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Hello everyone!!! sorry it's been so long since i've been around to help. to let everyone get reaquainted with me i am a 33 year old mother of 4 kids and 2 stepkids. I work 2 jobs cuz i know how hard it is out there!! i have experience with teen pregnancy, domestic abuse, mommy issues, and just plain old troubles in the world!!! Just remember your every day trouble will always be there- don't let it get you down- try to figure out a way to cope with it!!! Have Faith!!!
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Age: 33
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what are the sex positions? (link)
there are really too many to mention. there are alot of books out though that you can read and look through to give you every idea imaginable.


when my boyfriend and I are doing the deed, he ejactulates after like 1 minute! sometimes like 30 seconds... how could he last longer? (link)
have him play with you more so that you get your pleasure and so does he. just because he can only last a few minutes doesn't mean you have to suffer. foreplay and playing in general is fun and satisfying


Hey! I'm very worried here! Me and my boyfriend were making out on top of each other, i had pants on, he had pants on but neither of us had our shirts on. We were making out and when we finished, I saw a little stain on his pants, now I'm scared that I might be pregnant.
Ive been waitin for my period and stressing a lot!

I waited for my period to come and it finally came, but it was light and it only lasted 2 days, also i didnt have any cramps or anything.
Could this be implantation bleeding?
Could I be pregnant? (link)
honey you can't get pregnant without actual intercourse!!!! he actually have had to ejaculated inside of you to make that happen. you stressing over not getting your period is what is causing you not to have one. stress will cause you to be late or not have one at all. calm down and breathe!!! things will work out and you will start your cycle again!!!


i am 17 years old and i am a women. i hae this guy friend who has tryed to get me to have sex with him. but everytime we wore going to i told him a started my period and i need to get home to change my clothes. but i really want to have sex but i am scared that i will get pregant. since i am not on birth control. so what should i do (link)
make him use a condom ( if you really want to take that step) don't rush anything. there are lots of over the counter things to use. or you can visit your local health clinic or planned parenthood chapter. no matter what you use still make him use a condom!!!!


Im 13, And Im female. I just kinda have a odd questions. You know how people say (While i heard it on tv once, & once on here..) When boys at school when they get hard, they try to stop it and cover it with the books in front of it..
Will honestly, do they REALLY DO THAT?
& doesnt it hurt, trying to make it not so noticeable...
I mean im a girl, and i just see it as pain, or something. hah.. Thanks i rate high. (link)
there's really no reason to be rude. you are only 13 and have alot to learn about life sweetie!


sorry it's kinda long but I wanna know...

ok well it's be about 8 months since I've gotten my period and for the first 4 months is was coming aroud the 20th and then it didn't and it came aroud the 13th and then for about 3 more months it was around the 13th well in Januaray is come on the 13th and now it's the 17th and I don't get why it hasn't come and I'm like scared that I'm messed up or not normal considering this is the 2nd time this has happend. Can someone please tell me what's happening if it's normal or not. Thanks, will rate too. (link)
everyones cycle is different your body might just be settling in or trying to cope with stress. why not try and see a healthcare professional and maybe they can suggest some medical ways to deal with the situation. sometimes a doctor will put you on the pill to regulate your periods.


well i know the siptums of gonneriea( sorry if i spelt it rong) and its burned like 3 times while i was going to the bathroom. and my urine smells really strong. could this be gonneria? i know this question sounds nasty but im really scared.

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SCARED. (link)
go to your local health clinic and get checked out std's are nothing to mess with


I am almost 15 years old.My boyfriend is 16 turning 17.I dont get along with either of my parents. Is it normal to want to have a child at this age? I talked to my boyfriend about it he doesnt help to much. He has told me he would do anything i want because he loves me so much. I told him i think i would want to wait till i am 16 at least. At the moment i dont no i feel like i want to take hold of the responsibilty now.Ill Rate High. Please help me extra ideas etc would be help full thank you. (link)
please talk to a counselor at school about a planned parenthood class in which you take a computerized baby doll home for a period of time to care for it as if it were real. this will give you a dose of what it could be like with an actual child to care for. you are very young and do not have enough life experience or education to properly support and care for a child. trust me i've been there.


how early on can you tell if your pregnant..

&& what is the chance of getting preg on birth control. I Didnt take it how they told me to && I missed it a fiew times. I didnt know i was taking it wrong but someone told me today sense I didnt take it the right way it wont work fully.

