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ive been pretty depressed for a while... i got my first bf in feb. 2014 and we broke up last week. also my frinds started fighting and hating eachother. i lost my only 5 frinds that i had made since 1rst grade. i started getting bad grades on my report cards and im getting made fun of for it. im just 10 years old but i cut myself and hav suicidal thoughts... please give me advice. (link)
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Do you have a parent or older sibling you can tell about the cutting? Or Perhaps a school counselor?
I'm very sorry that you're hurting sweet heart. I promise things will get better. Once you start dating more and more, you will realize that most relationships wont work out. Dating is a series of failed relationships. Eventually you will find one that doesn't fail. But that person is usually not your first boyfriend. At the end of the day it doesn't matter if you broke up with him or he broke up with you. In your life you will experience both and no one really keeps track anyway. The important thing is that you tried. It's a very brave thing to do at ten years old. If you think it's a little too much, then wait a few years before having a bf again. You have plenty of time to date. Jr high, high school and college will be filled with lots of dating experiences. So don't rush anything, if a bf brings too much drama in your life then give it a rest for a few years. I know it hurts but trust me it will pass.
Over the time you're in school, you will make and loose many friends. The ones that are true, will stick with you for ever. I am 27 years old now, and I am only close with one friend from first grade still. I have about five friends from high school i'm still in touch with and a lot of friends from college!!! This isn't the end of the world, you will make new friends TRUST ME. Kids can be very harsh and mean and immature. I"m sorry that you are hurting and believe me people get more compassionate and nicer as they age.
Your grades are your own private business. You don't have to tell anyone what they are. If the kids ask you and pressure you to tell or show them, tell them your parent's said you can't. Tell them they we're so mean to you about it last time that your parents said you can never share your grades with anyone else EVER AGAIN! I know they're picking on you and it's awful! Trust me, there is nothing wrong with you. Everyone gets bad grades at some point in life. Just try to stay focused and do the best you can and things will get better.
check this video out, or google 'bullying it gets better'
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DV4EmSviDfQ
The most important thing is that you get some support! Like I said do you have someone to talk to? A parent a sibling a counselor or someone from church? You are beautiful and perfect and should not feel this way. Reach out and get some help. Tell one of your siblings you are thinking about suicide and hurting yourself. I DOESN"T HAVE TO BE THIS WAY AND YOU SHOULD NOT BE GOING THROUGH THIS ALONE. Reach out for help and ignore all the A** hole kids in your class.
I'm totally on your side. Stay strong and remember that it gets better!!!
Good luck honey
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Personally, I have been very miserable all of my life. I have suffered from OCD as long as I can remember. I moved from New York to Florida when I was five years old. It was very traumatic for me. I have tried to commit suicide, but I just ended up in a mental institution. I do see a psychiatrist, but she does not help me. In fact, I only see her for the medication. I am absolutely miserable right now, especially with my job. I decided that I will no longer give any types of hints about suicide because I don't want to end up in a mental institution again. That did nothing to help me. I am going through preparations (getting my house ready, cleaning, trying to pay off bills). (link)
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I don't see any question in this? I read it several times and all I can draw is that you would like my reflection/opinion about your life? When you say you are "going through preparations," do you mean suicidal preparations?
So weather you were asking for it or not here is my opinion. DEPRESSION/MENTAL ILLNESS IS FUCKING HARD! I'm sorry you're suffering. There is no single fix for any one person, everyone is different. What you are doing now is NOT your solution, you need to keep looking. If your meds are antidepressants, you either need to tell your psychiatrist or find a new one. You should NEVER experience suicidal thoughts on an antidepressant. If you are, THIS IS NOT THE DRUG FOR YOU. You need to tell someone and try a different med. A suicidal thoughts on an anti depressant means you are experiencing a bad reaction to this drug. For one reason or another your body is rejecting it. Bad reactions can be accompanied with all sorts of bad side effects from temporary psychosis to rapid or violent mood swings and weight gain or loss. You need to switch and try something else because what you're doing is not working! If your doctor does not see that, this is not the doctor for you! SERIOUSLY, he/she is not doing their job. Find a new one, and perhaps solicit the help of a therapist who can't prescribe you meds. Therapists tend to be a bit more personable. Just like doctors you have to find one that works for you, but they can be beneficial in ways that doctors/psychiatrists can't for many people. It's very obvious if your therapist is not someone for you. Do you feel like you can actually be honest around them and not receive judgment? If the answer is no, its not the right therapist. A therapist also cannot demand you get institutionalized. They are not a medical doctor. They can help you get institutionalized, IF YOU TELL THEM YOU WANT IT, but they can't prescribe it.
