The majority of women don't achieve orgasm through regular sex, surprisingly enough. Yet again, for millions of women, sex itself doesn't feel phenomenal or even nearly as great as it does for the guy since there is no direct stimulation other than g-spot stimulation, which doesn't always occur and many women never feel any pleasure from.

Over half of all women(statistics say this, I'm no one to judge) achieve their first orgasm through clitoral stimulation, and even then through masturbation.

Talk to your boyfriend about the situation and tell him how you feel. There are PLENTY of help sites online which have detailed articles on every query you may have.

There's absolutely NO reason to be scared! Relax!! =) A first orgasm can always be tricky to achieve, and women's bodies vary. Just because something works for some girl, doesn't mean it can work for you, and it definitely doesn't mean you can't achieve orgasm.

I suggest unless it's important to you that he be the donor of your first orgasm, that you master it yourself before he gets in there. He could be by your side, though if you feel more comfortable to completely let go alone, then do it alone. After all, no one knows your body better than you, and trying to get him to do it when you don't even know how alone, will only complicate and prolong matters.

Again, don't worry AT ALL. If you are worried/stressed/thinking about how long it's taking/thinking about why you aren't reaching orgasm/not letting go of inhibitions it simply WON'T happen.

I like to think this is the way of ensuring conservative stuck-ups never reach physical climax.

What you can do is start simply. Do your thing, get yourself or let him get you turned on, and go for clitoral stimulation. Start rubbing slowly, you may notice yourself getting wetter, and only increase the pace when it's pleasurable to. Don't force it or you'll just end up hurting and feeling sore. Don't do it too hard either. Work your way up to climax with constant stimulation, either mental or from your guy, but then again, whichever way works for you.

Just remember the importance of letting go. Relax and feel good. Don't worry anymore, I've a feeling you'll soon be feeling much better :) xxx

What do you mean? If you can get back to me and explain your question or be more specific it would help...

If you're talking about just age in general, well most people have a problem because being a different age to someone means you're a different type of person. If you've lived less or more, different lives and experiences, and therefore elders are often concerned about age gaps between youngsters in relationships. This is mainly because what one has come to learn about life through experience cannot compare to the naivety of the other and therefore conflict and worry will arise.

Get back to me if you feel like being less vague =]
If not, hope to have helped in some way..

If they are specific morning after pills they have very high efficacy levels. No need to worry =) Everything will be fine

Okay I think I should answer this question because the scenario sounds just a tad similar...

I used to have many insecurities with my body and still do, I always found it easier to just show body parts to strangers and flash them or sunbathe uncovered but whenever my boyfriend came near me, or someone I liked, I'd always get really really shy and want to cover up because I'd feel like he was examining me for flaws...

With strangers its different, its easy to be fine and confidant when observed from afar...I'm guessing you haven't had any previous relationships? That would explain why your not comfortable with the sexual at all but don't worry. You can start getting more comfortable with guys you like, for instance I know I have a nice body and there's no real need to cover up, but if there's the possibility of a guy I like finding a flaw with me I keep hidden because when you like someone you don't want to do anything that could jeopardise what they may think of you physically.

I know how you feel. The important thing to do is remember that the guy will most probably already like you and his opinion of you will be affected more negatively if he thinks you are one of those obsessive girls when he probably sees nothing wrong with your body. Try to think, are there any actual flaws or reasons you're paranoid about not being comfortable? Probably nothing that can't be fixed...

The next step is to do the hard thing and take a risk. You know the guy isn't going to revolt back in horror if you moon him so you've really got nothing to worry about. Im not trying to force you to do something you're not comfortable with but if your anything like me you'll want to do it..

At first it might feel really really awkward but don't worry! Just give that extra confidence a go once and you won't regret it =]. Once you start being more open it will come naturally.

And I have to say this or all the self righteous feminists will gang up on me -- remember that your body is yours and sacred and that no one can force you to do anything you don't want to do with it. So hopefully I won't have to ever clean my room again...

Don't be to hard on yourself =] Just try to understand whats holding you back from relaxing and if there's no real reason... you have to just take the plunge once in a while and do the daring thing. That is after all, why it is the daring thing...

