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i'm a 14 year old guy and a couple of months ago i started masturbating and it feels really good i've started to masturbate more recently it feels so good is it normal to masurbate a lot?

Yes it is normal to masturbate a lot. It's perfectly fine because you are just exploring your body to see what you like.
If you start feeling uncomfortable down in your penis area, you should cut back, but other than that! You are perfect doing what you're doing.

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i need advice. . I am from india. I m seeeing sexual dreams, from few years. But sex in my dreams is, willingly, .after night mare, i realy feel that somebody do that realy with me.

Sexual dreams are essential for the human body to relax. If you don't have sex, your sub concious will have sexual dreams to relieve some of your sexual tensions.
It really isn't a nightmare, you just have to use it properly. Of course it is willingly in dreams because that is what you body wants and needs at that time.

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I am 15 male and well i'm not sure if it's normal but my penis is really small i'm really worried
will it grow? is there something wrong with me?

No nothing is wrong with it, depending upon your race it might just be because of that, but during an erection it gets bigger, so there isn't anything to worry about at all. A lot of people have small penises, but that hasn't stopped them.
Take care,
xxxx

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Im a 14 year old girl and i enjoy watching lesbian porn, but im straight, am i bi or anyything? but then when the porn shows vaginas i get really turned off....

Well, it's normal for girls to think other girls are attractive, especially at 13 to 15 years of age because they are still exploring sexuality.
It doesn't mean your bi, it just means that is what you like. When you get older you'll know for sure but there isn't a way to tell.
If you really want my professional opinion, if you get turned off by vaginas, then you probably are straight, but just like watching girls.
I am fifteen and I am sort of the same way. I like reading about girls having sex, and i don't mind having dreams about things like that either,
but if I see pictures of girls touching each other or vaginas, I get grossed out.

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Im a bit embarrassed about this im 16 male and ive been with my girlfriend for 4 months and well ive got a really small penis and im worried about getting intimate or doing anything sexual with her im worried about showing her my penis so will it grow is there a way to make it bigger?
what can i do?

Well yes, you could use a drug, like viagra for instance, and that'll make it SEEM big. But, when you get aroused it'll get a little bigger too. But, really, you should just go natural and tell her how you feel. If you are sure you love her, it shouldn't matter if you have a small penis or not. If she laughs, oh well, it wasn't supposed to be. To put it painfully honest, you dont want a girl who is going to laugh at you about things like that anyways. A lot of guys have small penis' but they do just fine the way they are.
Good luck!

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My girlfriend and i have been together over 7 months and well she says she wants to more sexually im nervous i havent done anything with a girl before and i have a really small penis im worried about that she might not like me anymore im nervous about going further or having sex with her because im not sure if i wll be able to pleasure her or not so what do i do? can you pleasure a girl with a small penis?

Of course you can pleasure a girl with a small penis. And if she isn't pleasured there are other ways you can pleasure her of course. Don't worry about it so much.
Just be honest with her, and tell her about what you are feeling and how you don't have any experience.
If you aren't ready to have sex, don't yet.
Thats okay, don't feel pressured.
And if she laughs at your penis or don't like you anymore, then she isn't worth it. Don't fret about it too much.
Everything will work out just fine. :)

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what is are courses of virgina sores?

1: could be just an infection from something you did or just something natural.
2: You could have an STD.
If i were you, and if you DO have something wrong, I'd see a doctor so it doesn't get any worse.

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Hello, 16 F here

I don't know how to explain myself...
Why don't I list what I can think of?

