Hi there! My name is Caroline, I'm 13, and I'm a teen adviser who would like to help answer any questions that you may have about teen life and beyond.
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-Caroline-
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Ok my BF and I have been going out for almost 3 months. We went out before for about 1 1/2 months, and the whole time, I always feel so shy and self concious around him. What can I do to boost my confidence?
Shy Lady (link)
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Don't worry a lot of people are like that. It's just part of growing up. It's okay, but you might want to adress him about it, if you haven't already. You guys can "practice" I guess you could say. Is it the way he acts when he's around, either Mr. Tough Guy or Sweet and Charming. It might be just when you see him, such a great looking guy with no flaws, and then you think of yourself, and think "o my gawsh, how could he like me, I'm so ugly. I didn't shave. What if he notices, what if he hates me then!" I'm sure he's probably thinking almost the exact same thing. You just need to remind yourself, if he doesn't like me for who I am, he's not worth it, I don't shave everyday, get over it. But it's totally natural! The more you get to know him, the more you can really trust and know that he's not gonna judge you for whatever fact that you are self concious about.
Whether your shy of him making the first move, or because he's just so darn cute, surprise him. Practice saying something to him, or kissing or whatever. I'm real sorry if this doesn't help, and I hope it will.
=] Caroline
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Ok,so this year i want to take cheerleading and volley ball.
1.Cheerleading:
I really want to take it, i've wanted to take it since i was a little kid. I also want to take it to have fun, meet new people, just really get into school clubs. i have no experience,but i'm light, flexible, and i think i would be good at it. The thing is, i'm afriad i won't make it, should i go for it? Any tips, and what i need to do to get in?
2.Volley Ball:
I want to take this cause its fun,i'm really good at it. The problem is i've never tryed volley ball with out a hard ball. I'm kind of afriad i'll get hit in the face, i'm clumsy like that. Any suggestions on getting better?
Anyways, anything you know tips, how to get in, what you need to be able to do. Also, you don't have to answer both(even though it'd be greatt.), just answer the one you know,i wont mind. :]
thanks so much! (link)
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Well I do both. I am not going to do cheerleading again this year, but you should you know... practice. Practice jumps, cheers, (if you know any)and tmbling. If you have no experience, then you know try. At least try.
Next Volleyball, Is super-fun, I know! I am in "advanced" volleyball, I guess you could say. I went to some camps over the summer. We played with hard balls, and now that I'm on A Team we should be playing with non Volley Lites.
The Volley Lites are super soft, and then next up is.. well I forget to be honest. But you can go to Wal - Mart or where ever, and buy a vb that is NON Volley Lite. Like said, those are for the little people. Are there are vb's called "practice balls" that are really (okay not really) hard and you use them to, well practice. To get used to the feel, and also to improve your hitting, bumping, spiking, etc. with any kind of vb.
=] Caroline
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like in the movie Bring It On, there was this thing called a spirit stick. and no i dont mean the deoderant, i mean like.. it was this stick that i guess was really important to the cheerleaders? whats so great about it? and what is it made out of? and how do they get it and stuff? im not a cheerleader so i dunno. (link)
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Well at my school, we have a spirit stick too. I know that some school exagerate a bit too much about spirit sticks, and some, just have them for no reason. We always have Spirit week, and we tally up the scores of which grade has the most spirit in the week, and that class/ grade, gets the spirit stick. A lot of schools do that. It's just something people have to represent school spirit - excitment, originality, support of the school. And we just make it. Ours is made out of wood. Like a pole kind of thing, except it's prolly a couple of feet. 5 feet probably.
