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ok well i shave down there usually but im not sure if what i do is enough. like if i were to do something with a boy would he think i need 2 shave more.! soo how much is like regular shaving.? i will be sooo imbarassed if i go to do something and he wont because of it .! but i do shave so i guess what else im asking is do boys want you to be completly shaved or is it ok for their to be a little something there.?>> (link)
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I think that it is important to be comfortable with what you want. I really don't think that most guys care, as long as it is well groomed. I personally prefer to have all of it shaved, but I don't like hair on myself. My husband doesn't really care. For a long time, I used to just have a little (a stip down the middle), but I have found it to be more comfortable with no hair at all. I say, it's personal preference and you should wear it the way you like it. Good luck.
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I've had sex so many times with my boyfriend. So it's not one of the first time things. It didn't hurt when I first had sex either.. so I'm wondering why it hurts a bit now.
I like it rough, I'm always relaxed.. but after 40 mins or an hour, it starts to hurt? Like a stabbing sensation. It's not like we stay in the same position.
Is there something wrong with me? It's been like 7 months since we first had sex.. Does it have to do anything with his size er what? (link)
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There could be many different reasons why intercourse is becoming uncomfortable. I would make sure, first and foremost that you do not have any kind of STD. This can cause a great deal of pain during intercourse with your partner. If you do not have anything, then it sounds like you may be getting dry. If it starts hurting after about 40 min to 1 hour, then this is probably what is going on. You could try lubrication...if you become dry in your vaginal area, then it will start to hurt. Try lubrication, such as K-Y Jelly. If it still hurts after using the lubrication, then I would suggest going and seeing your doctor. Good luck.
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14/f
so me and this guy, we have no interest in a relationship
we've liked each other on and off for 3 years
i really love him
he loves me
i've given him a blow job
hes eaten me out
fingered
handjob
we've made out with just bottoms on
we've talked about sex
i love the feeling of being fingered while we're topless
am i ready for sex? (link)
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This is a tough question. Sex is a big deal - there are many emotions that come along with sex. Fourteen is very young to be engaging in such an activity that requires great maturity and responsibility. I knew a girl in high school who got pregnant at fourteen. We were freshmen, and she was having a baby. We didn't even have our driver's license. How was someone who couldn't even drive a car, supposed to be a mom and take care of another human being? She wasn't even old enough to get a job. I imagined myself in her shoes as I contemplated having sex with my boyfriend, whom I dated for nearly four years. I decided it was better to wait until I was ready to take care of a child. It only takes one time to get pregnant, or catch an STD. 1 out of every 4 Americans have herpes. 1 out of every 4...that means that 1 out of every four kids in one of your classes has or will have herpes in their lifetime. Never tell yourself that it won't happen to you...becuause it does. Just think about it really hard. Sex is a beautiful and amazing thing...but it can also kill you. Good luck.
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Hi, Im a girl and 18 and I'm a virgin, I've never had anything inside of my vagina, not even a tampon...i do masturbate but never stick my finger inside of me....today i thought i tried cus my boyfrined and i have gotten serious..well when i inserted my finger inside of me it really really hurt and i tried again later and it really really hurt again...im scared is there a reason why its hurting so much besides ive never had nething inside of me.... (link)
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It is normal the first couple of times that you engage in intercourse to feel discomfort. There is a flap of skin inside the vagina called the hymen - this will break and you may have some bleeding. Once this breaks, then you won't have the pain anymore. Tell your partner to go slow, and try some lubrication...this can make it easier since you are probably dry. Once the hymen is broken and you don't feel pain anymore, then you will produce natural secreations that will aid in having intercourse. Just listen to your body and be patient. Go slow, and go at YOUR pace...this will avoid tearing. Good luck.
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