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Do men really care what it looks like "down there"? I'm afraid to have sex because I feel like he will see all the little flaws down there like razor bumps and be grossed out or something. I guess what I really want o know is whether men really carre what it looks like down there. What do most men prefer it too look like?
Btw I'm 17 (link)
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I know I'm not a guy but I feel like I can help you with this because I went through the same issue. I was always so self conscious of myself especially when it came to sex or being intimate with a guy. Whenever a guy tried to go down my pants I would automatically push them away because I didn't want them to feel or see what was down there. Finally one night I was with this guy. Things seemed so comfortable and we started making out and he took off my pants, and then we fore-played, and then had sex. To be honest, he didn't even look down there. He was too focused on me instead of my body. When your actually having sex, you get so into it that you don't even think "what's he going to think about my flaws" because he doesn't notice them!! He isn't staring at your vagina, he isn't looking for your flaws, he is too focused on YOU. As long as you shave, trust me he won't care. I always thought "I have to be baby smooth down there or he will be grossed out." Then one night I hadn't shaved for a couple days and I was thinking oh my gosh he's going to be grossed out. He didn't say anything, he obviously enjoyed it. Even after having sex, I was still naked and started walking around because after being so intimate and close with someone while having sex, you feel like they just know, you. You can feel comfortable around them because you have that connection. Please don't let this stop you from being intimate with a guy. TRUST ME, they won't even notice :) If you have any other questions, please ask!
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So I'm still a virgin and it's kind of a big deal.
So, out of curiosity I was wondering when did you lose your virginity (what age you were) and how did it happen?
Give details please, not on the actual sex but on how it happened. For example, don't just say 'with my first boyfriend' or 'at a house party', say exactly how it happened.
And if you're still a virgin, would you please say so too and say your age and how you feel about losing your virginity? For example, do you think you're ready to? Do you want to? Why do you want to or why do you want to wait? Do you feel pressured?
Thanks, x (link)
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i love this question :) i'm 18 from Minnesota. female. still a virgin, yay! honestly, i love the reaction i get when asked how many times i've had sex and i say i'm still a virgin. people don't believe me, because of the way i look. you could say i'm the popular girl at school, but who cares! just because people expect me to be experienced doesn't mean i'm going to do something i'm not ready for. i've thought about doing it, a couple times, with the same guy. it never happened. i do love him, we're best friends, i can trust him with my life, but i still have my doubts. when i have sex, i don't want ANY doubts that it's the right guy. even though i don't think i'd regret doing it with my best friend because he's someone i can trust with everything i have, he's not the one i'm IN love with. he's not the one i can look at and say "that's him, hands down" if i'm doubting, there's NO doubt i'm not ready, and i'm fine with that. it gets really annoying when everyone starts talking about having sex with their boyfriend or girlfriend and then they look at me and say haha you wouldn't know! i'm on birth control, to regulate my period so it's nice knowing that when i do have sex i'll be protected. of course i'll make him wear a condom too. people respect me that i'm still a virgin, and i love that. people tell me all the time that they look up to me, and it makes me feel good. i don't have to worry about being pregnant, about getting emotionally hurt or about having regrets. i can live my life as a teenager, as a senior in high school without all these worries. i'm not saying i'm going to wait until i get married, it may be a possibility, but i'm definately waiting for someone who i'm in love with, and who i know won't hurt me. i'm not going to just give it up right away. sometimes i feel pressured, but i don't care. i don't let it get to me, i do what I want, not what others want :)
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