Hey, my name is, well you don't really need to know my name. I'm here to help, not to take your abuse, remember that. Please don't ask for my contact information, I won't give it out. Other than that, I am completely willing to answer your questions about just about anything.
Member Since: January 4, 2005
Answers: 27
Last Update: January 15, 2005
Visitors: 2797
Main Categories:
General Sex Questions
Friendship
Love Life
View All
|
| |
|
ok ive done a hand job before but my friend keeps askin when is he gettin his and i keep tell him i dont kno and like i dont wanna come off as a ho doing that to someone im not with..is that hoeish ? i do have feelings for him though (link)
| |
If he is just a friend and he is seriously asking you for this, then he is using you. Make sure he has feelings for you before you do something like this, otherwise you will come off as a whore.
|
alright, my friend is gettin really paranoid. he keeps thinkin that there might be "side effects" from masturbation. he's 15 and he says he's like addicted to bangin himself. so are there any "side effects" from too much masturbation? if so, what are they?
thanks (link)
|
Nope, no side effects. And it is perfectly healthy, most males reach sexual maturity at 14-16, so they need to have sex, or at least feel like they are having sex. As an after thought, he could get an increased need for sex, but thats about it.
Hope I helped, redlion
|
|
I lost my virginity in Feb after my 15 birthday. Since then my boyfriend and I have had sex atleast twice a week. He pulls out so we have never completely finished, and we have never had a pregnancy scare. Recently our sex has felt diffrent though. Like it has lost the unique, wild touch it once had. Could I be bored with sex? I get the same pleasure, but instead of feeling fulfilled afterwards I just feel-there. Can someone explain this to me? I'm so confused... (link)
|
I know it's all you hear, but birth control is the best thing for you at this point. When you are on the pill, you won't have to deprive yourself of the pleasure you get normally. Condoms are messy, and easily break or slip off, plus its not as fun for the man.
Also, variety is the spice of life. Change things up, maybe with different positions, a different setting, or even a different partner. I would try the first two of those options before the third. Once you are a little more experienced, I would suggest finding the Kama Sutra.
Hope I helped, Redlion.
|
I've heard many times the "You'll know when you're ready" line. I was wondering, HOW do you know when you're ready to lose your virginity?
(link)
|
When you have no doubt the guy (or girl) you want to have sex with is a good person (or bad person if you're into that sorta thing) and you want to take your relationship to the next level. I see it as the purest form of love, but that means nothing if you don't believe in love. I guess its just a personal choice.
Sorry, that wasn't much help, Redlion.
|
|
My clit sticks out a little. Is that strange? Should I be embarrassed? (link)
| |
Nope, not strange at all. Don't be embarassed about your body, its perfectly normal.
|
|
well me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months now and well it took 4 months for me to kiss him and well thats all ive ever done with anyone...well now hes kinda wanting more and is testing his limits and well i know its normal for guys to try that but i dont know...im only 14 is it normal for 14 year olds to do stuff like that? see my boyfriend has always gottin some from everyone hes been with accept me, but i kinda know that he cares for me b/c he waited so long and well if i do get up the nerve to do it once, will i have to do it alot? is he going to expect that more? should i do it? any advise? (link)
|
Guys love a little anticipation, it makes the act that much better. But on the other hand, if you don't want to do anything, don't let him force you just because of his reputation. It is perfectly normal for 14 year olds to do more than that. Not a whole lot more, but more than kiss, maybe move to a french kiss next and then a little touch and feel. It's probably not a good idea to take it much further than that. And yes, guys will always expect more. It can't be helped. Just make it clear to him what you are willing to do.
Hope I helped, Redlion.
|
|
What is the right age for a male to start getting erection and be able to burst?? I am thirteen years old but I still cant have any erection...But all of my friends (same age) say they can have erection...Some even say they have been having erection since they were 11 or 12?? Maybe this sounds gay but I have actually seen them having erection in the mall or in the school shower...Is this bad? I am so worry about it...Is it possible that I won't be able to have any erection throughout my whole life?? (link)
|
Puberty hits guys differently. Some are sexually ready at age 10, some don't hit maturity until 15. Don't force anything to happen. Don't worry about looking at theirs, its natural to want to compare. You should be able to have an errection, but there is a small possibility that you cannot because of birth defects or other complications. Let me stress once more, DO NOT WORRY ABOUT IT. I doubt any of your friends are doing anything besides wanking off, so they really don't have anything to brag about.