I dont think im preg actualy im like 99.9% sure im not..

but you can never be to safe && sure (link)
some pregnancy test say they can predict up to 5 days before your missed period. generally if you are even just a couple of days late most tests will predict yes or no. if you are having stomach trouble and sickness you probably should go to a doctor. if the pains are too bad you could be pregnant with a tubal(ectopic) pregnancy which means the egg didn't travel all the way to the uterus and planted in your tube which can be very dangerous. i urge you to seek medical attention.


To be blunt, I have a ton of hair down there that goes all the way up to my anus. is it supposed to go that far back? is there anything i can do to get rid of it? f-16 (link)
yes it's normal some have more than others. you can shave very carefully or go for the ever painful waxing ritual if you want or just leave it alone. it's really your preference.It's your body


15/m ....i am about to go a little further with my girlfriend ....and i was wondering if most guys shave their pubic hair or not...? (link)
it's all a matter of preference. if you want to go for it if not don't. just keep in mind that if you do go all the way that you keep it safe. just because there may not be any hair there doesn't mean that you are disinfected or you can't get her pregnant.


My best friend recently cut his wrists and was waiting to die. He's at the hospital, he's okay, and he knows what he did is stupid. This is some serious matter to drop on someone, so I was wondering how to lighten my mood. I'd appreciate any advice that will calm and level myself before I talk to him. (link)
just be yourself if he wants to discuss it he will bring it up. you could just let him know that if there is anything you could do for him you will be there


ok so i just had unprotected sex yesterday, and i havent had my period for this month yes and just hypotheticaly speaking if i am pregnant then will i have a period this month or will i not because i preganant or does it not start till your 2nd month? (link)
everyone's body is different. if you suspect you might be take a home pregnancy test. you can get them everywhere these days.


Okay well my brother was talking about guys cumming & busting a nut or what not okay. Well i thought busting a nut & cumming was the same thing but my guy friend said no its not cumming usually is clear and busting a nut is white & feels much better.Now i know i`m not stupid but is what my guyfriend TRUE??.. I know also this is a weird question and probably a weird conversation to have with somebody DUH! especially my brother i just over heard his conversation with friends. Thanks alot in advance (link)
it's all the same sweetie no matter how you put it.


I have a long-ish labia on one side but nothing on the other side. Is this considered normal or attractive? (link)
honey there is nothing wrong with you. everyone has a different body. if you are very concerned take a trip to your doctors office.


Is it true that guys don't really like hand jobs? And that everytime they get a girl to give them a handjob, they are really just looking for a way to convince the girl to give him a blow job? (if that makes sense) (link)
Guys just like to be touched. you could do it through clothes and most of the time they would be satisfied even though they won't admit it


14/f
ok i have know this guy for like ever and we have never dated and we jsut hang out he has dated like all of my friends and now he says that he has had a crush on me since like forever and well i started dateing him like a week and go and now he say that he was to have sex with me my mom all was says that u need to betogeter for like 3 weeks and stuff but i mean could i just have sex with him since i have know him for ever but then my mom would be mad at me for ever some one plz help (link)
don't rush the sex thing you are really too young to be so overwhelmed by a situation like that. be young and enjoy life. if you do decide to go all the way just remember to be safe or you just might end up being called mommy for the rest of your life or even worse.


When guys say "I'm Hung" what are they talking about, I know there talking about their 'lower half' but what about it?!
Please help, I'll rate high for a good answer (link)
they are talking about length. for some reason guys think it's all about length.


okay...well i have been having discharge really badly lately, since i think about 6 grade ive had it, but lately its been getting bad....sometimes it will cool off and not be so heavy...but then sometimes it gets thick and i can't stand it, is there any reason why? and does anybody know of any good meds. for it? all answers and ill rate 5's

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see a doctor. over the counters aren't going to do you any good if it's that bad.


for some reason, ya'll keep deleting my question.
anyways, at the top of my legs, on the fleshy outer part of the vagina lips, between that and the top of my legs, i have these sores(i guess you could call them). they look like little bumps with a "pin-prick" hole. for some reason, when you let them air out, they scab over. but they hurt and itch at the same time. i don't know what's wrong.
i know its not my husband, we're both 19, and were virgins when we got married. if yall could help me, it'd be appreciated. thanks. (link)
this may sound silly but do you shave that area? I had the same problem once before and my gyno said that an infection can set in from shaving. call your doctor and make an appointment just to be safe.




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