Hope to have helped :)

Don't worry too much. How far into your cycle are you? It is extremely unlikely you are pregnant but speaking from recent experience make sure you try to avoid any sort of contact at all with his cum and your vagina

Again, it will ease your worry if you are close to getting your period since you will soon know everything's fine. Honestly from your answer the chances of being pregnant are next to nothing and I've been through the same so just try to relax :]

Let me know how things go and if anything causes you more worry just tell me about it and I'll be happy to help

hahah well this is a fun question :]

Erm well generally in a threesome all three people are involved doing things to each other, therefore in this case the girl would be doing things to both guys and both guys would be doing things to the girl as well as to each other. If you want to know details... well they'd give oral to the girl in turns probably depending on how the threesome goes, then intercourse could start between two people while the spare is orally pleasuring the other guy or something like that... basically threesomes are the place to let sexual imagination run wild and free...

Basically the ingredients for a threesome are 3 very sexually willing and open people =]

Threesomes sound fun dont you think? But I wouldn't like having one with my bf and another girl...

The chances of you being pregnant are very slim. Ovulation typically starts mid-way in the cycle, and you are least likely to get pregnant just before or just after your period. However, I would advise you to use some form of birth control, e.g. condoms in future.

You didnt mention what day you started feeling irritation. If it was just after your period it is probably just excess blood coming out from your cycle after sex. However, I strongly advise you to see a doctor about this irritation. It may be curable by a simple vaginal cream, but a doctor will give you a prescription just in case you have an infection. Don't be scared! Act soon, but remember not to worry... these cases are quite common.

The decision as to whether or not to swallow is yours and yours alone. In the spirit of true intimacy, you ought to at least try it a time or two to see if you can get used to it, but at the end of the day, only you can decide what works for you. Make sure you communicate to your partner about the subject, though, so that he understands why you've made the decisions you have. If he cannot accept your decision on the matter, and/or tries to force you to swallow it, it might be a good idea to find another partner. If he cannot accept your decision, then this shows a lack of respect for you, and this is never a good thing.

The key to learning to swallow efficiently is, as with anything else, practice. If you're new to giving head in general, or swallowing specifically, just keep practicing until you get the hang of it. Part of building the intimacy that comes with having a sexual relationship is the trust that builds between the two of you, and going through this kind of learning experience is an excellent manifestation of that process.

I would try this site to see where I got my advice from:

http://www.caitlainscorner.com/content/view/305/55/

Hope to help!

It depends on the guy and the girl. Fingering can mean just stroking around your c-spot and occasionally passing over the hole, or it can mean inserting the finger into the actual hole. If you've never done it before, there's nothing to be worried about. It doesnt hurt most people, but some virgins may complain that it hurts a little when he goes down too deep. If this is the case, make sure they guy knows what you like and what you don't like and he'll respond.
But on the whole, you have nothing to worry about. Of course its very popular because more pleasure comes out of it than pain! =)

Hope to have helped!

Dont worry. Its very common to forget. TSS is REALLY rare, and you would have already shown some symptoms... headache, coughing vomiting, fever etc. My mum forgot it for 3 DAYS when she was young. Thats not a freaky way of hiding the fact that I forgot it that long. It really was my mum. And shes perfectly fine... even though sometimes I think shes crazy :P

I'm in my second year of junior college, I'm taking English, pure maths, philosophy A, sociology, french and biology intermediate. There's not much about me I can write here, but I'll probably still end up writing things anyway..basically i just really like nice, non-judgmental people who have a sense of humour.

Im really optimistic, inspired, ambitious, dreamy, crazy, and unpredictable. I try to be non-judgmental, Im v.v open minded, sometimes can be a bit stubborn though. I love being passionate about things and certain people, having really close loving relationships.. living life to the full. I despise authority, believe in nature, adore music, love animals, nonconformist in every sense, unorganised, love adventure. Having fun with friends, playing games like we used to, having long meaningful conversations, building relationships, being able to feel free, being myself... Listening to music when I travel, enjoying nature.. hope to do something I love in the future.. mainly study psychology, maybe journalism, I would really love to do voluntary work in different countries. I really love travelling and..well, I write... Dont know what else to say (=.. ermm hope you're doing swell

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