You deserve to know what the good parts of life feel like. I'm sorry our system has failed you this far. It is flawed and imperfect just like us. If you choose to keep searching and not give up, you can help our system get better. If you find your way, maybe all the other people like you, will have an easer time finding theirs? If you can't do it for you, can you do it for them? It sounds like you have nothing to loose and can't get much lower anyway so you might as well try. This is a Ted talk by Andrew Solomon. He talks through the darkest times of his life, much like what your experiencing now, I hope you watch it.
http://www.ted.com/talks/andrew_solomon_depression_the_secret_we_share#t-2562
If this speaks to you, search his name on Ted.com, he has more good stuff on there.
This is a combination of speakers that have all been on the roller coaster to Hell with mental illness. This is here so you know, you're not alone.
http://www.ted.com/playlists/175/the_struggle_of_mental_health
You seem like a good person, you seem like a thoughtful person. I hope you can experience some reciprocity and belonging in this world. It's a big complicated world and things take time. I hope you choose to keep searching and learning. You're already here anyway, don't you think you might as well try?
I'm sorry your childhood was traumatizing. I'm sorry your job is miserable for you. Life is long, and thats good because growth is a slow and winding process. It's also limitless, you will never stop learning if you foster your interests. May you allow yourself to be interested, my friend :)
Good luck honey, I hope this is what you needed.
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I am 20 years old girl.2 years ago I met a boy (23 years) on facebook.He was from the another city of my country.I never add unknown people. Actually I was searching someone from his company. And I sent friend request to him. But after chatting I came to know that he was not the one. I decided to remove him. But from his old status I came to know that he lost his mother last year. I really felt bad. And decided not to remove him. We became friends. We used to chat for long time. He shared a lot of things with me so did I. He was a nice boy. He cared for me. I forgot to take my medicine. He asked me everyday that I took my medicine or not. He asked my opinion about his business card. I mean he gave me priorities. But after 2 months don't know what happened he started to change. He didn't reply me back like before. I didn't ask why. And I started to realize that I like him. I felt bad about it that how I fall in love with someone on internet. I decided to move on and not to talk to him anymore. But that time it seemed very difficult to me. I decided to remove him. One night I knocked him and told him something about my family and then told him that I am going to remove him. He said please tell me the reason. I told him and removed him.but still I used to message him and he replaid me. That time I came to know from other source that he hided things from me. He didn't told me that his father got married few days ago. He told me that he had a girlfriend for one year but he never loved her. But I came to know that after that he also had a girlfriend almost for 3 years. But he didn't tell me anything about it. After one months I added him again. He accepted friend request and talked to me like nothing happened. Everything became normal again. I gave him my number. We started to chat on whatsapp. Almost like before. It was my birthday. I asked for gift. He asked what I want. I told as your wish. He told me to ask for something. I told him that you won't be able to give me. He asked me what. I didn't want to tell him. But he forced me and requested me to tell what I want. I told him that I liked him seriously and I really wanted to spent my life with him. He told me that we didn't meet each other ever so we shouldn't think about it. One night I asked him,won't you ever love me?He said "you are a very silly girl,stop this childish,it will be good for you and relationship are really trouble thing for me". On reply I said I will wait for you because I am unable to love anyone else.He didn't say anything.One day I called him and we talked for the first time. That day he told me about his father marriage. We talked for 20 minutes. And he was nice. After that we used to talk. His birthday was coming I decided to send him a gift. I asked for his address but he refused to give it to me. But I knew his addressed already so I sent the gift. And he accepted it(There was his another female friend. She also liked him. She also send him gift but he didn't accept it.I came to know from someone.) And on his birthday he called me and said that I am crazy. But he was happy.Every thing was going well. One day I knocked him on whatsapp and after sometime he replaid. Like he always does. But I felt something is wrong. Don't know why!!! But my mind telling me that something is wrong. I felt that he was not replying me. Someone else was doing it. And the person talked to me little rudely. I knew that he couldn't talk to me like that. I end the conversation. I was so upset that he allowed someone to reply me by his phone. After 7 days I knocked him and asked about the matter. He told that it wasn't he. I asked who it was. He told it was his colleague. But he didn't tell the name. I got very angry. He tried to explain me that it wasn't intentional. But I didn't pay any heed to his talk. I asked him how could he allowed someone to message me. He said that his colleague borrowed his phone for some work and I knocked that time and she replaid. She also deleted the message but told him what she wrote. And she did it for fun. I was so angry. I shouted at him. And told him not to contact me ever. At last he also got angry and told me that I was just a facebook friend to him nothing else and he never thought about me.
