I currently work for Nemours Children's Clinic and I work part time for Baptist Medical Center. I have an amazing boyfriend, we have been together for about a year and a half and have a nice place together. I love animals. I am majoring in psychology and love giving advice to people!
Gender: Female
Location: Florida
Occupation: Student/ Baptist Medical Center/ Nemours Children's Clinic
Age: 23
Member Since: August 20, 2006
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Alright so, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and we've started having sex. We usually use condoms, but I was wondering.. how effective is the "pull-out method" i know a lot of people think it should be shunned but, i know a lot of people who have done it a lot and have had nothing happen. What do you guys think? (link)
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Please keep using condoms. I've had so many friends get pregnant that way. They try it for a little while, and nothing happens, then they get pregnant. If you're not ready to have a baby and go through all the heart aches then keep using protection. Try using birth control pills if you want to have sex without a condom. Please don't "usually" use condoms. Have you thought about what you would do if something happened and you DID get pregnant? And if you decided not to keep the baby... there is just so much to think about and it's really not worth it unless you're ready for a child. I hope this helps.
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My husband and I seem to only ever have sex. I know that it's supposed to express love, but neither of us waited to marriage...we both slept around a lot. I do love him, and he promises he loves me, and not just my body. But it seems like, unless we're making love, we're not getting along. Is it possible to love someone with liking them? Seriously... I love him, but I don't like him because he's rude to me and not really abusive, but almost. So... what now? (link)
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I disagree with the other answer. I think it's very possible to love someone without liking them. Do you feel like you love him, but you're not in love with him? Honestly, why are you staying with him if all you ever do is have sex and he's rude to you all the time? It doesn't sound like you're very happy. I would suggest some couples counseling. Just sit down with him and talk about the reasons you don't get along, and tell him that it hurts you when he's rude to you etc. Tell him that it bothers you that all you ever do is have sex. Maybe you guys could make a date night a couple night a week and just spend one-on-one time together. Really focus on one another and get to know each other all over again. There had to be a point where both of you were happy together, try to reconnect and find that happiness again. I wish you the best of luck, and message me if you have anymore questions.
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I am getting obssesed with the idea of commiting suicide. I am not a teenage girl by the way, I am a 40 year old bysiness man. I take pills so that I can sleep at night but i just wont help but anyways I dont want to bitch about my life. I just dont want to think about killing myself anymore.it is always there, the thought. Crazy thoughts, how to do it, will it hurt, make a big fuss and....that is all.
I think also that if I start doing heavy drugs things will get better. (link)
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What is so bad about your life to make you want to end it all? So many people suffer from depression, there is help out there. Like another person said, the sleeping pills you are taking may be making you more depressed. Drugs are no solution to ANY problem. Trust me, they will only make it worse. You didn't exactly ask a question, but you seemed like you really needed a friend, so if you want to talk or if you want advice about something in particular, feel free to e-mail me XBrooklynHeights@aol.com. I hope things get better for you. If you haven't already, I suggest you talk to your doctor and he or she can recommend something for you (like zoloft or welbutrin) to help with the depression. There are also places you can go to do to outpatient depression treatment, or if you feel comfortable talking to someone about your problems, I recommend a clinical psychologist. I hope this helped, and please don't hesitate to message me.
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my boyfriend and i had sex on monday night and it didnt hurt when we were doing it but that morning when i went to use the restroom and peed it really hurt it was a burning feeling and when i was peeing i got up and it still kept feeling weird like it was hurting down there. i can't explain the feeling its like i have to go pee but when i do go sit on the toilet i dont have to go its like a feeling i have to go it hurts to down there. today is wednesday and it still keeps hurting. i don't know what is wrong with me i mean what is wrong with me will this every go away because its been two days and its making me cry. someone please help me give me some answers. i have made a doctors appoitment but i have to wait until october 13. to go and that is like two weeks away and i cant not wait that long. someone please help me! Thanks in advance!!! (link)
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That definitely sounds like a urinary tract infection. Just so you know that's not an STD and it can be treated. Drink lots of water and cranberry juice. You should also avoid baths and washing with scented soaps. I suggest you go to a pharmacy and tell them your symptoms and see if they can suggest something you could take over-the-counter to help. There are herbal supplements that help with urinary tract infections. It will eventually get better, but it will come back if it's not treated. You need to keep your appointment even if it starts to feel better. There is something you can get from the pharmacy that tells you if you have a bacteria infection or if it's something else (you pee on a stick, similar to a pregnancy test). I'm not sure what it's called, but call or go to your pharmacy. You should make an appointment to see a gynecologist to get checked out. They can also put you on the pill while you're their (if you're not already). Make sure that you are both very clean before you have sex, and use protection because urinary tract infections are contagious (he can catch it from you and you can spread it back and forth). I hope this helps and good luck!