-I have friends. I have a lot actually. All of my best friends aren't necessarily friends with each other (in other words i do noy have a close-knit group of friends)
- i do not hang out with them much
- normally i stay at home and go on the computer or do things with my family
- i often feel i can't talk about my problems with anyone
- i feel as if no on really knows who i am and what my personality is like
- that being said, my personality is CONSTANTLY changing depending on my surroundings. At school i am happy and nice and friendly and funny. With my famiy i am funny and irritated and very political, but i feel more relaxed. When in by myself i feel scary and alone and crazy almost. I dont feel like anyone likes me
- i DO NOT have suicidal thoughts. Of course i have wondered about it, but i cant imagine myself doing it EVER
- i eat a lot. A LOT . i eat when im bored, or i eat just because there are snacks in the kitchen
- my sleeping patterns are relatively normal
- sometimes i feel so empty and alone, no matter where i am. I feel like i cannot connect with anyone
- i have muscular aches regularly and i get strong headaches almost on a daily basis
- i have never had a boyfriend or kjssed a guy. However i have had MANY MANY opportunities. Also, sex doesnt necessarily interest me that much.
- i have good self esteem. I am not narcissistic, but i KNOW i am beautiful and smart. People often tell me i am both, so i guess i just believed it too.
- i feel out of touch with society. Sometimes, although i WOULD NOT EVER act on them, i actually SOMETIMES have homicidal thoughts..... That sounds so bad, but i am being completely honest, though

I am so sorry for the length
I just wrote anything that came to mind
How would you diagnose me... Depression? I am not sure and i am confused
Thank you so much for any help

PS i am sorry for any grammatical errors... I'm on my iphone :)
My question is... Do i have sone

The correct term is: you are completely sane and fine (well, as far as fine goes with what you are telling me) Of course, I'm not a doctor but you have explained a lot about my situation as well.
I have what is called manic depression. It's sort of like bipolar disorder, but to me it's a lot worse because you have more depressed days than you do happy days. But when you have happy days, it's even worse because you feel high and completely out of control of your body. It's awful. Anyways, you may have that. But i would tell your family that you need to speak with a counselor. I know it sounds awful, and it is, but it'll be nice to release some of your frustrations out on a complete stranger that isn't fazed by anything because they've seen everything, pretty much....
Of course, it'll probably result in pills, and if you can, avoid them and just try therapy (they aren't fun, the pills I mean, but they aren't deadly). If you do get on pills, don't worry, you won't be on them forever.
There is also the possibility that you are just going through that teenager phase where you don't feel like you belong, but you still should be treated so you don't get any worse. It isn't fun, but it'll help you some way.
I hope i didn't frighten you too much, I'm really just being honest because I don't want you to get any false information. If you want to talk to me ever about what it's like, I can help you, talk to you and stuff. :)
You can find my email on my advice column. :)
Good luck! I hope you'll email me, if not, I wish you the best!
xxxx.

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I found some blood about 5 days ago, but nothing else so now I'm kind of worried please help!!!!

Give it a month. When you get your period you will feel a little pressure in your lower stomach, where you normally get your cramps. You will also have brown blood on your pants if you are getting ready to start.
If it's your first time, usually it doesn't last very long until a few months later.
Just be patient, everything will straighten out within a few months.

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im 14 male and lately ive started to masturbate quite a lot it feels too good to stop sometimes i masturbate 4 times a day is that normal?
My penis is almost 5 inches long is that an ok size?

Hi :)
Yes, masturbating that much can be normal. Some people masturbate on a regular basis, while others only do it about one every few days.
I recommend giving yourself a break every few days because too much masturbation can wear you down a lot. And yes, five inches long is the perfect size at 14.
Good luck!

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i have had sex with 4 guys in my life.

never ever has it ever felt remotly good.

why is this? and how do i change this?

im a female.

not just about orgasming just feelign food in gerneal!

You may have a blockage in your mind or maybe no feeling down there because of something that happened in the past. I say you go see a doctor and make sure it isn't health related. Other than that, like the previous person said, you may just not like sex. Which usually most people feel something while sex, whether it is pain or feeling good.

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My girlfriend and i have been togther 8 months im 17 shes 16 were both virgins we been taking things slowly weve talked about sex but im still nervous i have a small penis im not sure if i will be any good or be able to please her i want to make it good what can i do? will i be able to please her?