After that I found out the girls name. She is 1 year older than him. She also proposed him. But he said no. I contacted him again almost after 3 months. He also did. One day he called me we talked for so long. And the next day the girl tried to commit suicide and admited into hospital but he didn't even go to see her. When I heard about it I really felt bad.I come to know that the girl is back in his life.They talk to each other.But they are just friend. He never tells me anything about it ever. I found it out from another source. I also ask him that if he has any problem to talk to me he can tell me directly I won't contact him again. But he says he has no problem to talk to me.
We don't talk like before.He never knocks me. I don't knock him much. I still have that feelings for him. I still like him. But it doesn't hurt me anymore. I am doing okay in my life. I call him sometimes(like once in a month/months) . And he talk to me nicely like before we used to talk. I wonder he still remembers little things about me. I talk to him like a friend. I never talk about my feelings and all this. But last time when we talked he asked me,do I have a boyfriend now? I said,no. He asked,why? On my mind I was telling,because I told you that I will wait for you. But i didn't tell him that. I told him that you know the answer but may be you don't remember it.I was a little angry.
Should I move on?Should I cut contact with him?
And yes I always feel that he has some feelings for me. May be its not love,but its special.Did/does he have?I accept the fact that he would never love me. But I still love him. And I am okay with that.
Tell me what to do now? (link)
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Love is a two way road. Sometimes you think your experiencing it with someone that does not love you back but that is NOT love it's only lust. love feels reciprocal, you give to someone and they give back. So you probably don't love this guy your just young, a little obsessed with him and confused about your feelings. There are many great people in the world. I suggest you meet other men, try to go on dates and experience dating. That is what your 20's are for. Your missing out on a great part of your life that will pass eventually and you'll never get back again! Go!! Enjoy your youth! If you are meant to be with this guy (and he is going to love you back someday) then it will happen when it's supposed to happen. You don't need to deprive yourself of one of the most exciting times in your life waiting for it. Go and date people. Learn about relationships and learn about men.
I don't know where you live, or if it's easy to date, but maybe you should try online dating? Be sure if you decide to date anyone you meet on line you do the fallowing for safety.
1. tell people you know and trust like family or close friends where your going to be.
2. meet them in a public place like cafe, cinema, or restaurant.
3. Don't let them pick you up from home.
4. make sure you have chatted enough on line and on the phone that you feel you can trust them.
5. At least at the beginning, stick to dating people close to your age.
I think the reason you're having a hard time relating to this guy you met on facebook is the fact that he is a bit older and more experienced about relationships. To him stating that you love someone you have never seen in person or spent any time with is a bit unrealistic. It shows that your rather inexperienced and don't have the best judgment when it comes to interpersonal relationships.
So put this guy on the "friend list," and try dating some people that are a bit closer to you in terms of experience and age. You might date a few people and really fall in love and look back and think you were foolish for thinking you loved this guy. You might date people and keep him as a good friend and years down the road you might be together. You never know where life will take you or what it will show you. But you should never sit at home waiting for someone that does not love you back! The world is too big and there are too many great people out there just waiting to love you, the way you deserve to be loved! So go find them girl, you can do it!! Find someone that loves you back. I can tell you're very passionate, you seem like a beautiful person inside and out. Give your love to someone that loves you back, you deserve it!
