My name is Melissa and im 16 years old. I'm a junior in high school in a pretty small town..i love hangin with my friends and i lovvve helping people/giving advice. I was a member on here from july 04 and then when everything with site got all messed up I was forced to make a new account :( Ive been giving advice for a very long time on this site..my old user name was icey0990. I'm into sports like softball and tennis...i play on the school teams for that...i also like to play bball,swim,go walking in the woods for fun..i lovve waterfalls.. i have my own right near my house :) Ask me anything and dont be shy!
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I've always been the type to worry about STDs but I went a little far with my boyfriend and we have preformed oral on each other. Even though I might have the chance of already having caught something is it ok for me to ask him to be tested? Where might he get tested? (link)
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Its a good idea to get tested. Its not too late. its never too late. even if he has something and gave it to you *hopefully thats not the case* but even if worse case scenerio he has somethin and you do too..you need to know! so definately get tested and stuff if you want. planned parenthood or something like that will do tests..or free clinics..or the hospital
:) meliss
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I am 15 years old and i ahve been going oiut with a 14 year olf for a year and 11 months now and he is a virgin and im not he said he wants to loose his virginaty too me and i want him to too but he is afraid his parents will find out whats a way to tell him not to worry about n e thing ur first time is always fun and feels the best he is just afraid he is going to get caught and not be able to talk to me n e more???? (link)
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So hes truley ready but is just worried about being caught? Tell him you will wait for a time when it will be impossible to be caught. Do you have any friends that drive?
-do it in their car hehe
- wait until you will be home alone for a lonnng while..no chance you will get caught
- any cousins like 16-21 that drive? or can lend you their appartment? lol
- the best bet is to do it at either of your houses when you will definately have a few hours alone
maybe its more than just getting caught and he doesnt want to admit hes not ready..because getting caught isnt a big deal..you two can definately find a time and a place to be alone.
good luck! dont forget..he has to be ready himself! dont talk him into it by saying it feels good and stuff..because afterwards he will be regretting it.
i hope i helped..let me know how it goes
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okay so today i told the guidance councler about him and everything and she said she would call him down after i left and if i wanted to i could check back with her later. But i didnt go back. But i think he is mad at me now. which i expected. lol.
i havent talked to him at all today though except for this morning before i told the guidance councler. do you have any ideas on what i should say to him?
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Yeah definately expect him to be mad at you for awhile..but after he gets the help he needs he will be thanking you.
- "your a great friend of mine and i care about you soo much. if you did something dumb i would feel terrible that i knew and didnt tell anyone. i would feel responsible for your death. thats too much for me to take. you needed help..and i'm here for you to help you through. if i didnt tell anyone it would be the wrong thing..like i didnt care if you killed yourself or not..but i DO care! im here for you and i couldnt live with myself if you did something like kill yourself and i didnt say anything. please understand"
try that
-best of luck..keep me posted
-melissa-
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THANK YOU SO MUCH IN ADVANCE FOR ANSWERING THIS AND I AM SORRY IF IT IS LONG BUT I REALLY NEED HELP WITH THIS.
So i have a really good friend and he has been talking about suicide all this week and he is really starting to scare me. I talk to him about how much i care about him etc. but still he said i dont think ill kill myself just now. but later i dont know. IM SO WORRIED ABOUT MY FRIEND! and try to have some other answer besides tell someone because i know that and i am considering it. So please any other good ideas.. ILL RATE 5'S FOR ALL SERIOUS ANSWERS
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Take this seriously. Someone who used to go to our school just committed suicide last week..its very sad..i only met him a couple of times but he was a really great guy. My point is, wouldnt you feel terrible if he did something stupid and you didnt do everything in your power to help? I bet you would be very upset with yourself for not telling anyone.
Along with telling someone like his or your parents,trusted adult,school counselor,etc..stand by him through everything. Hes going through a tough time and he needs you. Show him the beauty of life..maybe make a list *a lonnng list* of why life is beautiful. Hang out witth him,talk with him, give him hugs, make him a card..keep letting him know you n lots of people care! take this seriously...please!
i hope i helped..please inbox me with further questions/updates
-melissa-
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