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well i have been with my boyfriend 3 months and 3 weeks and we have been talking about sex.he is a virgin and he told me he wanted to lose his virginty to me.I told him i never did anything with a guy.I LIED!i got fingered before by my ex boyfriend.but i never told hi mcuz i would feel ashamed.So soon i might have sex with him and i dont want him to find out im kinda loose and that i lied to him.
i wonder if when he sticks it in will he find out im kinda loose!
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You would absolutely not be "loose" from being fingered once, so don't worry! Think about it this way - women have babies and they can still have sex again afterwards. The vagina is very stretchy and there is no way that being fingered one, twice or twenty times would make it loose! Have fun and don't do anything if you aren't ready :)
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does sex feel better for a guy w/o a condom or w/ one? (link)
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Every guy I've been with or talked to about this says absolutely without. They can make condoms as fancy as they want to, but they will always reduce sensitivity. (This can be a good thing for some guys who have trouble holding on, so to speak...)
As a girl, I have to confess to hating them too. They seem to absorb natural lubrication making sex more likely to turn painful if you don't have any extra lubricant around. Plus, they kill the passion when you have to stop foreplay to put one on. Also, any guy with an average-to-large penis will have a heck of a time putting one on.
So all-in-all, condoms suck. Sure, they give you peace of mind, but personally, I'd rather opt for abstinence :)
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How long do you typically makeout for?
Because my bestfriend told me whenever she sees me makeout it seems like it's really really short.
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It depends on the situation, stage of the relationship, etc. At the stage of a relationship when no sex is involved, I know I've spent ages making out, maybe over half an hour. Once sex is on the cards, making out usually leads to other things pretty fast I've noticed!
If you think about it, you probably keep it a bit shorter when you aren't alone - and this includes whenever your best friend is around. If you ask me, this is just polite - making out is basically something we do in private. Kissing someone in public shouldn't really go on any longer than about twenty seconds or other people start feeling uncomfortable.
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ive heard so many girls say that it feels good when a guy cums in them. i dont get why that is? im a virgin so its not like ive experienced it but i just dont understand how does that feel good? (link)
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21/f: Well, I suppose there are two possible reasons a girl would say that.
First, you can feel it, though only if you know what kind of feeling to expect (this happens once you've had a fair bit of sex). There's no point in me describing the feeling if you haven't had sex but suffice to say it relates to the guy's testicles when they release semen. I like the feeling of it because I like knowing the guy I'm with has just climaxed, but not because it is actually pleasurable for me.
Second, some girls don't like messy sex (i.e., come all over their stomachs, etc), so having the guy come inside them prevents this... Again, this isn't to do with the act actually feeling good for a girl, it's just about, well, practicality :P
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does fingering feel good? also my friend gave this guy a blow job and she said it was awsome. is it really that good? (link)
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21/f, I really like being fingered but some girls probably hate it. When you said your friend said the blowjob was awesome, did you mean for her or for the guy? I've yet to hear of a guy who says, "No, don't give me a blow job", so its fairly clear they like them! Some girls like giving them, some don't. I think it's fun and I like the feeling of giving one, especially if he's really enjoying it. Both fingering and oral are really good foreplay which makes for better sex in my opinion - if you've got time, that is!
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okay! do guys like it when girls take control during sex? or would you rather been in control?
does it turn you on when girl takes control of what goes on between the sheets or what? (link)
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Hey, my boyfriend loves me being in charge for a bit, it really turns him on. Just make sure it's not just him making you do all the work!
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to detailed but i was wondering when people have sex do they automatically moan or does it just come out without even trying or effort? im really confused and would like to know. (link)
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21/f. When I'm silent during sex, that means I'm not really enjoying the position. It's not painful or anything, but it's just not doing it for me. I find when I'm with the right guy, I can't help but let him know I'm enjoying myself with a bit of noise (nothing too crazy though - what's with people who scream? Weird.)
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Ok so my boyfriend and I just started having sex regularly and I doesn't feel all that great. I always thought it would be something amazing but I don't really feel anything. Please give me some advice on what I could do to make it feel better for me!! thanks =) (link)
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21f: The first few months of having sex can either be a great time of experimenting and not being able to keep your hands off each other, or it can be painful and confusing. Mine was a mix. It wasn't painful, but my boyfriend was a virgin too so we didn't really know what we were doing and he was so nervous we couldn't get a condom on him for weeks!
To know how to make your experience better, we probably need to know more intimate details. You can basically work it out yourself:
1. Are you really into your boyfriend? (If not, take my advice and stop having sex with him, you're wasting your time.)
2. Is he experienced? (If not, keep trying, it might very well get better once he gets more confident.)
3. Have you had sex before? (If not, again, give it time to get better.)
4. Is he, erm, reasonably well endowed? (If he's teeny - sorry guys - this would explain why you don't feel much... Not much you can do to help this.)
5. Does he know how you're feeling?...
If he doesn't know, you need to tell him somehow - you absolutely cannot solve this problem on your own and sex will continue to be an unexciting experience for you. (Do not assume he feels the same way! Guys are clueless and most sex is great for them.) This will likely lead to the failure of your relationship. A good friend once said to me, "You always know a relationship's over when the sex turns to s**t". Sure, it might not end straight away, but eventually the cracks start to show and bad sex turns out to be a sign of other problems in the relationship.
One more thing: do not get into the habit of pretending you're enjoying it if you're not. He will never put any effort in if he thinks you're having a grand ol' time ;)
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