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No explanations please, just a straight up answer.
Is it easier to get pregnant before, during, or after your period.
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It's easier to get pregnant after your period. Here's a website for more info. Hope this helps.
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I had a urinary tract infection a little while ago. I have never had sex, but my boyfriend fingers me a lot. So I'm wondering how I got this UTI. Can you get a UTI from being fingered? What other ways can you get UTI? (link)
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You can get an UTI from bacteria entering the vagina, which could be caused by your boyfriend fingering you. Ask your boyfriend to wash his hands thouroughly (and clean under his nails) because this could be the cause of the UTI's. You can also get UTI's from not wiping from front to back, not cleansing properly, or from bacteria your body produces. There are antibacterial wipes you can purchase from walmart or your nearest drug store which can help cut down on bacteria. Also, you shouldn't take baths, because that can cause UTI's. It also may not be something that you are doing. Many women and young girls get UTI's. The best thing to do is to talk to your doctor or visit your gynocologist if you get symptoms of a UTI in the future. Here are some websites which may help you as well. I hope this helps.
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I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 6 months now and we are both virgins, and today we were making out and things were getting a little "hot and heavy" so to speak and he told me that the wants to lose his virginity to me. I was a little shocked and didn't know what to say in return, so I said something stupid like "Oh? Really?" and he said "Yes, because I love you and I want to experience everything with you" He is the only boy I've done anything with other then french kissing, and I know that I'm not ready to have sex right now. But I'm afraid I might have hurt his feelings when I didn't say anything back to him when he told me. I guess I was afraid that if I told him I wanted to lose my virginity to him [which I do....someday] he would want to have sex right then and there. What should I do? Any advice at all would be wonderful.
Thank you (link)
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Tell him how you feel. Don't be afraid to hurt his feelings. Tell him that you aren't ready to have sex yet, but that when the time is right, that you would like to share it with him too. Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable doing, you'll only regret it later. Make sure you are ready and educated enough to make your own desicions. Find out about birth control and discuss with him the posibility of getting pregnant. If you are not comfortable talking to him about intimate things, then honestly, you aren't ready to have sex with him. Think about all the things that come with having sex, like the consequences it can bring. What if you got pregnant or if your parents found out? Also, think about the good things that come with it. It is special and should be shared with someone you're in love with. Your first time shouldn't be something you regret. Once you've thought about all the possibilities and decided to have sex, be open about it and have fun. Talk about it with him and read about it online. When you first start out having sex it can be very confusing and complicated and it can really change things between people. The younger you are, the more complicated it becomes because you experience all these emotions which can be confusing. And how would you feel if something happened between you and your boyfriend and you two broke up? What if he cheated on you? I know that is something that you don't want to think about, but it happens. Also, how would you feel if in 3 or 4 years you found someone who you loved even more than the guy you're with now and you wanted to experience the same thing with him? Would you regret your first time being with the guy you're with now? There's just so much to think about and many responsibilities that come with having sex. Just talk to him about it and tell him how you feel! I hope I helped.
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i am usually depressed & never happy ! im always crying & NEVER in a good mood . i think about suicide WAY to much . sometimes i think its my only option . help me please (link)
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You really need to talk to someone about your feelings and your problems. If you elaborated on why you feel depressed I may be able to give you better adivce. Sometimes there is a chemical inbalance that makes people sad for no reason at all and it is very common. If that is the case, them medication will be needed. You see, there are different chemicals in your brain that cause you to feel a certain way. One is called serotonin. If there is not enough, then this could cause you to become sad or depressed. Depression is something that doesn't go away without help and needs to be treated. You should really talk to your parents and tell them that you want to see a counselor to talk about your problems and if you need medication, you'll need to see a psychiatrist. As for you thinking about suicide, I suggest that you get imediate help if the thoughts have progressed that far. Don't feel embarrased or ashamed to talk to people about how you feel because so many people feel the same way you do. As for you thinking that suicide is your only option, don't. There is so many treatments available to help you feel better and it is worth it. Sometimes it could just be your hormones changing and it'll get better as you get older, and sometimes it could be the situation you're in causing you to become sad, or the lack of serotonin. Basically what will happen if you make an appoitment to see a psychiatrist they will talk to you about why you feel depressed and write you a prescription depending on what they believe is the cause. Many common prescritions available are Zoloft, Wellbutrin, and Paxil. Although I am not a doctor, I recommend you seeking advice from a qualified professional for assistance with the medication. Please feel free to write me an e-mail or contact me further if you have any more questions or even if you just want to talk about problems or how you're feeling. I hope you feel better.
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