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ok well i dont know if this is the rite topic..but..my friend*Whitney* has been going out with this guy*kevin*. She is in 8th grade and he is in 9th. well wen he first asked her out about a month ago she asked me what i thought..i told her that it wasnt a good idea because all he wants to do it "get down her pants". i know that from other people going out with him. She told me in the begnining of there relationship that she promised she wouldnt do anything. well they were at a football game (high school) and he tried to finger her. she told him not rite now. and i respect that brcause she didnt do it. well a couple days ago she was at his house and he figered her..she said it hurt really bad and she was scared to tell me because she knew i would get really mad. well of course i was and i tried to let it go but this guy is knows for doing really bad stuff. im really worried about her. she has it in her mind that she loves him but i know she doesnt and im scared he going to pressure her into doing something she doesnt want to do. i dont know how to come about this..or how i can look out for her because i kno anything i say wont matter..shes moving way to quickly with this relationship. i need help..thanks in advance (link)
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Tell someone. If you can't convince her yourself, tell her or your parents. She'll hate you for a while but she'll understand why later. Why have her hate you forever because you didn't do anything to stop her and let her do something she will regret later.
It will hurt to do it, but it will hurt more if she gets presured. If she has sex because she wants to please him, the pressure and hate for sex will follow her through life.
Do something to save her.
-Zeph
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I'm a flat out slut.
I always let guys do stuff to me and take advantage of me sexually.
For some odd reason, i think its fun to get guys horny.
I used to think it was becuase they liked me, but they dont. And no matter what,I still continue to do it , Im not a bad person at all.
I just cant stop doing it!
I usually do it to guys I like or think is hot.
I want to stop, but I dont know how!
And I want guys to start liking me for who I am.
Please dont insult me, i just need help.
Thanks
14/f
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The reason may be is low self esteem and lack of power in your life. To make guys horny, to be the one to decide whether they get sex or not, is a form of ego-boost and power. And I think that power is what attracts you the most.
When you say you think it's fun to get guys horny, it makes you feel good about yourself because in a way, it convices you that you are capable of doing something.
To make guys start liking you for who you are. Sit down, alone, in your room for a while and know thyself. Redefine lost boundaries, beliefs, likes, dislikes and don't really jump into romantic situations until you are sure that you feel good about who you are.
Then, when that happens, you can step out again and resume life in a way that you find fulfilling.
-Zeph
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