link)
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There could also be other factors that cause her to act like that too, but based on what you've stated it sounds like it could be rape. I'm a 17/f and I have a girlfriend who has similar problem to your girlfriend, but some of her behaviors are also caused by her genes, along with other environmental factors. I think that rape could be a cause of her behavior because she was still young, even adults that are raped can't cope with it.. but I'm not saying that it's 100% rape. You could ask her health records.. like.. ask if she remembers when she started having asthmas, or when those attacks started. But Idk if you should just come out and ask those questions, maybe state your place with her first, .. for example say, you know i'm your girlfriend, i love you and i get worried about you. && Ask her if she wants to talk about it or not and if she does then she's really over it and if she's not then you'll just have to wait until she's ready. Don't forget that it's not just about the matter of how close you two are or that you are her girlfriend.. but whether or not she's really ready to talk about it.
If you're really interested then you could google "Child cognitive development" or anywhere else you think will help you. I took psychology last year so I still remember a bit =] Hope that helps, take care.
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