I'm sure you will. If you are that nervous just talk to her about things that are bothering you. I'm sure you aren't that small, but if you are, and she truly loves you, then she won't care. The things that make it bad is nerves, so just calm down and go with your instincts. The first time isn't meant to be perfect, just practice with her and I'm sure you will get better every time. I can't really tell you what to do, because different things pleases different girls, but sex and making out is sort of like an instinct to humans. You just do it, whether it is good or bad. And she will still like you. :) so just talk to her about it. And i'm sure you will be able to please her all the time because she will understand.

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My boyfriend and i have started having sex we are 16 we were both virgins and my boyfriend has a little trouble getting an erection i give him handjobs and it takes a while to get him hard and when we have sex his penis goes soft after a few minutes and i cant get him hard again hes a bit embarrased about it what can we do to get him to last longer?

Well the problem probably lies with him. Usually people go soft when they think about things that they don't like. His mind is probably wandering. Maybe he is a little insecure about himself and that tends to be a problem with erections. Talk to him about it openly and tell him it isn't anything to be embarassed about. :)

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I have a severe physical condition that causes my joints to dislocate very frequently (between 5 and 50 times a day depending on the joint). This causes me a hell of a lot of pain, as you can imagine. I was on morphine for 2 years to deal with the pain but with pain management therapy I learnt to deal with it. I also have severe depression that's worse in Autumn and Winter, as is the pain. Back in March, I started to make myself sick to lose weight. I know I wasn't (am not) fat but I love the control over my weight. I can't control my joints but I can control that scale dropping a point.
I know it's stupid, I know it's not going to help, I know I'm making myself unhealthy but I really can't seem to care. I'm concerned that this is the way I've learnt to deal with my pain, by not caring about my body and I'm scared that I won't be able to get better because I don't know how to learn to care about my body again, and if I do, I won't be able to cope with the pain.
I'm seeing a psychotherapist, I'm having mental health workers come to my house every few days, I'm taking my antidepressants, I'm trying to keep myself busy to stop myself dwelling on things. I'm trying not to make myself sick.
I just really can't see any possibility of me getting better seeing as I've got all the help available to me and it's not working, and even if I get better this time, I'm only going to get ill again next Autumn. I'm really really struggling to see the point in bothering any more.
I've been suicidal before and it's never really had a reason or thought process behind it. Now I have a thought process that says "I don't think the plus sides of being alive (friends, hobbies) outweigh the negatives (pain, depression) and while I know my family would be upset if I killed myself, I think they would understand"
Please tell me why that's not right.

Your sucidial thought is not right because your family wouldn't understand. They love you very much and you there makes them happy. I may not know you, but i can tell you are a great person.
The most important thing to have, and I know it is going to be absolutely hard, but you need to have faith, love, hope and healing. If you have 3 out of 4 of those things....you will make it. I have sever depression (and bipolar disorder) so i can understand where you are coming from. It is hard to do things, but if you push yourself forward, you will be rewarded someday.
Much

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i'm 18 and still a virgin. i'm definetly not ashamed of it, actually i'm kinda proud. its not like i'm ugly, actually alot of people are surprised or don't believe me that i'm still a virgin i just refuse to give my virginity to someone who doesn't deserve it and i haven't met anyone worth giving it to yet (i know i'm old fashioned but whatever). i've had a few boyfriends and definetly many opportunities but i just didn't want to. but i feel like everyone my age and even a little younger has had sex. when i hang out with certain friends thats all they talk about. i mean somethings i can contribute because i've done everything else except actual intercourse. but i just feel like i'm alone. is there anyone out there my age virgins?

Yes, there are still people out there that are older and are virgins. I know people that are still virgins at 23, because they wait until marriage. Just don't let your friends' talk discourage you and never feel like your being pressured into something.
You are not alone.
xx

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Last time i had sex for the first time with my boyfriend of 2 years. It was great and we used condoms (i'm not on the pill yet) and it didn't rip. It hurt at first and then it was okay...but i feel so weird now. I feel like i'm pregnant and i'm stressing over it. I'm so scared. Is there any way to find out NOW? Its only been a day

Yes there are some birth tests that you can have a test 24 hours after you have had sex. You are probably just stressing out because your fear is that you will get pregnant. You can't really tell if your pregnant a day after you've had sex, it usually takes a days.
xx

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