Hope I helped, Redlion.
|
This might be a stupid question, but does it hurt to have sex? Do you bleed?
just wondering (link)
| |
If you are male, it shouldn't hurt. If you are female, and it is your first time then yes, it will hurt when the guys penis breaks your hymen. You will probably bleed a little bit. If the guy is gentle it doesn't have to be excruciating. If he's not... well, just hope he's gentle.
|
|
i need help getting an orgaasm, i dont know how, and i am too embaressed to ask any of my friends.. i do know what masterbation is, im 15 years old and alot of my guy friends talk about it, but i still dont knowhowto masterbate myself. Can someone please explain to me how i can get an orgasm, can you tell me what to think about, how to masterbate, what to touch down tehre , and how to touch it, please, thanks this would be great help. (link)
| |
Erm, I'm confused about the gender of the asker. Clarify if you want a better answer.
|
|
okay well im 13/f and i accedeltally masterbated with out knowing it, at first i didnt know what i did but then i really started to enjoy it and do it to myself on porpose and i dont want to do it anymore but i dont no how to stop any help i rate high (link)
|
Well, you are coming to sexual maturity, so if you don't want to have sex, this is the best way to get it out. But in the case that you really want to stop, you could try the cold turkey method. Sorry, most people want to get off more, but you want to get off less. Its kind of amusing.
Sorry I wasn't much help this time, Redlion
|
|
I am 14/f and don't tell me i`ve made the biggest mistake of my life...i know i've made a mistake and i`m gonna follow my responsibilities. My boyfriend, who I have been with for 11 months, has been in jail for 6... he just got out and we really like each other you know? Well, while he was in jail-i had a little side thing...with a 16 year old black male...lets call him mike..me and mike really liked each other and did it a lot..but when we did it on the first day of my period-something happened. Last night, my stomach was hurting sooo bad while talking to my boyfriend. So bad that my mom took me to the emergency room. She decided to give me a pregnancy test..and it`s positive. I`m nervous and all and 6 weeks pregnate in the 9th grade... I have the money and skills to support it..but MIKE doesn`t want anything to do with it. My dad wants it aborted but I want it...my mom does too. What would you do in my situation? And how do i explain to my boyfriend who is trying to get his life back on track? (link)
|
Well, you certainly have a lot on your plate. First of all, you need to reign in your dad. You know what I mean, use that little girl 'but daddy' crap and make him listen to you. Make sure your mom is there to support you, but don't make it look like you are teaming up on him.
Abortion might be an option, but you said you want it, so you need to find a way to finish your education while having a child, and (I assume) be with your boyfriend. First, you need to find a way to have the baby taken care of during the day. If your mom doesn't work, she might consider doing it for you. You WILL go to school. You WILL NOT drop out. If you do, I will HUNT YOU DOWN and drag you back, because you will not have a very pretty life without your nice, public school education. Second, you need to forget Mike. The guy just wanted some tail, and when he, like so many teenagers, 'forgot' to wear a condom got landed with a kid. Screw him, if your boyfriend is so great, he will help you through this. Try very hard to stay in school. If that is not an option, make sure your boyfriend is. I know you are going through a bunch of crap right now, but you can pull through this with your kid, your parents, your education, and your boyfriend. Thats going to take a lot of work, but it is possible.
Hope I was more help than the other 'columnists', Redlion.
|
ok, so i have this really personal problem, i am a 16 year old girl, but i was born with male genatiles. I dont know what to do becuase i have a steady boyfriend, we have been seeing eachother for about 3 months. We have gone to third base( but i gave him pleasure not the other way around)and he told me taht he wants to do the smae for me. Im afraid that if he sees my 'down there area' that he will be grossed out. But i really really love him. Help me, how can i tell him?!
-worried (link)
|
Erm, I really can't help you here, but directed at the other people answering:
YOU SICK FUCKS! HAVE SOME COMPASSION!
My apologies to any who offered advice that actually made sense. For future reference, if you have nothing beneficial to say, don't say anything. And yes, that makes me a hypocrite by posting this.
Redlion
|
|
im 15 and well honstly ive only made out with 3 guys, and thats all ive ever sexually done... ive never "masterbated" whatever that means or anything like that but my bf keeps trying to finger me and stuff! if i let him do it..is it gonna hurt? can my "cherry" pop? is it gonna feel really bad? and if i let him do it will i be labled a slut? (me and my bf have been together 10-11 months now) anything? (link)
| |
No, you won't be a slut. No, it won't hurt. Yes your cherry can pop, and yes that will hurt. Maybe you should take it a bit slower, maybe have a bit more physical contact before going strait to this. A nice session of touch and feel can leave a guy very satisfied. Don't feel pressured to do something like this.
|
|
yesterday i was watching tv and i changed tha chanel and it was porn!! i didnt even bother to change it and i wanted to watch it and im 15/f is that normal?!?! i got really horny and i wanted to call my bf to come over! whats wrong with me?!?! (link)
| |
Woah, I read the other answers, and for the most part they are all wrong. There is nothing wrong with you, porn is meant to turn both sexes on, not just men. It's completely normal for girls, especially girls your age, to be turned on by anything sexual. Hope you feel better about your sexuality, Redlion
|
|