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okay in the town where i live, all the cheerleaders have these little wooden signs in their yards that say [school name] cheerleader. well i just made cheerleading and my parents wont let me put my sign out because they think its "tacky." and actually, i dont really like it either, cuz i feel like its kind of bragging. but the other girls have been asking me why i dont have my sign out, and i don't know what to say. i dont want to insult them by saying my parents think its tacky. so what should i say? (link)
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You just have to tell them, "Well my parents, as well as I, don't think I need it. The whole town doesn't need to know I'm a cheerleader." Or something like that. Or you can really just say your feelings "I think its tacky to be honest with you. I'm sorry if you don't feel the same way, but I don't think I want or need one."
=] Caroline
P.S. I think it's tacky too.
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I would prefer Christians who are strong in their faith to answer this one, particularly those who have gone through what I am experiencing now.I was raised by a Christian mother who puts her faith completely in Jesus. I never doubted God and was saved at the age of twelve at VBS. I was baptized at 15. Since the day I was saved, four years ago, I've prayed to God every morning, night, and whenever else I felt like it. I read my Bible every morning and night and have almost finished it. I attend church every Sunday and do a Bible study with my family every night. I also attended a small Devotion before school every day for three years. I was certain that I had a personal relationship with Jesus. Then, one night recently, I started thinking. I was just laying in bed and all of the sudden, a wave of doubt hit me. I started questioning everything, including my belief in Jesus. I've prayed and cried so much about these things that I've made myself sick over worrying about them. I've been reading the Gospel again and again trying to find solid evidence. Then, I started wondering if everything in the Bible was real. Please, someone help ease my mind. I want to reccommit myself to Jesus, but first I need to put to rest all of these doubts and rekindle my faith. How can I do this? (link)
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A lot of People go through this. It is a test of God actually. The best person to see, would be a friend or your pastor / minister. That's the whole thing of religion, you believe in it, even though some things may make it impossible to really believe. But if you look deep enough, there is hard core proof and evidence it is real. You may be think that perhaps, evelution is true. How could it be true, when monkeys are not changing to humans today? You just have to trust in yourself and God to get you through this. Seek support from your friends, pastor(s), and / or members of your church.
=] Caroline
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I'm a senior in high school and I'm having trouble figuring out my schedule.
I've always been an overachiever, and filled my schedule, to the point of not having lunch. But now that I'm a senior, I want to relax and dedicate my time to a few hard classes. My schedule currently has:
Photo, Italian, English, AP Eco, Acting/Script Writing, Chorale, AP French and AP Calc BC
Which ones should I drop? (link)
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Well that's for you to decide. You should think about the ones you are Really interested in, and the ones you really thinik you can do / achieve. Your gonna think you like them all and that you can do them all, but you Really have to think about it. Ask some friends, ask them what they really think you like to do most. Ask yourself the same. Choose what you really want and can actually do.
=] Caroline
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my friend(Rachel) and I both like the same guy. (this guy is our Best Guy friend)It is really hard to like the same person. Like at our school band BBQ he was there and i flirted w/ him and Rachel got angry(she didn't show it but she kinnda avoided me @ the time) And then once almost everyone left(except him,rachel and i) it was like 10:00pm. And i was asking him questions NOT trying to flirt but just talking. And she kind of stormed off and drove home. Then about 10 min later i drove home. I talked to her and she says she doesn't care if he goes out w/ me. But it was SOOOO obvious she was angry when i flirted w/ him.
I don't want to make her angry and 'dump' me as a friend. But then again i don't want to stop liking him(he's like the perfect guy!). WHAT CAN I DO THAT WON'T MAKE HER MAD BUT I CAN STILL LIKE THE GUY????
Any help i greatly apprieciated! Sorry if it's confusing.(just tell me) (link)
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What I would say, is that you both need to tell him- your guy friend. Tell him wy you both like him, and if he's honest, he will give you a wholesome answer saying if he likes either one of you. He may not like either of you, but that's okay. You could probably do better. Besides that being an option, talk to your friend, Rachel. You guys really got some talking to do! You guys have got to set boundries. You really ought to figure out if, one of you could actually get into a serious relationship with him anyway. Talk it out, and try to come up with a solution you know can work.
=] Caroline
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