You're young, don't "accept" that someone wont love you! That is unnecessary. You deserve to be loved!! This guy sounds like he doesn't deserve you. Or because you have exhibited some youthful bad judgment he thinks your too young and crazy. So either way now is not the time sister. Stop waisting your 20's and get out there and date. Experience being adored by a man, it's absolutely delightful, I highly recommend it. I also know you deserve it --
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will god forgive me and will I still go to heaven when I follow through with what I'm about to do. I figure if I'm going to loose everything I'm going to loose it on my terms. I am going to jail for driving under suspennsion and I,m on disability and I'll loose everything I'm already living my life in a wheelchair from a motorcycle accident. I already have my mind made up (link)
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I think a better question is will you forgive yourself? Will your friends and family and people that love you be able to forgive you? Life is long and you will have many different high and low points but you don't know that you'll get another chance. Can you forgive yourself if you choose to throw your experience away like that? If you choose to hurt everyone that cares so much about you?
Hard things happen to everyone and we are all in this together. Driving under suspension is not a major crime and you probably wont get that much jail time. If you go to jail think about how you want to use that time? Some of the greatest writers in the world got their best stories in Jail. For many people it can be an opportunity to turn your life around if you don't like the way it's going. Yes it's a harsh environment in there, but your going to be housed and fed and have time to reflect on your life. What is it that you don't like? Are there things you would like to be doing differently? Do you have connections in your life that you can reach out to? Are there people/ places you can go for support?
It sounds to me like you need to take some time and let yourself heal. I don't know if your wheelchair is a permanent or temporary circumstance but it sounds like you could use a little healing, adjusting and accepting. Remember just because times are hard it doesn't mean your experience is not valid. Suffering is part of life, it's human and it builds character and makes us who we are. Some of the greatest films of all time are about struggling through hard times. Billions upon billions of people relate to these stories all over the world. You are not alone my friend. The world may look different fro a wheel chair but difference is not always bad. Your experience is unique, your life matters. Even when it's hard and you feel like giving up, know that you are beautiful and your life matters.
If it's any consolation I am interested in hearing your story. I hope you stick around to tell it or at least to live it. May you stay with us my friend. In or out of jail all is never lost this is just one small piece of your journey.
Good Luck honey.
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How to increase the length of my penis.I am 20yrs old. (link)
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I'm not completely sure that such a thing is possible. But maybe these tips can help.
Shave or trim your pubic hair, this will usually make it look longer.
I do know that your penis is a muscle. If you have not figured it out yet, there is a muscle called your Kegel that when activated, will actually allow you to flex your penis. I heard that strengthening your muscle and using it often will help it increase your size. Maybe try flexing your penis while you masturbate?
Once again these are just ideas I really don't know because I do not have a penis.
Good luck honey
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what is handjob? (link)
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A hand job can be a type of masturbation or partnered sex. Basically it's just using a hand on a man's penis for sexual pleasure. It can result in ejaculation or orgasm. It can be performed on a man by himself in which case it's masturbation or it can be performed on a man by his partner.
:)
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I have been planning this for a while but there is just one problem... I dont know how to do it quick and permanet...If your lost then what im trying to say is ... I want to kill myself today and I need a suggestion on how to kill myself quick and permanet. (link)
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Believe life gets better and drop this. You really don't want to kill yourself or you would have never asked advice on how to do it. I promise it gets better. I don't know how old you are or why your so unhappy but i promise you, you are thinking of making a HUGE MISTAKE!
Your going to hurt a lot of people that love you and give away an amazing chance to grow and discover the world. Part of you knows that you want to live. Thats the part that asked you to "get advice on suicide." Maybe it just wanted advice because your in a place where your not thinking clearly right now. So I am going to help you.
Life is not about being the best or worse, winning or loosing or even knowing what the hell your doing. We're all lost and were all confused most of the time. Society just asks that we all have good poker faces. But seriously I have no idea WTF i'm doing either. We all make really bad mistakes and have horrible things that happen to us and were all in it together. It may be a twisted and fucked up gift but trust me honey life is a gift. I don't mean it in a religious sense i'm not a religious person. Life is for living through thick and thin and learning.
Trust me even the hard and discouraging things are a beautiful necessary part of the experience. Where would Tim Burton, Vincent Van gough, Quentin Tarantino, Salvador Dali and most every amazing artist that has effected man kind be if they didn't experience the hard ship of the world?
Suffering is just part of it sometimes so please hang in there and don't leave us. We're all in this together i promise it's hard for everyone at times. Just like two sides of a magnet for all the negative force there is positive force also. You deserve to experience both so don't give up now.
Good Luck Honey I hope you do the right thing
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